Experience when another customers is bothing me!
davephx
Arizona
I replied to Higgs post which said "Not helping was a lone jerk at an adjacent table who wouldn't leave us alone."
I replied which may be of interest here:
This guy could be a good discussion topic.
This part of Higgs as the usual great summary I thought I'd comment on and leave out of the reviews (long as usual) I am going to post. (MY reviews are in the Phoenix section here on TUSCL)
I assume this guy was the one mainly bothering me since was right behind me. Who tried to ask a question To BigTim in German thinking he looked German.
At first after that had some just friendly conversation. His head was right behind mine the way the two tables were situated.
But then I detected perhaps a symptom of ADD, which I have experienced with another guy long ago from my Vancouver reports. It is the aspect of HyperFocus where like the guy in Vancouver who use to call me and go on and on and on and on... about strip clubs in Florida, Vancouver the law, etc. He has told me he has ADD and seems to be the son of rich parents, so he doesn't need a job just obsesses about strip clubs and always having to talk to me about them.
Anyway the guy last night started talking constantly to me asking what I would do different in life, his father that died at 102 who was some champion body builder (I mentioned my friend who won female body building championship who was from Germany (Ms World or something long ago - her competition videos are still being sold by some and can find using Google).
But his conversation kept getting more intense including going after what you want What would I want? Then says look at that dancers you know you could F her. Why don't you F her right now!" It is now getting just obnoxious and how to I extract myself from him!
I could just move to another table but was with Higgs and BigTim at an ideal table next to the State where BigTim could tip and say a few words to a dancer.
I finally rolled my chair as far away from him as I could and talked more with BigTim mentioning the obnoxious guy. Didn't think Higgs picked up on this (or was with the dancer in the VIP)
SAVED by a Dancer - As I disconnected as much as I could from him a dancer approached him. She sat and was the focus of his hyperfocus the rest of the night and she didn't seem to mind. No dances just talking. From what I could pick up I think they were arranging to meet outside the club. I did give him the time when he asked me what time it was - relieved it was her not me of his focus. They were talking about what time she got off.
This was the first time I've ever been annoyed by a customer!!
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I am the opposite having no interest in drinks or naked women from afar. The music is just noise to me. I am interested in connections for the moment and quality touch non-sexual intimacy. Many dancers are in my lap not on the clock enjoying my massage (been professionally Esalen trained and taught couples).
I've seen zillions of nude women, no big deal. Have been to clothing optional beaches, places and retreats. If I have to drink, I'm known as a diet coke fan.
In at least some clubs in Ontario, they have a rule of no single women not with a male. I guess dancer jealousy or something. Had become friends with an escort who asked me to take her to the club (Hamilton Strip). Did and she had a wonderful time with lots of great interaction with the stage dancers (she is bi).
If a female customer wanted to go out with me if it was for a reasonable fee and I felt safe (like to my place), I would jump at the chance. Strippers, however, want far too much for "take out".
In more than 30 years (am an old guy) never had a female customer approach me (nor male!) but have gone out with four strippers. One at a very low fee (she was desperate but worked out nice), and 3 others just wanting to be friends without any fee.
I have had a lot of conversations with a lot of different guys including one with ADHD. The difference was that they were all civil and none of them were too drunk to speak intelligently. This sot just rubbed me the wrong way.
Yes I would be leery of going out with a woman in the audience to her place.
The one time I did with a stripper, I felt some safety in the very strict dancer licensing requirements so her ID and information would be obtainable if anything bad happened. However, this was a concern.
Once I took a dancer somewhere and she told me she has weekly meetings with the head pastor for sex of the "Jesus People" Church near the strip club (Long ago Minneapolis - Hennepin Ave) where I once lived.
On the recent (last night) guy, I don't think he was drunk - not slurred, but intelligent just non-stop banter that I had no interest in especially when it got to the F word. Furthermore, after the dancer was with him long, long talking but seemed clear-headed. That is why I think AFHD symptom of hyper-focus may be more likely.
only had a few convos with other customers and they've all been fairly brief, pleasant and polite. everyone just having a good time. i'm sure we'll eventually run into someone being a douchebag but so far we haven't
For those of you who dont know Dave is a legend!
I always read your posts on terb back in the day and actually modeled some of my trips to toronto from your experiences and advice - glad to see you on here Dave.
The most interesting one was a solo girl looking for a clubbing buddy so that she could get into the other area clubs without being hassled. If she was hotter I might have considered it, but a 260 lb black woman is not the kinda' luggage I'm looking to tote into the clubs with me.
There's one female customer that usually hangs out with me when we're both in the club at the same time. One night, her husband came with her, got drunk, and punched some guy for hitting on her. For some reason, he didn't have a problem with me buying her a drink. Go figure.