I'm A Stalker

Yes you are lol got no advice for you but that kind of funny. ;)

Isn't that kind of like leasing a car that's also available for rental at Enterprise?

It's driving it for free!!!!

Upright thing is to disclose to her the general trail that lead to her. But be sure to add in the same vein your attraction to her and you are ok with her escorting "business". You may also add "the secret is safe with you".

All of the above should be done if you indeed want physical relation with her. And must be stated in a relaxed setting holding her hand. Not by e-mail, txt or phone.

Anyway that's what I'd do. There's a good chance she'll take it well but be prepared for the woman to "freak out".

If the above seems too much hassle since you know a bit or two about the woman's idiosyncrasies - just go "don't ask, don't tell" and enjoy the flow.

Some dancers keep their dancing career secret. I try to respect that and if I run into one in civil life and who doesn't remember me - I don't bring it up either.

Most of us, at one time or another, meet prospective lovers through tropical fish reviews.

You hairless apes have boundary issues, don't you? Aah...yup

We turtles respect personal space. If a turtle pulls into his or her turtle shell it's like hanging out a "do not disturb" sign. Aah...yup

That attitude extends to the rest of our lives. Aah...yup

I look forward to hearing the stories that could result from your FWB relationship with this MILF. So I say go for it, but I would never mention you first noticed her on Backpage. I think she would completely freak out if you ever mentioned that.

Question, is she still turning tricks or has she stopped posting on Backpage?

Oh she still posts. She has extensive reviews on TER too. I'm not interested in a LTR; just free sex with someone I'm attracted to. I doubt she wants a LTR either.

I think its fine, you've someone connected with her and engaged, and she doesn't know that your interest started from her sex work add. I see nothing wrong with that.

SJG

I've fucked quite a few strippers with boyfriends and all of them claimed that their bf did not know about their prostitution business. So I think that's the way it's usually done because the girls are embarrassed to be known as a prostitute. I therefore would not admit that you know her job, or that you've been stalking her. You're on with her being a hooker but I doubt she would be comfortable with you knowing.

JS69 nailed it. Good luck nailing her....

Its funny, I've no problem using the toilet at LAX; but I'd never want it in my bed.

Okay, not my best analogy, but I'm hungover and drinking Moscow Mules with rum chasers.

Why would a chick that fucks for $$$ wanna fuck a dude for free & outside a relationship (unless the dude is some kind of stud) - seems more like wishful thinking/fantasizing, IMO

If they make their Facebook page public, it's out there for everyone to see if they find out their name. I think it's I interesting to see how far apart people are who view your Facebook page are especially if your settings are not public. My suggested friends list has spanned from half way around the world. I was thinking how did someone from the Western Pacific find me?

Papi: e haven't met yet so there's no guarantee she wants to fuck me.

Shark: Finding people on FB isn't THAT hard. Sometimes you have to be a bit of a sluth, like I did. If you google her # now you get links to her current and past escort adds. Buried on like page 25 was the link to the fish post that had her first initial and last name.The last name was unusual enough that there were only 20-30 hits and when I saw her profile pic it was obviously her.. She has no filters including her friend list. I'm sure she doesn't tell friends and family what her burn phone number is; she only slipped up that one time.

I'm sure some of her friends know what she does but my guess is not many. I'm not about to rat her out. But this is a good warning to sex workers to NOT even have a FB page. My CF at the club has no social media at all. Nothing. And her family has no idea what she does for a living.

Out of curiosity, how do you plan to go from "random guy who facebook friended her" to meeting up? Do some people use facebook like it was myspace and meet up with strangers that way?

ppwh: I've fuck several FB friends I met from other FB friends. It's a LOT easier than C/L in fact, but you have to take some time. You like posts of theirs that you like. Occasionally you might post a cute or witty reply. Then the first time she likes one of your posts is exciting! We're at the point of posting back and forth; like I said I have no confirmation she'll want to fuck me, but I wouldn't bet against it unless I'm the one who gets red flags (beyond what I already know).

All these dancers people post here about fucking...why would there be a double standard with the object of my future affections?

Don't listen to those above who said you should tell her you know she is an escort. Why would you do that? Nothing good can come from that. She would probably freak out and know you are a stalker.

I don't always creep girls on facebook. But when I do, I go straight to their albums and look for bikini pics.

100% she will freak out if you tell her that you hunted her down via your stalking method above. The guys who think she merely "might" freak out, but might take it well, are insane, IMO.

It may be a bit self-serving, but for me the line between creepy/stalkery and smart is significantly about intention. I have been deep backgrounding the girls I'm potentially meeting on SA, and so far I've found every one of them. I have no intentions here other than to make sure there's nothing nefarious, get their names and info to give to my buddy (we act as backup security for each other), see if their stories to me match their lives (helps me gauge where we are honesty/trust wise). I think that's nothing but smart, and wouldn't blame any of those women for trying to do the same thing to me, both to qualify me as a customer and for some security for themselves.

On the other hand, your "I joined her facebook and am interacting with her" might have drifted off into creepy/stalkery. Own it, bro, own it!

I'm all for honesty but some dirty laundry is best kept to yourself. If you want to tell her, tell her on your guys' wedding night, if at all, and if it gets that far. I just don't see the upside to telling her right now. Yes, it is creepy. What she needs to know is that you are interested in her be BEING HER. That is where courtship comes in.

Women IME don't want "brutal honesty," they want "honestly with a iron fist in a velvet glove," if that makes sense. Also a lot of guys are too self absorbed or too cowardly to be honest with women. So I appreciate you asking this post. I'm not sure if you asked out of fear of being caught or you were genuinely curious about being the right thing. Either way -- good move. It shows you are a good guy.

No I don't use FB but some people do use it (and IG) to hook-up a la MySpace.

Thanks to everyone for their thoughts. I agree with those who say don't tell her how I traced her down; I have a few good replies in case she asks. I agree with those who say brutal honesty is unnecessary and counter productive. I just want a FWB thing as I'm not interested in anything more, and from what I know she's not either. I just want to fuck a pro for free.

I can respect that.

Rockstar, post pics of puppies on her FB page. That might work

mikey: Yeah maybe! She has a pit bull. just like they all do.

No need for a convoluted back story on how you found her. Just say you were clicking through friends of friends one night when you were bored and ran across her page and thought she was drop dead gorgeous. Keep it simple. End of story.

This should do it

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seaboardrr pretty much said what I already had in mind. And thanks for the cute pit bull pic!

I actually think this whole affair is something I can handle but all the tips help. No, I won't tell her I know she's a p4p and that's kind of the point anyway. No, I'm not "in love" with her so this is more of an attempt at a hobby (FWB) than a lifetime pursuit. I just hope it turns out to be great performance art for my TUSCAL brethren as the story unfolds. Assuming it unfolds at all! LOL