So, a stripper invited me to a party she's having in a few weeks. I'm not particularly attracted to this girl, but she says a number of the other dancers at the club will be there. My intuition says I don't really want any of that shit, but on the other hand, I am curious. Would you go?
I wouldn't go, but that's just because I don't go for group hanging out situations. I'll be fine as a customer of the club, or on either a civilian or P4P date with a girl. But at their party, no I would decline.
In general when I was unattached and in my 20s I tried not to say no to pay invites. What's the worst case? You go for an hour, it's lame, you bounce.
I guess my caveat and followup is where is this party? At a bar? I'd swing by to say hi and have a drink. At her place? Why not go and at least check it out?
I guess the only other caution is if you think this dancer you're not attracted to wants to date you. As in the civilian world, you may want to avoid that drama.
If your plans otherwise are to drink at home and jerk off, you should go.
We would definitely go. What better way to talk and get to know each other OTC than to already be meeting OTC. Step 1 already completed. Even if it's a bust why wouldn't you go? You'll just be sitting at home thinking about how you should've gone.
I was invited to a birthday party a stripper was throwing for her dog. She was single with no kids or current BF and said that there would be a lot of other dancers there from the club she worked at. Sounded great to me and I planned on going but it got cancelled.
I would go even if I'm not attracted. Why not? At least you won't have to spend a bunch of money like you would ITC and you'll still be around some hot young women.
I'd go. I"d probably RSVP something like, "I have to meet friends at 10:30, I'd cancel but it's my good buddy's birthday, but I would love to hang out with you until then". Then, if it's a great party, I just stay all night. If I'm not having a good time, she already is expecting me to jet at 10:30. I'm all about the pre-planned excuse to leave early lol
I'm in my 40s so I would feel a bit out of place especially around people IDK – and if the stripper has a BF it may mean many of the other guests may also be couples making a PL feel even more out of place. In addition; i'm not much of a drinker; don't smoke; and don't do any drugs; so I may not fit in if the party goes in that direction.
I guess if one is comfortable around strangers it's worth a shot b/c one never knows what good can come out of a situation.
I probably wouldn't go either; classic introvert issues: hate crowds, never learned how to mix with people, start getting claustrophic with too many people around, etc.
One thing I'd wonder is just what kind of part is this. Is it strictly a social party? If so, it shouldn't be too much of a problem, unless, of course, the party gets out of hand. Or is it a working party? Some escorts from the Twin Cities sued to run some special parties for their regulars -- invite-only type of thing -- until the police invited themselves. Last summer, a dancer at one club invited me to an after-hours party at the club she danced at. I had already planned on leaving town before then so I was able to politely and honestly decline, but it also just felt like an invitation for LE-related trouble.
Think of it as a reconnaissance mission. Get names, socialize a little, ask where they work at, try to remember as much as possible. Stay longer if you want to. Maybe even get phone numbers of other single girls. They might not all be strippers if that's what you're worried about.
You were invited. therefore, you are welcome. Surely if you weren't welcome, why bother inviting you? She is married and you're not that attracted to her anyway -- no worries there . . .
So go!!! Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Your odds of meeting someone else attractive are better than 50-50. Plus, it is always fun seeing the animals out of captivity.
If you're nervous, Subraman has a great idea above to hedge your early exit, if needed.
Make sure you repost to this thread if you go and allow us to live vicariously through you.
Not without risks. Dancing is usually a bigger issue in their relationship than what they will tell you. Meeting the SO is generally more tense and/or depressing than you may be lead to expect. If she socializes with you outside the club, that gives more cred to any claims she makes to other dancers that your are "her customer". Not good for you, since she's not your cup of tea.
Be warned. Sometimes seeing a stripper(s) out in the real world kills the fantasy buzz.
Seeing that girl you think is so hot in a dimly lit, smokey bar, dancing with a fluorescent thong and high heels on... is now in the light..,.wearing no makeup, has an oversized set of "angel" sweatpants and oversized sweater with flip flops on. It can be a real buzz kill.
Now, if they are dressed like they are at work?then I'd Definately go! However, I doubt that will be the case. lol.
YES! Met up with two strippers at a nightclub in Toronto the night after I met them at the strip club. They brought along four friends that were not strippers but, everyone of them were knockouts as well. They were all dressed to the nines in revealing outfits and the entire bar was staring at us the whole night. Collected two phone numbers and had a blast.
My first reaction was that the theme of the house party would be robbing any PL dumb enough to how up. If mt ATF, whom I have known for more than 10 years and who's Mother I know in real life through my profession asked me to a house party I'd believe the same thing.
I bet their planning to jump you and roll you for all your jewelry and cash. Where good underwear before showing up. You never know where this can lead.
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In general when I was unattached and in my 20s I tried not to say no to pay invites. What's the worst case? You go for an hour, it's lame, you bounce.
I guess my caveat and followup is where is this party? At a bar? I'd swing by to say hi and have a drink. At her place? Why not go and at least check it out?
I guess the only other caution is if you think this dancer you're not attracted to wants to date you. As in the civilian world, you may want to avoid that drama.
If your plans otherwise are to drink at home and jerk off, you should go.
Good luck and tell us how it went
I guess if one is comfortable around strangers it's worth a shot b/c one never knows what good can come out of a situation.
One thing I'd wonder is just what kind of part is this. Is it strictly a social party? If so, it shouldn't be too much of a problem, unless, of course, the party gets out of hand. Or is it a working party? Some escorts from the Twin Cities sued to run some special parties for their regulars -- invite-only type of thing -- until the police invited themselves. Last summer, a dancer at one club invited me to an after-hours party at the club she danced at. I had already planned on leaving town before then so I was able to politely and honestly decline, but it also just felt like an invitation for LE-related trouble.
http://youtu.be/bDbpzjbXUZI
So go!!! Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Your odds of meeting someone else attractive are better than 50-50. Plus, it is always fun seeing the animals out of captivity.
If you're nervous, Subraman has a great idea above to hedge your early exit, if needed.
Make sure you repost to this thread if you go and allow us to live vicariously through you.
Be warned. Sometimes seeing a stripper(s) out in the real world kills the fantasy buzz.
Seeing that girl you think is so hot in a dimly lit, smokey bar, dancing with a fluorescent thong and high heels on... is now in the light..,.wearing no makeup, has an oversized set of "angel" sweatpants and oversized sweater with flip flops on. It can be a real buzz kill.
Now, if they are dressed like they are at work?then I'd Definately go! However, I doubt that will be the case. lol.
How much cash is he gonna bring? $40? And he knows where she works, and lives.
That would be a tough case for the cops to crack. ..