Do you buy drinks for strippers?
ujay
I was at the Penthouse Philly and this stripper came and sat by me. She started a conversation. I was having a red bull after drinking a bottle of water because I had to get to work. Five minutes later she was still talking so I offered her a drink. She ordered a drink. After she had the drink, she found a lame excuse to go to smoke. She knows that I do not like cigarette smoke. She picked up the drink, lit a cigarette and went to another customer. I was pissed that I had bought a mixed drink for her to go to another customer. Next came a 19 year old stripper who obviously should not be drinking alcohol. We had a little conversation and decided to go for a dance. I offered her a drink. She told me that she ordered redbull and cranberry juice combination. I said OK, less money.
After the lapdance, I asked for my tab. Lo and behold! The first stripper had ordered a mixed drink with double shots that came to $16. The 19 year old stripper drink was a whiskey and sugar free drink on the receipt. She had taken only two sips and gave the drink to the bartender. I suspect that the bartender was in a racket to get a drink for herself knowing that this 19 year old stripper should not be drinking alcohol and had told me that she ordered red bull and cranberry juice. How will you handle this racket from the bartender who gave a 19 year old stripper alcoholic beverage? Would you take this matter up to management? I still have the receipts. Also, do you offer stripper drinks, if at all? Under what conditions do you offer stripper drinks? There are the stripper alcoholics that will take advantage of your kindness and order double shots as in my case. So, my red bull and water, and the two drinks for the strippers came to $47. I was enraged. I was also pissed that alcoholic beverage was served to a minor. How will you handle this situation.
After the lapdance, I asked for my tab. Lo and behold! The first stripper had ordered a mixed drink with double shots that came to $16. The 19 year old stripper drink was a whiskey and sugar free drink on the receipt. She had taken only two sips and gave the drink to the bartender. I suspect that the bartender was in a racket to get a drink for herself knowing that this 19 year old stripper should not be drinking alcohol and had told me that she ordered red bull and cranberry juice. How will you handle this racket from the bartender who gave a 19 year old stripper alcoholic beverage? Would you take this matter up to management? I still have the receipts. Also, do you offer stripper drinks, if at all? Under what conditions do you offer stripper drinks? There are the stripper alcoholics that will take advantage of your kindness and order double shots as in my case. So, my red bull and water, and the two drinks for the strippers came to $47. I was enraged. I was also pissed that alcoholic beverage was served to a minor. How will you handle this situation.
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They won't waste your time.
and bullshit you were upset that sold alcohol to a minor for God's sake she's showing you her tits and ass obviously she's not so minor enough for that so get over yourself. You are upset because you were dumb enough to let herself get ripped off by one of the laziest stripper hustles ever and you feel like a dumbass and you should but learn your lesson and move forward :)
And I'll say it for Diva, "gettin custies to pay for drinks -- brilliant!!!"
Let's start with PL rule #1. Leave your credit card at home. Never ever ever ever run your credit card at a club. If it was cash you would have known exactly what you were paying.
Don't offer strippers drinks. Stage tipping is far more cost effective. Or just buy LDs.
You have a legitimate complaint with how the non alcoholic drink was billed. You should have complained before you signed the receipt.
If you don't want to go back, call your CC company and dispute the charges. You probably won't be welcome in that club for a long while. Honestly, you git ripped off only for the non alcoholic drink. That's what, $6? Maybe this was a lesson to not treat a strip club with the same trust as you treat starbucks.
To answer your question though; if we were to get a new stripper to sit with us and chat we'd expect a decent amount of time. At least 10 minutes or more to get to know them a little. If she does't have a drink then yeah, we'd buy her a drink because if she's sitting with us we're probably leading up to a LD. Drinks at our SC are pretty cheap though compared to others I've read about.
Dancers sometimes rip me off, which is only to be expected in a strip club. I've had girls ask for a drink and then immediately leave to chat with another PL. I've had girls order very expensive drinks and order a lot of drinks when I'm not really paying attention. My favs will often ask me to buy drinks for their friends. These are just more ways in which strippers separate us from our money. As long as they don't steal my car, I can put up with stripper shenanigans.
On the few occasions I've been ripped off by dancers and drinks, I generally avoid those clubs in the future. I find management is usually aware of and either allows or encourages drink rip offs since the club makes lots of money from alcohol. Bad managment in one area usually means bad management in other areas as well.
Yeah. It's part of the whole strip club business.
If you don't buy a girl a drink and she's been talking to you for a while, then you'll get labeled as "cheap" and some of the dancers won't come talk to you. However, if you are buying a drink for every girl who sits down next to you and strikes up a conversation, you are being taken advantage of.
It's a delicate balance. And one that comes with experience.... the hard way, unfortunately.
Finally there are clubs where the dancers drinks are the same as the customers and it is just a social decision. With the right lady it is a way to have them stay long enough to decide if I want to take them for a dance. If we do connect it is a way to keep them from drifting away to another table and sometimes they will loosen up a bit if it is early in the night. I am annoyed by having a dancer I want to move on insist on me buying them a drink and also I am annoyed when I buy a dancer a drink and she slams it down and leaves but better to find out she is a bitch over a drink than in the back room.
