The "other " man
gawker
Older than dirt
So my ATF has never been my GF and has always been very up front with me about the other guys she's been boffing. There's one regular who has been seeing her almost as long as I (6 years). A couple of months ago we met due to his profession. It was clear he knew about me and I knew him.
A month passed and he called me to ask me to buy the ATF something on-line saying he doesn't "do computers". He gave me his credit card # and code. A few days ago he and I texted back & forth regarding her and also clarifying some lies she told us both. Well, this has continued and we've decided to meet for a drink. I don't know what to expect and yet it's a unique opportunity. Any thoughts on whether this is a stupid fucked up situation or not?
A month passed and he called me to ask me to buy the ATF something on-line saying he doesn't "do computers". He gave me his credit card # and code. A few days ago he and I texted back & forth regarding her and also clarifying some lies she told us both. Well, this has continued and we've decided to meet for a drink. I don't know what to expect and yet it's a unique opportunity. Any thoughts on whether this is a stupid fucked up situation or not?
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But hey, that's nothing new.
SJG
In all seriousness, though, I am the type who would consider the meeting just out of curiosity as to where it would lead -- knowing full well that doing so might be a fuckup. I believe some fun practical jokes on your shared ATF could be in the works as well. Then again, I'm the type who sometimes goes on a date with a woman who is showing some stop signs, just for the fun of it.
One heads up, you both will be disappointed in the ATF when you figure out all the combined lies, and I certainly would advise both of you guys to not let the ATF know about the details of your conversation.
Think of it this way - you may make a new buddy who is as adventurous as you are when it comes to women and clubbing.
Insane he gave you his CC!
[just a general comment not meant at the OP]
I'm looking forward to hearing how this turns out.
You may have similar personalities/interests and you may click and if you don't then don't meet him again but perhaps you can meet a new buddy w/ similar interests w/ whom you can swap intel.
This is truly a bizarre situation, right up there with video girl's mom wanting to date me. Objectively speaking, I think it's probably a bad idea. However, I suspect that DS I may have one other sugar daddy that she doesn't want me to know about. If I had the chance to meet him I could not resist doing so despite the drama risks.
So go for it. And please tell us how it goes. The topics for discussion seem endless.
Also, does she know about this. If not my guess is she shits her pants when she finds out. The DS certainly would.
SJG
Sounds like the making of another incredible story that most of us could never dream up in our wildest days.
As for meeting with him, didn't you say you have already met him for work? What the hell, meet up with him and swap stories.
Seriously, this guy has deep pockets and the credit card was not a prepaid card. I needed to use it for an emergency at 3:00 am the next morning for another $800 on top of the $400 originally used. I texted him the next day saying if it was a problem, I pay him back and he said don't worry about it. Then a week later he wanted me to buy 2 tickets to a sold out concert (Imagine Dragons) for the ATF and her BF. I spent another $450 and he didn't bat an eyelash. I've now destroyed the card number & code ( I think).
During my last convo with him I suggested that he consider hiring a lawyer for her. She's currently under a one year "good behavior" continuance for 2 drug possession cases, is in default on 3 charges of driving without a license, 1 DUI, and one judgement to pay $4000 after an uninsured accident. He had recently bought her a $3000 car which she registered in a friend's name. Last week she went through a stop sign, t-boned another car, got out, packed up her belongings and walked away, called her friend and had him report the car stolen. I think she'll need a lawyer.
Shadowcat - "Are you ever gunna let her go?" - probably when I'm on the other side of the grass unless I find another honey who orally pleases me the way she does. I love fucking but my real love is a wonderful blowjob. I'm sure Sigmund Freud has theories on why, but I just know my reality. I've found the perfect BJ ( for me) and I don't want to stop.
Corvus - he's in a medical profession and I brought another stripper to him for a procedure ( he gave me a radically reduced rate for her work, too)
Jackslash - I doubt if a "bromance" will arise , but who knows? What a 3-way that'd be!
Mikey - you get into your 70's you've got to find your fun where you can. Yes. I am bored silly.
SJG - your pessimism overflows. What makes you think we're "compensating" for what the ATF does? I'm not sure what that means, but it doesn't include starting a cult or having concubines serving our needs.
Your stories never disappoint but I am sitting here reading this and thinking, wow - it takes two PLs to keep tabs on this girl and to attempt to keep her out of jail. That must be one amazing piece of ass that you guys are willing to combine your funds for her, and also willing to share her.
I know your personal situation is unique, I wonder what his situation is and why he is willing to put up with this amount of bullshit as well?
I'm not knocking you at all, you just always have some very interesting situations that 90% of the guys here don't have the balls, blood pressure or patience to deal with.
