I'm A Stalker
rockstar666
Illinois
I saw a MILF on Backpage that intrigued me, but I wasn't looking for an escort at the time so I didn't call her. She would post a new ad about twice a week, and she always had 1-2 new pics along with the same text so she was easy to follow. She posted a phone number that when Googled was obviously a burner phone, as did my reverse look up site indicated. BUT....with a very deep search, she bought a tropical fish a few years ago and in her review in a tropical fish site was her name. BUSTED!
I was able to find her FB page as a result, and sent her a friend request which she accepted. I then started just liking a few of her posts, and would occasionally post something in reply on her wall. Nothing sexual as her FB page is full of her family including children and teens. She's single and not dating, and is no more flaky than my actual g/f (who I'm considering replacing but that's another story). I'm not attracted to her like I am a few other women in my life but if we become FWB's I wouldn't mind except for having to have a condom budget again.
I'd love to pull this off without her knowing I know she's an escort. I wonder if we have a few dates if she'll tell me...?
So my question is: Has anyone ever dated a sex worker where she didn't know YOU knew she was one? If so, what happened?
I was able to find her FB page as a result, and sent her a friend request which she accepted. I then started just liking a few of her posts, and would occasionally post something in reply on her wall. Nothing sexual as her FB page is full of her family including children and teens. She's single and not dating, and is no more flaky than my actual g/f (who I'm considering replacing but that's another story). I'm not attracted to her like I am a few other women in my life but if we become FWB's I wouldn't mind except for having to have a condom budget again.
I'd love to pull this off without her knowing I know she's an escort. I wonder if we have a few dates if she'll tell me...?
So my question is: Has anyone ever dated a sex worker where she didn't know YOU knew she was one? If so, what happened?
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All of the above should be done if you indeed want physical relation with her. And must be stated in a relaxed setting holding her hand. Not by e-mail, txt or phone.
Anyway that's what I'd do. There's a good chance she'll take it well but be prepared for the woman to "freak out".
If the above seems too much hassle since you know a bit or two about the woman's idiosyncrasies - just go "don't ask, don't tell" and enjoy the flow.
Some dancers keep their dancing career secret. I try to respect that and if I run into one in civil life and who doesn't remember me - I don't bring it up either.
We turtles respect personal space. If a turtle pulls into his or her turtle shell it's like hanging out a "do not disturb" sign. Aah...yup
That attitude extends to the rest of our lives. Aah...yup
Question, is she still turning tricks or has she stopped posting on Backpage?
SJG
Okay, not my best analogy, but I'm hungover and drinking Moscow Mules with rum chasers.
Shark: Finding people on FB isn't THAT hard. Sometimes you have to be a bit of a sluth, like I did. If you google her # now you get links to her current and past escort adds. Buried on like page 25 was the link to the fish post that had her first initial and last name.The last name was unusual enough that there were only 20-30 hits and when I saw her profile pic it was obviously her.. She has no filters including her friend list. I'm sure she doesn't tell friends and family what her burn phone number is; she only slipped up that one time.
I'm sure some of her friends know what she does but my guess is not many. I'm not about to rat her out. But this is a good warning to sex workers to NOT even have a FB page. My CF at the club has no social media at all. Nothing. And her family has no idea what she does for a living.
All these dancers people post here about fucking...why would there be a double standard with the object of my future affections?
It may be a bit self-serving, but for me the line between creepy/stalkery and smart is significantly about intention. I have been deep backgrounding the girls I'm potentially meeting on SA, and so far I've found every one of them. I have no intentions here other than to make sure there's nothing nefarious, get their names and info to give to my buddy (we act as backup security for each other), see if their stories to me match their lives (helps me gauge where we are honesty/trust wise). I think that's nothing but smart, and wouldn't blame any of those women for trying to do the same thing to me, both to qualify me as a customer and for some security for themselves.
On the other hand, your "I joined her facebook and am interacting with her" might have drifted off into creepy/stalkery. Own it, bro, own it!
Women IME don't want "brutal honesty," they want "honestly with a iron fist in a velvet glove," if that makes sense. Also a lot of guys are too self absorbed or too cowardly to be honest with women. So I appreciate you asking this post. I'm not sure if you asked out of fear of being caught or you were genuinely curious about being the right thing. Either way -- good move. It shows you are a good guy.
No I don't use FB but some people do use it (and IG) to hook-up a la MySpace.
https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Ckhz3DrWgAAm…
I actually think this whole affair is something I can handle but all the tips help. No, I won't tell her I know she's a p4p and that's kind of the point anyway. No, I'm not "in love" with her so this is more of an attempt at a hobby (FWB) than a lifetime pursuit. I just hope it turns out to be great performance art for my TUSCAL brethren as the story unfolds. Assuming it unfolds at all! LOL