Don't be that guy...
I was speaking to one of my ATF the other day and she seemed disappointed about the lack of energy from the crowd. (Mind you she is a real entertainer on stage.) And I have to agree as well. I've seen more energy at a library. I find this really kills the vibe. I come to strip bars to have a beer and enjoy some naked women like 99% of the guys here on TUSCL. What fun is it if everyone is just sitting on their phones & just sitting like zombies? I'll tip each performer after their set. But you don't even have to tip ffs a simple clap or whistle after each song shows some appreciation for the dancer. They are putting on a show for us. So what is it with some of us guys that are just so godamn boring? Show some appreciation for the dancer and I'm sure it will be reciprocated. To put some context here the location is Toronto but I've experienced the same story at other clubs too.
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She must be a good hustler if she got into your mind enough for you to make this post. You're like her marketing mouthpiece now. WRAPPED AROUND HER FINGER YOU ARE.
I'm not talking about guys who are in the VIP but the ones in the audience. Why sit in pervs row if you want to read your book or ping pong text?
Think about when you go to a party and everyone is on their phones in the corner somewhere and not making any noise. Would you find that fun? But yeah I guess I just miss those days.
i kinda look at the stage performance as an audition for a lap dance. then that lapdance is usually an audition for vip.
I show my appreciation by tipping and getting private dances. I've had several dancers complain about poor tips and guys too cheap to get a private dance. Never once has a dancer complained to me about the lack of clapping.
That's what you do when you watch a lecture, speech, performance, etc. And if you can't do that at least look like you wanna be there. It feels awkward when everyone is silent. Oh yeah I'm talking about night crowds. Because the day crowd is often dead to begin with.
Anyways I think the majority of the people here are missing my point. I'm not saying you have to bend over backwards but the crowd is half of the fun in the club. a bad crowd is worse than no crowd. It's sad to see this art form lose its lustre. But I get it most people are just lazy nowadays. Lol
The $$ tipping is spot on, but the clapping and whistling is about as pathetic as one can get to show how juvenile and cheap one can be.
Have you considered she is telling you what she thinks you want to hear? Ask a few more what they think
Jim, I'm not entirely sure we're missing your point, I'm just not sure everyone agrees with you. For myself, I feel like if I sit at the stage, I tip, give the stripper 100% of my attention, and clap when she's done. Anywhere else, I really feel like I have no obligation at all to whoever is on the stage... 95% of the time I have a stripper with me at my table, in which case, she gets all my attention, I don't pay attention to the stage at all, half the time I don't even realize when the stage dancer is done... and that's the way it should be. In the rare times I DON'T already have a stripper at my table, sometimes I'll clap when a stage set is over; sometimes, it suits me better to use my rare alone-time to check my texts, or text my CF to tell her to get her ass out :)
Anyway, I don't think it's unreasonable to say, "hey, if you're watching the stage, and otherwise sitting around doing nothing, consider clapping when a stage set finishes". But the dramatic title of this thread "don't be that guy" makes it sound like you think it's practically an ethical imperative, and it's just not.. further, remember that we're all there at the club for different reasons; it may bother you that no one is clapping after stage sets, but I couldn't care less, I'm not remotely there for "stage energy"
Yes of course there are instances when you wouldn't pay attention to the dancer like if someone was already talking to you or if you were in the VIP, etc. But I'm not talking about those guys. I'm talking about the ones who specifically go in and look/act like they don't want to be there. The worst is when they directly go and sit at the pervs row and stare in a creepy manner as if they never saw a pussy before. Hey if you're gonna be a creep at least tip lol. It doesn't make any sense to me and I feel it gives us guys a bad rep. I find a clap can go a long way if a guy doesn't have a means to tip. Just like how a smile can go a long way for me and a lot of guys. I always show appreciation outside the club too. For example, I will greet the cashier with a smile and always thank them and wish them a good day. Or simply writing thank you notes to those who helped me.(whether it's work related or personal) I'm just saying the most one can do is the least...
Most of us do tip, if we are paying attention to the stage. So you are actually preaching to the choir here. Many are experienced SC hounds.
I myself actually appreciate a good stage show. So I was just trolling you and busting your balls over your off the top original post. You have to agree it was really over the top. ;)
You're on Tuscl. This would be like coming here to Cleveland to lecture Leron James how to play basketball. (To quote Shailynn). That's why you getting your balls busted.
I never quite get that either. The other guys I don't get: the guys who sit at the stage with this disinterested look on their face. I know exactly what's going on, they're putting on a show for all the other PLs on how this is no big deal and it's just pussy. Meanwhile, we all know they're excited and probably aroused at the tip rail, and really, no one else in the club gives a fuck if you're getting turned on, no reason for this pathetic act.
First time I saw him do that, I laughed out loud. Pissed him off. :)
Pay attention to your attributions, son. You're not replying to me