So you think you want to date a stripper
Clackport
Washington
I've dated a few in the past, so let me give some advice to people thinking of going down that road
•What she does ITC
I think that's the number one concern for people dating strippers, what is she doing ITC? Does she give extras? Is she a clean dancer? etc. What you have to realize is you're dating a stripper, this is what you signed up for. Of course some of them will be sucking off customers in the club. You might be lucky to find one that's a completely clean dancer, but chances are against it. Your girl might not be sucking or fucking, but that doesn't mean she's not getting finger banged or not receiving DATY. If you really want to make the relationship work, don't worry about what she's doing in the club, just as long as she comes home to you every night.
•Her OTC surroundings
What you will realize is that a lot of her friends are strippers, so you will meet a lot of loser boyfriends. You will meet a lot of drug dealers, unemployed bums etc. You will have access to a lot of weed if that's the route you want to take lol.
•Strippers are going to be strippers
We as customers get mad at times when strippers are flaky or what not. If you are her boyfriend, she might not flake as much as she does to customers, but you will still experience a lot of flaking. You might call her, and she won't call you back until two days later. Same things with texts. She will cancel some meetups. Strippers are going to be strippers. Also, the worst thing you can do is try to get her to stop stripping, 99% of the time she won't do it, she's making a lot of money stripping, she sees no need to get a 9 to 5.
•Don't be insecure
She will have a lot of customers phone numbers, that's just part of the game, you just have to live with it.
•Don't make your relationship so public
Just be low key about it, word spreads quickly, and some people you don't want to know that you're dating a stripper (your parents for example) might find out. It goes without saying but don't be telling the whole world you're dating a stripper. With some people you're going to have to lie about what your girl does for a job.
Those are just a few of the things you'll deal with when dating a stripper, a lot of these things are the reason I don't date strippers anymore. That being said this is just general, and it doesn't apply to every stripper.
My two cents
•What she does ITC
I think that's the number one concern for people dating strippers, what is she doing ITC? Does she give extras? Is she a clean dancer? etc. What you have to realize is you're dating a stripper, this is what you signed up for. Of course some of them will be sucking off customers in the club. You might be lucky to find one that's a completely clean dancer, but chances are against it. Your girl might not be sucking or fucking, but that doesn't mean she's not getting finger banged or not receiving DATY. If you really want to make the relationship work, don't worry about what she's doing in the club, just as long as she comes home to you every night.
•Her OTC surroundings
What you will realize is that a lot of her friends are strippers, so you will meet a lot of loser boyfriends. You will meet a lot of drug dealers, unemployed bums etc. You will have access to a lot of weed if that's the route you want to take lol.
•Strippers are going to be strippers
We as customers get mad at times when strippers are flaky or what not. If you are her boyfriend, she might not flake as much as she does to customers, but you will still experience a lot of flaking. You might call her, and she won't call you back until two days later. Same things with texts. She will cancel some meetups. Strippers are going to be strippers. Also, the worst thing you can do is try to get her to stop stripping, 99% of the time she won't do it, she's making a lot of money stripping, she sees no need to get a 9 to 5.
•Don't be insecure
She will have a lot of customers phone numbers, that's just part of the game, you just have to live with it.
•Don't make your relationship so public
Just be low key about it, word spreads quickly, and some people you don't want to know that you're dating a stripper (your parents for example) might find out. It goes without saying but don't be telling the whole world you're dating a stripper. With some people you're going to have to lie about what your girl does for a job.
Those are just a few of the things you'll deal with when dating a stripper, a lot of these things are the reason I don't date strippers anymore. That being said this is just general, and it doesn't apply to every stripper.
My two cents
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Title: “So you think you want to date a stripper”
Body: “Don't – because they are strippers”
The End
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One last piece of advice, if you are married make sure you keep your married and stripper lives seperate, those do not mix well.
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Strippers often have drama and a certain amount and type of baggage the avg PL does not know how to deal with and often cannot deal with.
There's is a mismatch that makes things difficult – the avg guy is often responsible and this causes a mismatch in that often times this is not the strong point of many a dancer which are often used to doing things their way and fuck society and everything else – it sucks and it's often unproductive when the dude is the one that has to be the responsible one (often times is th e woman whom is more grounded and settled and the guy a bit more wild) – basically an avg guy and a dancer are often not on the same page on many if not most things.
