When a dancer tells you, "you're cute", do you let that shit get to your head and actually believe them?
Lately I've been getting that a lot from dancers. While I'm not a bad looking guy, I just think that's a phrase they have etched in their head, and they'll say it to anybody.
It's always SS. Even in the rare circumstance where there might be some truth to the compliment, it is still designed to separate you from your $.
I believe everything that they tell me about myself, especially when they say that my cock is SO big! ;)
They tell me I have a cute cock. :)
Nah. I don't let it get to my head. I hear it sometimes even though I consider myself to be an average looking guy. I'm sure some of them actually does find me cute or attractive since I am younger and somewhat muscular, but I still keep things in perspective.
I believe them because i am soooo dam hot...just kidding. I dont let it phaze me.
Lol @ GoVikings
While its nice to to hear, ultimately it's all SS.
@CrazyJoe- has GoVikings commented in this thread? Lol??
^ They don't call him crazy for nothing!
I tell them thanks but I already know I'm pretty. I'm actually more flattered when dancers feel comfortable enough to criticize me and make fun of me.
JS69 +1
Eh. It's fine but empty.
I get this a lot too. I also get compliments on my dreadlocks but this is more believable because I also get comments on those by non strippers.
I take it with a pinch of salt. Dancers tell you anything that makes you feel good about yourself or they like you, with the ultimate aim of parting you with your money
I assume it's all SS. Most of the time I want to tell them to be quiet and sell the dance by dancing.
I've known my CF for 8 months. She never compliments me or initiates a kiss. I guess she wants to keep it real.
I get told your gorgeous a lot of times, or I like your arms, chest, and/or muscles. I do workout a lot and get told the same by normal girls.
So some truth might be told but who's know's
We get a lot of compliments. Mrs sea gets compliments left and right from all the strippers we talk to. We are under no illusion though. While it makes her feel really good when they tell her how hot she is, how great her tits are, how they love her hair, etc....We both just assume (even though it's true) that it's still 99.9% SS looking for for $$$.
You being in your 20s I would think the may be being honest – still – actions speak louder than words and at the end of the day what does it really matter since you are dealing with strippers – and at the end of the end of the day :); it''s really what you think of yourself that matters and is important – often times being a man and being confident is what ends up being successful w/ women.
Whether I would believe their compliment would depend on how they are acting towards me. Are they just trying to get money out of me, or do they really seem to like me and want to know me.
SJG
When they tell me I'm cute I ask the how much they're gonna pay Mr for talking to them...usually ships them up and let's them know not to spit the same tired lazy game.
I get compliments on my t-shirts all of the time and I believe them. :) I don't know how many times they have taken photos of them. Girls I never get dances from stop by just to see what I am wearing today. And not only are they telling me how much they like them but telling others also. I get customers and dancers asking me where I git them.
lol@ GACAclub. I'm going to use that next time.
Maybe even ask them: "If I'm so cute and handsome, why don't you take me back to VIP? I only charge $25 a dance... Oh, and of course a tip too... And you can buy me a drink also... " :)
Anything a dancer says that is likely to make you want to spend more time and $ on her, should be presumed to be part of her sales pitch, unless proven otherwise. That said, I don't really think of it in terms of pejoratives like "stripper shit". I KNOW she's probably not attracted to me. But part of her job is making me feel good for a few hours, and why insult her for doing her job? If you're dumb enough to fall for it, then yes, maybe thinking of it as "stripper shit" is a handy self-defense mechanism. For everyone else, it's part of her game, enjoy it. Hell, I even enjoy when a stripper tells me that I have nice eyes, which as we all know, is the compliment-of-last-resort when the stripper has tried and failed to find anything redemming about you ... LOL
I have ... distinctive ... eyebrows. Both wives and my daughters think they look awful. Every stripper who's ever commented on them says they're fantastic. On the other hand I've had civilian girls stop me at the mall and compliment me on them. On the third hand one stripper who I've known for years admitted to me a while ago that she didn't like them when she first met me but had complimented me on them as a way of trying to rope me in.
I generally figure any compliment I get from a pretty girl less than half my age is to be taken with a huge grain of salt.