Here's the thing though, I'm not a beta male or a doormat. I'm not going to let a 20-year-old-girl do whatever she wants, and then get butthurt when she treats me like a submissive little doggy. I always treat the girls respectfully, but when it comes time to order drinks, I'm very clear: "I'm buying shots of vodka ... if you don't want one, I'll get you a redbull or water. What would you like?". If she asks about ordering mixed drinks, I ask the waitress what they cost, and if it's more than the bottom-shelf vodka I drink, then the answer is no. I do the ordering, not her, I never let her order directly with the waitress. I have absolutely no shame over this -- I'd be ashamed if I let her roll me for a $20 drink, I'm not ashamed at all at setting my limit and sticking with it. And there is abso-fucking-lutely not shortage of strippers in the club who are thrilled to do shots of vodka/tequila/whatever with me. With one of my faves, I "pampered" her by, once per night, switching from the $3.50/shot vodka shots to $12/shot fireball shots. Once per night. She always got excited and made a big deal about it when the fireball shot came up.
So yes, I always buy her drinks. I do it to get drunk with her, and I do it just to be a decent person and let her have something to drink. But I am not a doormat, I put strict limits on what she can order (but do so with a friendly smile, and just tease her about how it's julio shots or redbull) -- and I always order our rounds myself. If I behaved like a doormat, I'd expect to get stepped on like one, no fair to whine about it afterwards.
For the OP's situation - yea, you got burned for about 25 bucks. To me it just comes with the territory is not worth spending too much energy on it. I would neither complain nor raise it the attention of management. I'm in a club for fun, not drama.
Here in California the liquor license rules prevent the dancer's drinks from being priced higher, in a place with a liquor license.
But in general I am careful about being taped into for money by stuff like that.
But other times, sometimes dancers will just ask you to buy them a drink because they want to talk to you, get you to think they belong to you.
SJG
+ as others; I’ve been burned by overpriced $20 dancer drinks that probably don’t have any alcohol in them to begin w/ (so it’s pretty much 100% profit for the club) – also been burned by the dancer asking for a drink and then bailing as soon as she gets it – and also w/ dancers ordering a drink and just taking 2 sips and leaving 99% of the drink and not drinking it
+ 99% of the time I don’t buy dancers a drink since I don’t spend much time w/ a dancer beyond getting dances – I get my dances and then I’m done and I’m looking for another dancer to get dances with (I don’t spend too much time conversing/shooting-the-bull w/ dancers)
+ I’ll buy drinks sometimes *after* a dancer has danced for me and I feel that she put in some work and danced well for me and I could see her working up a thirst from the dances she’s given me – and I will buy a dancer a drink in the rare times I am sitting/conversing w/ a dancer for an extended period of time
+ if a dancer asks me for a drink 30 seconds after she approached me; I say no – I’m not her fucking BF nor her date
+ I’ve had a few dancers give me the evil eye for not buying them drinks but they seem to still be willing to give me dances and take my $$$
+ too many dancers try to manipulate custies into buying them everything from drinks, to food, to cigarettes – and w/ many of these dancers; the more one gives them; the more they expect and the less they appreciate you and what you give them
Very sound advice.
Thanks,
SJG
You got burned by the first one; and then you turn around and ask the 2nd one if she also wants a drink; and get burned by the 2nd one also.
If you are trying to be “Mr. Nice Guy” and trying to get the dances to like you by offering them drinks as soon as they talk to you; you are going to keep being taken advantage of in the clubs.
The way I see it there are 2 choices:
1) keep buying dancers drinks but don’t get upset when you don’t get anything for it
2) be more judicious w.r.t. whom you buy drinks for and which dancers you interact w/ (or level of interaction you have w/ specific dancers)
2. If a drink must be ordered, I should be the one to place the order and know the price of the drink. This way, there are no hidden surprises.
But after realizing how often they were spitting it into a chaser or just nursing them I realized they're usually just a giant waste of money.
In my experience, most dancers and bartenders are a bit more cautious in pulling that shit when a customer is paying cash. I haven't put a cc down in a club in well over a decade and never will again, for reasons just like this. Most of the dancers that I deal with will ask if it's ok to get the double, or a redbull on top of a shot, and I am happy to oblige in most cases.
The one exception to this are the few places that I visit in the northeast which still do the mini-champagne bottle gimmick. Now yes, in one respect it pisses me off when I offer a drink and she orders the $20 kickback option, but it also tells me all that I need to know about her and may save me a lot of money in the long run, since the girls who do this don't get another nickel from me for anything.
I don't see much upside in making a big issue out of this. If there was another 0 on the end of that number I think differently, but fighting over the variance between what you should have been charged and what actually hit the tab - a $20 difference at most and probably less - seems kinda' silly unless you place a small value on your time and irritation levels. I would just chalk this up as a cheap lesson and move on.
SJG
It may seem kinda cheap, one week, a girl said it was $30, but she also offered $40 dances and we got 4 dances for $120. The next week, we went off and got 4 dances without asking about the price fist, sure enough, she expected $160.
I expect "lady drinks" to cost more than mine, and assume the club is taking that money. Most girls are happier to take that money themselves with a lapdance.
But, I live in Washington, where no alcohol is served in strip clubs, and I think even most of the dancers are pretty embassared about the idea of tricking you into paying the club $10 for her soda.
SJG
They know there's not a chance in hell they're planning on fckn so it only gives them the belief that you believe you might get fckd, and you do figuratively