Friends With Benefits.....With A Stripper

I've had more friends with benefits with strippers, than dating. And I have had a few "sometimes she charges me for OTC, sometimes she doesn't", oddly enough.

I was just telling a friend that when I first starting going to strip clubs, it was easier to just have sex. Once the clubs I went to added VIP / private dance areas, it became OTC for cash more often.

That can be a complex question.

If my current OTC situation, the first time she came to my hotel, when she was leaving I slipped money into her purse and she seemed surprised. She said she would have came over even if I wasn't paying her (face palm to myself) but every time since then I go through the same routine and she never mentions anyway about it. The way I see it is: she needs money and I'm happy to give it to her for the service she provides. I don't want it (in this situation) for free because I want to mKe it crystal clear I don't want to develop any type of boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

And to answer your question every other OTC I hVe ever had has been p4p or evolved into some sort of girlfriend relationship. As strikingly charming and handsome as I am, I don't have strippers just calling me up on a Tuesday night wanting to have sex for free. I have had several "girlfriend" offers, but nowadays I know to bypass that and just get p4p OTC.

I've dated a few and one stripper became a FWB situation for a little while. But she was a typical unreliable stripper and we eventually ended it. It more faded away then ended, really.

I was a fuck buddy with an escort in 84. I paid her 150 a few times and stopped, cuz despite her awesome body, her queen bee attitude sucked.

But she still came over for bud and sex. And she invited me over for wine and sex and the bud I had. But one night she called and insisted I come over and fuck her. OK. When I got there, the front door was kicked in and a bunch of stuff was broken. She was naked and drunk on her bed.
She had a fight with her sugar daddy who was paying for the place and all the stuff in it. I stupidly spent the night, and in the morning I took her to breakfast.

That was the last time I saw her.

There's a dancer who I've helped out several times - no food in the house & I take her shopping - Christmas time & no money for gifts, etc. we get together for coffee every few weeks and occasionally she'll ask me to get a room. She called our relationship FWB the last time I saw her

I’m not a wham-bam thank you sir kinda guy – I want women to want me for my mind.

But on a serious note – IMO/IME is not very easy just to have a sexual relationship w/ a woman w/ no strings attached (e.g. $$$ or relationship) – I know it happens and certain guys seem to be able to pull it off with a fair amount of regularity (even if the guys are not that good looking).

As for me personally; I’m kinda of an “acquired taste” – i.e. most women I’ve been involved w/ has been b/c they known be for a while and developed a liking to me – i.e.. I don’t have much game – I recall in my younger days I would often get the kiss of death from women; i.e. “I like you as a friend” (and we all know where nice guys finish – not FWB at least).

I’m also not much of a risk taker and a bit wary of a woman that will have sex w/ no strings attached – I either think she has another agenda in mind or think “do I really want to be w/ a woman that just fucks for the hell of it” – not saying there is anything wrong w/ that.

But a FWB would be the way to go w/ a stripper until/unless she proved she was actual dating material.

@shaillyn- you prefer P4P OTC as opposed to girlfriend when talking about strippers? I think I would prefer girlfriend. Yes there's not too drama or bullshit in P4P, but with the girlfriend at least you can hit it as much, for as many rounds as you want, and you're not paying for it. Well you do pay for other things, but that's another story.

"@shaillyn- you prefer P4P OTC as opposed to girlfriend when talking about strippers? I think I would prefer girlfriend. Yes there's not too drama or bullshit in P4P, but with the girlfriend at least you can hit it as much, for as many rounds as you want, and you're not paying for it. Well you do pay for other things, but that's another story."

to each his own, I call my OTC connection, she comes over at my requested odd times (early in the morning or really late at night) fucks me and leaves, that's how I like it, I don't even have to cuddle! lol In the past with 'girlfriends' there was a lot of time involved in the relationship (phone calls, dinner dates, other shit) at the time I was into it but right now I am not. guess I'm just too busy with my real life at the moment to get caught up with all the mechanics of a relationship currently.

Succinctly, rather than pay for sex, I'd rather pay to have them arrive on time and then leave promptly after.

Been down that road a few times. But just like sugar babies, they have a short shelf life and often it doesn't end well.

I got away with free with my CF several times. Most of it because she wanted it bad and really does not care about the money.

Some days she would go for a barter, so there is an alignment of interest, more like coincident interest. The coincident part of it come in so many ways, like food, clothing, medical items.

Of course, medium of exchange is still money because it is transferable, divisible, uniform and such and such that she always for it.

“… you prefer P4P OTC as opposed to girlfriend when talking about strippers? …”


Priorities and tastes/preferences change over time – for many; the older you get the less drama and shit one wants to deal with – kinda been there done that – if one is past the “romantic” stage; and just wants the puss; P4P often times looks like a better value proposition.

My ATF, gridget, classified me as a friend with stripper benefits. It was a nice ride for many years. Who was gridget? Just type her name in the search box.

"...P4P often times looks like a better value proposition."

+1 to that Papi. I actually said something similar to that to my CF, and her reply was "that's not how you see us is it?" I don't want to overthink things so I'm going with friends with benefits.

P4P is VERY VERY often a better value proposition. While it lacks the emotional connection, as a pure value proposition, it is consistently a winner.

Spent 1K on my S.O.'s birthday and got nothing sexually. All day, over and over, just kept thinking: "what pleasure could I have been derived from 1K within P4P!?!". Then again, it wasn't about me.

Happy birthday!

I've never had a FWB relationship with a stripper, but I suspect one of my current FWB, the "Geek Freak", wouldn't mind being one.

Most dancers I've slept with wanted to be my girlfriend whether they stated that or not. I thought one girl was going to be friends with benefits with no strings attached. I was wrong big time. She stalked me. She yelled at me. She accused me of sleeping with another dancer. Then after I told her I wasn't sleeping with the other dancer, before I knew it she wanted to go traveling with me.

F w b is money for sex.

There is no relationship w stripper that will not cost u.

If it weren't for the hotel and meals, I'd say my SB qualifies as a FWB now. Of course, it's not likely to happen again for a long time.

The MILF I've seen a few times won't take my money, though she'll let me buy her lunch and pay for the taxi (she won't let me pick her up or drop her off at her house or work), so I guess she qualifies.

Other than that, no.