Would you feel betrayed if your ATF lied to you?
I don't want to sound like Romantic Lover but I was just thinking that what if my or your current favorite dancer stated she would be leaving the club soon. You can't shake the notion of not ever hearing from her again so you ask her if you could give her your phone number. you give her your phone number and Email address. She acts as if she is a little hesistant at first but she takes the phone number anyway and gives all indication she will write or call you. 2 or 3months go by and you hear nothing out of her. Would you feel betrayed? You've been knowing her for a good while and you couldn't understand that if she didn't want to keep in touch why not tell you up front instead of having you waiting. Would you feel like your so called friendship was strictly business and nothing more than that? You had respect for her but it doesn't look as if she really respected you or else she would have been up front and decline to taking your number. This is something I just thought about it hasn't happened to me but I am just wondering how I would feel if it did what about you?
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I think men and women have a totally different definition of what is or is not a lie. It's also been my experience that there are plenty of non-dancer women out there who have just as many sob stories and will be just as glad to take your money. It has nothing to do with being a dancer, it's just easier for us to meet the ones who are dancers. When I get a sob story I find another dancer. And I never tip in advance for anything. The surest way for a dancer to not get any of my money is to ask for it.
We have to stop being wusses and wimps in clubs and make it clear that we are there to be entertained for the moment and not become boyfriends or sugar daddies.
Yes, I know and accept the risk that some dancers will think me a jerk and avoid me. They lose money. I explain my position as gently and politely as I can. " I don't want to hurt your feelings, but this dance can't continue because...." " I am sorry that you are having financial difficulties, but I came in here to forget about such things..." "Why are you asking for a tip before we are finished?" I also give back rubs, foot massages or caresses, allowed and will discuss anything with a dancer except her personal financial or emotional problems. I don't want to be sucked into paying for her life and her children's needs. And that's what's really behind this ATF scam. So let them lie to you and keep your feelings out it.
Harsh, but I think that's the only realistic way to look at is. So, to answer the presenting question, I would not be mad/feel betrayed if my ATF (and I have had them) left the club and cut ties. I might be mad at myself for feeling betrayed. Even with my ATFs, my attitude is like that toward an actor/actress who plays my favorite character on a tv show/ in a movie...it's all an act.
If I were a young guy, then I'd probably be depressed. After many decades I learned that shit happens. :) Also, what may seemed like a good idea at the time can change in an hour, a day, etc.
Unfortunately, women became more interchangeable. Not a lesson I wanted to accept. Yes, there have been superstars . . . but, it is that old media saw when one door closes another opens . . .