Additionally – in my personal opinion – the avg guy would not want his S.O. to be a stripper – not necessarily b/c he can't handle it although that is part of it; but if the guy genuinely cares about her he will probably not feel good about her having to do that – so this often times means sort of a reclamation project of getting her from the stripper world to the normal world per se and this often requires a large investment of $$$, time, patience, and perseverance; and often does not end up working IME/IMO.
Body: “Don't – because they are strippers”
The End
LOL ... A few months ago, I had stayed overnight with my now-retired ATF, and in the morning, I could hear her roommate (an active stripper) arguing on the phone with her boyfriend. After the roommate hangs up, she looks at us all frustrated and says, "He knew what he was signing up for. I'm a stripper. If he wanted a schoolteacher or soccer mom, he should be dating one. He's dating a stripper, so he shouldn't complain about the way I am, I'm not changing."
Which I thought brilliantly summed it all up. She's beautiful, the relationship is exciting, but you're not going to change her, and she'll get pissed at you if you try. Accept it or GTFO
I think often times the same thing may be at play in PL/Stripper “relationships”- PLs go to the SC looking for one thing and strippers go looking for something else.
For many PLs is often an emotional transaction – whether it'd be sex; companionship; looking to be loved; etc – for dancers; they go in for purely financial reasons.
In the times I've perused SW; I hardly ever hear of a dancer looking for anything more than $$$ in the club – and if PLs are mentioned in any context other than $$$; is how clingy they can be or how much the PLs want some kind of relationship with them which they are not interested in and how big a pain in the ass it is – I know that SW is not to be considered the standard of stripping; but …
IMO – if you are not a loser then you are better off not dating a stripper and avoiding the headaches – chances are she really does not like you and just needs/wants you in a financial sense; and if she does genuinely want you; you still probably don't' what her to b/c of the drama and baggage. I can sorta see it working if she gets out of stripping; but not while she is one; but I'm not saying my *opinion* is the undisputed truth either.
•The sex will probably be incredible!
•Depending on how you play your cards, she could end up supporting you financially.
•If you're a pothead, you will have unlimited access to weed.
Sex, Money, and Drugs. Sounds like the American Dream to me!
Flakey? They're everywhere
Irresponsible? Admittedly this is a high frequency characteristic, but I have known some strippers who are well organized, responsible humans ( all right, I know two)
Much of the downside is offset by the sex. Strippers need love, too.
now if i met her at a coffee shop, we hung out and started bonding, liking each other, and what not, and THEN she drops the bomb on me that she's a stripper....i'd be more open to still dating her because by that point we would have already bonded and grown a liking to each other and i wouldn't wanna just drop her because of the job.
hopefully that made sense, i think it did
I've never been one to hang out with groups of people anyway. For one thing I don't condone drugs, alcohol, or tobacco. I don't go along with Born Again Christianity either.
With strippers steps need to be taken to make the encounters safe.
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Makes sense to me – although that is not saying much.
Not meeting a stripper in the club means much greater chance she wants to hang w/ you b/c she likes you and not b/c you were a walking SC ATM – it still may have some issues/drama associated with it; but may not be as bad – just an opinion.
Yeah it'd be a little better meeting the stripper first as a civilian before seeing her at the strip club, but at the end of the day, it's still the same, she's still a stripper, and you have to deal with everything that comes with it (assuming you're going to date her).
I have, a few times, managed to get myself into a fuckbuddies/friends-with-benefits type relationship with a stripper -- by contrast to dating, which implies much more emotional commitment, I cannot recommend highly enough getting into a FWB relationship with a stripper. My experience is that they are FUN AS FUCK to party with, they have attractive friends, sometimes it's just fun to hang out with a super pretty girl, and there's this funny thing that goes that's similar to the Seinfeld episode when George dated a model and was "in the club" -- once you get accepted by one stripper, the other girls start to look at you as possible social acquaintances also.
I've not had one of these relationships in a few years, but sure hope to repeat someday!