Can a man ever be faithful over the long term?
I was discussing this with a stripper at a restaurant last week. She was commenting upon the fact that almost all of her customers besides me are married men. And none of them were at the club with their wives. In other words, it's fairly certain that most (if not all) of these married men can't tell their wives that they go to strip clubs. And these men almost all ask her for sex. This was clearly causing her concern over whether she could ever trust a husband to be faithful to her over the long term. She was using faithful not only in the sense of not fucking other women but also in the sense of not going to strip clubs and getting lap dances without her knowledge.
This discussion took place in a restaurant that was crowded with mostly middle aged and older couples. Throughout dinner, I noticed several of the men staring at my young girl. This was not only because she's beautiful, but she had on this amazingly sensual but casual outfit with her shirt unbuttoned half way down her chest. Our young waiter was also clearly into her, and stood at her side longer than good service would require. I noticed him looking down her shirt twice. The room full of mostly married men lusting after my date gave further meaning to her concerns about male fidelity.
A similar sentiment was expressed by dancer95 a while back. I think she said that she would make her husband wear a condom because she knows what perverts all men are and that they can never be trusted not to cheat.
Also, when I was with the DS, she got hit on by married men constantly. We would be walking down the street and some older guy with a wedding ring on would come up and start talking to her. And I'm with her at the time. It happened frequently. I should mention though that she was often dressed in stripper-like attire when this happened. But still they are trying to pick her up when she is already with a guy and they are married. It sometimes made me embarrassed to be a male because they are all so pathetically horny. And married men are the horniest of all I think.
So back to my question. Do these experiences demonstrate that a man can never be trusted to be faithful? Or is the view of a stripper on male fidelity warped and biased because of her job?
Here is what I told my stripper. I told her that some men can be trusted long term to be faithful to their wife if and only if the wife consistently meets their sexual needs over the long term. This doesn't just mean having sex with him, but also requires the wife to be sexually creative and fulfill her husband's fantasies. In other words, a wife needs to act just like my strippers in bed. Some men want to be faithful to their wife but it's not realistic to expect faithfulness over the long term unless she meets our deepest sexual desires. There are simply too many opportunities for a man to be satisfied sexually outside of marriage for a woman to expect fidelity if she won't be her man's sexual freak.
Then we went back to my hotel, and she was my complete and total freak, fulfilling my every desire. It's what I always wanted and never thought I could possibly have.
Here's a thought. What are the odds, in 20/30 years, that she will be this kind of freak for her husband? I bet there is a good chance that she, like many women in their 40s/50s, looses much of her interest in sex. Wouldn't it be sad if she used her best sexual energy on me, and I ended up with better sex than her husband? Sad for him I mean. I'm having the time of my life.
My ex-wife and ex-girlfriend are both 8's. They kept me satisfied for nearly two decades and I never had the desire or need to cheat on them. I didn't even go to a strip for over 15 years, because seeing them naked every day was plenty for me. (Btw, 15 years ago I remember no touching at SC's, so times have changed.) Sure, I still checked out hot women I saw in public or at work, but never had an itch to cheat. Doubt I'll cheat in my next relationship either.