Dancer says "Not interested in OTC anymore"

10/30/2016 10:32:04 AM

I was doing OTC sessions with a dancer last year.
Then she went out of town to see family.

Saw her in the club last week after a long time.
Spent good bit of money and got lotsa love.
Broached OTC.

She says - she is tired of sex. Only with BF.
She now likes girls - had sneaked 3 encounters with different girls past few months without her BF knowledge.

Dancer was a 10 last year and last week was 9. So still top notch.
Not a hustler. Guys seek her out. So do other dancers.
Also likes to get drunk and then get's wild.

Probed a bit into "no sex with guys".
Seemed like a case of burnout. She's in school and will quit dancing as soon as she finishes school and gets a job.
Over the past 4 years I've seen lots of better looking dancers dance for 1-3 years, find another vocation and happily quit.

I'm usually the first guy to move on - but she's a lot of fun generally and especially in bed.
Also because she is 2 leagues above me - if I were to run into her in civilian world.

Have you experienced dancers who you are friendly with - and they wanna hangout but not do OTC?
Is it temporary or permanent? In other words, dancer says no to you but a week/month or so later is back in the sack.

As a guy - I've had the tits/ass/pussy burnout. But the desire has always come back. Sooner than later.
Not sure about girls - and she could be playing nice now cuz I'm spending money on her ITC.

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mrrock

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8 years ago

I can NEVER burn out on pussy!

WetWilly

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8 years ago

You nurtured this relationship into OTC, you can do it again and again with others......get to work

jackslash

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8 years ago

This dancers will never do OTC again--until she needs some quick cash.

Subraman

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8 years ago

First, you can't put any stock in "she's tired of sex". Yes, I know she sounded convincing and sincere, but the fact is, none of us are good enough to tell when a stripper is lying if she's a good hustler, especially if we're fond of her and she's standing right in front of us. The only thing you know for is: she doesn't want to do OTC with you (or maybe with anyone). And she gave you an explanation that is impersonal and neutral... you might have dropped her if it were personal ("I don't want to do OTC with you anymore") or if it burst any romantic bubble ("I'm not doing OTC because I'm devoted to my boyfriend"), but "I'm burned out" is impersonal and neutral, as if it were cleverly designed to try to keep you hooked :)

I think the smartest thing to do, assume you'll never have OTC with her again... if you think it'd be fun to hang out with her ITC, then hey, go for it. I often -- but not always -- move on once I"m sure OTC is off the table. Sometimes, there's chicks who are just great to hang out with ITC, and I'll still hang with them occasionally, although they will no longer be treated like my ATF or CF, and instead be a convenient target of opportunity on days my CF isn't there. And, if she DOES change her mind about OTC, you still have that relationship with her.

gawker

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8 years ago

There's an Asian dancer I've known for years who has always nixed OTC or any extras in the club. For awhile I thought she was loving other women more than men, but then she came up pregnant, so I guess she just has standards, which exclude PL's.

shailynn

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8 years ago

So you're saying you're a "7"???? Lol

I have never had a relationship with a stripper where sex wasn't involved. That would be new territory for me.

I also have never had a lasting relationship with a dancer who was truly bi-sexual, as it appears this one is. Maybe playing with girls is just a phase for her and she'll want sex eventually.

I understand your "pussy" burnout - I've gotten that too. Maybe to keep her around ask her to go on a "non sex date" and do something fun.

rogertex

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8 years ago

mrrock - "I can NEVER burn out on pussy!"

... mrrock - so I thought! wait till you get a series of stankin ones and you'd wanna stay away for a while.

rogertex

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8 years ago

good input wetwilly, jackslash, subra, gawker, shailynn.
I'm movin on. Will keep her on friendly terms. Will tell her big bucks reserved for girl responding to booty call.

Jascoi

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8 years ago

things can change with women. i have found that out many times as a husband and a father of three grown girls and now as a pl.

rogertex

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8 years ago

thanks justme - i've seen that too - but did not have prior experience with a hetero dancer going bisexual.
Wont burn that bridge - but will find other bridges to get me across.

shailynn

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8 years ago

Rerouted that gps! Lol

flagooner

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8 years ago

"She's in school and will quit dancing as soon as she finishes school and gets a job."

I've never heard that before.

larryfisherman

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8 years ago

To answer your question yes, I've had strippers that just want me to take them shopping instead of fucking. It is always temporary.