I can vouch that dtek does have distinctive eyebrows. One of a kind!
I'm not good at taking compliments – every now and then a dancer will give me a compliment – I just act humbly and put a whatever face – but what I find amusing is when they insist; e.g. - “no really – I'm not bullshitting you “; “no really; take it from me ….”; and they double and triple down – gotta give them an 'A' for effort and determination.
I only get compliments from dancers that don't know me. From those that do, I get comments like this:
"You'd almost be attractive if your hair weren't so fucked up" "You have questionable personal hygiene" "Why are your arms so skinny?"
and the most recent one: "I'm a stripper. I grind on ugly dudes for a living. Guys like you."
Don't know you saer but I think you need to do some self-examination. It really sounds like you are doing something bad enough to make people question how much they really like money.
@Rank actions speak louder than words. If you get more for your money (or no money) then they honestly dig you.
Papi, I get that too. We both know its more than likely bullshit, yet they still try to sell it. To me, if it were true she would I only say it once.
As an older customer, I realize that compliments on my looks are BS. But most of the complements I get from strippers are about how good I am at going down on them. I do not think they are faking it, as I usually do not give it up until they are having a major orgasm, and sometimes even spray in my face. I don't think they can fake that.
Last time a dancer tried to give me a compliment; she kept looking at me up and down and trying hard to come up w/ something somewhat genuine – all she could come up with was “wow – you breathe so well”.
I'm old and fat. I know that. Anything positive said my way is an attempt to empty my wallet. I get it. And I usually call them out on it.
Take it for what it's worth....not much.
@runnoft an escort peed, tried to claim she was squirting. Fortunately did not do it on me.
I believe every word a stripper tells me. I'm crazy, unique, and unforgettable.
I knew a stripper was lying though and didn't believe me one time. I told her I was having electrical issues in the club. I was building up electricity. She said only you. When she got on stage, I didn't ground myself on anything. She touched my head first and got a huge shock. I felt the electricity shooting out. unforgettable , lol no idea why I had the electrical issues back then. maybe I had too much iron in my blood.
Her name was Hayden and she said she was gong to call me Electro. I was her drinking buddy she told me. Haven't seen her in ages. probably quit the business at an early age. She actually bought me a beer the last time I saw her.
I don't believe a word they say to me. However, I have found it to be a good indication they will be great fucks later, if they are heaping praise on your looks and cock.
My favorite lines:
"I should be paying you"
"You have a nice sense of touch. It's not even creepy"
"You're a good guy"
lol it's all fun.
^^^Lol, I've gotten the "I should be paying you" thing a couple of times. It takes everything in my power not to burst out laughing out there when they say that.
"I should be paying you"
Ever seen this: imdb.com
A very funny 1967 French movie, made up of multiple segments. One of them is mid 19th Century Central Europe.
We see a woman and a very obese elderly man in a so so hotel room. He pays her and they do what they do and then we see that he was not good for much, as he is passed out asleep.
The woman starts to pick up her money and is shocked to discover that the man next to her is the very same man who is pictured on the money.
So as he awakens she right away starts going on about, "Oh, its I who should be paying you", as she hands him back his money. "You must take care of so many women."
It continues like this for a while. Then in the last scene she turns back to wink at the camera as they are proceeding out a double doorway to their wedding reception.
This segment may have been inspired by Lola Montez, one of the most famous courtesans of all time, and King Ludwig I of Bavaria. She caused such a scandal that Ludwig had to abdicate, and pass the crown too his son.
Montez was also a consort of the composer Franz Liszt.
She spent the later part of her life in California.
Discussion a 1950's movie about her: youtube.com
All the segments of The Oldest Profession ( 1967 ) are good.
Montez is also depected in this, with Richard Burton: imdb.com
SJG sites.google.com/site/sjgportal/
Robin Trower youtube.com
"I should be paying you"....Actually sometimes my ATF does! LOL She's comped me half hours in VIP and I just pay the house. Way cool because she has lots of regulars she soaks for money. She knows I'm poor.
I don't mind compliments, but only my regulars know enough about me to push my buttons in a meaningful way.