BTW - all the amateurs would obviously think of a pre-paid card. C'mon ladies, a guy that 'doesn't do computers' isn't going to know the first thing about a pre-paid card, nor throwing the amount of money Gawker has mentioned... would have a care either.
About 5 years ago my ATF found that someone had broken into her locker at the club and stolen several thousand dollars worth of costumes, shoes, etc. another dancer had been fired that night for using heroin at the club. Several months later my ATF was talking with this gent and mentioned the missing clothes and the prime subject. He said, why don't you come to my house, she's living with me and my wife. She did and recovered the purloined panties. This is no scam. We go to a gentlemen's club, not a dive.
Now any guy who can co-exist with a stripper fave living with him & his wife is either psychotic or clever as hell or both. He had a favorite that he showered money on while sending the ATF $200 a week just to help her out. They'd go out to dinner occasionally but he wasn't having sex with her for about 18 months. His dancer broke up with him about 6 months ago and he started seeing my ATF pretty regularly, bought her a car ( her BF had totaled the car I bought her). I've had dalliances with his former friend and she's attractive and a real tight spinner. She told me he's crazy and obsessive but one never knows when you're on the outside looking in.
LMAO
Absolutely. Gawker I so admire your incredible devotion to a stripper who so rocks your sexual world. Your haters and mine have either never had a woman like that so they can't possibly understand what it's like, or they are little pussies who run at the first sign of trouble. Gawker had a DS before any of us knew what that term truly meant.
I am sorry about the rehab. Not surprised of course although the optimist in me did hold out some hope that this time could be different.
Of course, if good sense hasn't already led you to ditch this train wreck of a chick by now, then I don't expect that this will be the trigger. I'm guessing that you still enjoy the drama. Perhaps you also want the loss of the better part of your retirement savings to mean something. I really don't know, bot two old dudes meeting to share war stories about the SB who uses their money to support herself AND her boyfriend would feel kinda' weird to me.
In any event, good luck.
Ricky - gawkie loves the drama so just let him go, and after he's done just enjoy the story, because it's going to be a fucked up one. When most of us see something weird or out of place we close the door, gawker kicks down that door and jumps right in.
Gawker - set up an account for this guy on here so we can Q & A him! Lol
I love these stories too.
They either are true, or this guy has one incredible ability to make up the craziest stories about strippers that I've heard.
Gawker your stories are horrifying and amazing at the same time.
If you want her to be your hooker, then pay her a reasonable hourly rate, and no more. And keep the sessions moderate in duration.
Do not be involved in her affairs or with the other people she knows, until when and if she decides to straighten up.
People who want to can do incredible things, like stay up for 3 days in a row. So the bodily pains caused by withdrawal are quite livable, for one who wants to get clean.
I have found that the strongest desire to get off of alcohol, drugs, born again Christianity, and psychiatric medication is found amongst those who decide that they want to educate themselves.
Educating one's self is a way of refusing the lot in life one has been handed. It is a way of showing that one values one's self and so they are not going to be passive.
If you want a mistress, then at least until when and if this old ATF decides to clean up, you need to find another one.
SJG
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Any strip club that I've been in that has a plethora of regulars or where you're a regular has too many people (customers, bouncers,managers, bartenders, and dancers) knowing way to much about the participants and their interactions. If they aren't paying attention to where the "good money" comes from - they are not good at their job. Use a credit card - they've got your name. In their down time they chat amongst themselves, speculate about their common customers, google for the missing snippets of information, and interrogate the customer on the next go round. The OP and the dancer's "Other Significant Benefactor" do happen to be "high lighted" customers at his club, along with at least 100 more peers. And yeah, women talk and how dare you say that any woman has ever been indiscreet!!! Ha, Ha! It's what they live for in my experience, except when they are the subject of indiscretion that the conversation centers on.
Rick: I'm betting that the "beautiful rubes" that entertain you regularly in your Southern spot of choice have a playbook on you too. Your "southern club" dossier may not include all of the intricacies that are listed in the "Book of Gawker" and his Northern Neighborhood peer group, but they know more than you'd like them to know. I'm a minnow in the whales world and they track me too! I don't offer as much info freely as others, but I've been probed by the 'dabbling detective dancers" at a couple of clubs too. I am not concerned about what they specifically know about me and have not has someone show up at my residence uninvited. I've had that happen more than once with acquaintances in the workplace, which is why I'm not too forthcoming with the finer details in the hobby. Gawker's club of choice and Club Desire Providence are amazing in the in house institutional knowledge of the known "player's" at those 2 clubs, The open discussion about "player"- dancer interactions that are commonly discussed and speculated about in the bartender/customer interaction at both of those clubs are off the charts.