OT: Ever loan or just give money to your inner circle of friends ?

No!

I am a tight wad.

SJG

Im very tight as well.

What is the reasons you have for a no

The reason is that I don't think being without money is that big of a deal. So the person asking for the loan should just find some other way of dealing with the situation.

SJG

I'm a generous person not to brag though. I have given away and loaned thousands over the past 5 or 10 years. I found out though to never loan a dancer money. Especially if you want to continue with her services. They will never pay you back in cash like you loaned them. Some I have allowed to pay off in free dances (not really free but you understand what I mean) some I have just told them it was a gift and forgot about it. One ATF owes me $300 right now; she says she will give me an extra hours worth of dances at 4 X 15 minutes each. Very high milage.
Most of the time I just give them the money but if they want o pay it back I can think of creative ways for them to repay me. ; )

Giving away money does make more sense. This way the lack of repayment does not become a negative issue.

Jestrite50 is the master, undisputed.

SJG

The OP said inner circle of friends, Jestrite and SJG. Don't drift off topic like someone tripping on pot...lol

I'm tight with my inner circle of friends. Maybe this is why I don't have many such friends. Or maybe it is why I have less drama in my life.

Reading Jestrite50, sounds like he extended it to intimate partners. What he is saying about giving it away makes complete sense.

SJG

Jestrite - loaning or giving money to a dancer is one thing and totally understandable. I've committed a terrible PL error. My ATF had been in rehab for a month. The night before her release her BF called me and said that she had left her car at his house and told him not to drive it. Well, he drove it, got stopped, has a suspended license, so the car was impounded. He needed $230 for towing and impound fees. I "loaned" it to him with the stipulation that he pay me $50 every Friday for 5 weeks. The first Friday arrived and he called saying it had rained all week so he couldn't work as a roofer but would start paying the following Friday. That's now come and gone & he's not answering my calls.
Maybe this is cuz my ATF swears I've fucked her more than her BF has over the last 6 years

Cars are always an issue. These set up situations where people need money or else. These are often the reason people take out those "payday loans", according to people who have written books about that industry.

People shouldn't own cars unless they can afford them. People don't buy yachts or airplanes unless they've got serious money.

Anyway, maybe you can just consider the $230 a give to the girl. Maybe they will eventually pay you anyway.

SJG

Lending money to a friend is a great way to lose your money and your friend.

Only to close friends that I know would do the same.

I haven't loaned anyone money in several years unless it was only a dollar or two. They paid me back. I learned the hard way not to ever loan a dancer money a long long time ago. One time I did get paid back though. One dancer told me if I gave her 100 dollars that she would dance for me at half the normal price in the club forever. She kept her deal for 2 years. At that point she said she more than paid me back for all the money she borrowed from me she said. She always got so emotional around me at times. Maybe she did feel attached. She definitely gave me a GFE getting pissed off at times and at other times acting like she can't stand not being there if I'm in the club.

Juice I gotta 12-Piece of Church's Chicken and 5 scratch off lottery tickets anytime you need 'em

I've loaned money to friends and have been paid back. But I wasn't worried about it if they didn't. My friend needed help and I was willing to give it. if you can't help friends in need why have them? If I'm able to help I will.

I have two friends in my close circle that I have loaned money to. One is a deadbeat and we (my other friends) all carry his ass now and then. Luckily he's been two embarrassed to ask me for money again because he never paid me back for the last time (which was over 5 years ago). The other always pays me back. As for the rest of my friends - well they have their shit together and don't have to ask for money.

My cousins and some will ask me for a little money here and there but the only person I lend larger somes to is my best friend. She moved to Chicago for a few yrs and recently moved back because of financial problems. For the better part of a year before she moved she was always struggling and would call and ask me to wire here $500-1000, and I always did, because I know she'd do the same for me.

No. Other than my mother or my sister, I don't "lend" or give money to anyone anymore. I learned that lesson the hard way.

My take from this thread is that it is best to give the money away, and not to lend it. That way there are no hard feelings. And then if the recipient wants, they can pay it back.

Thanks to Jestrite50 for introducing this angle.

SJG

All of my friends are dancers or ex dancers. They are my inner circle of friends. I have no others in the inner circle.