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A Dancer's Children Finding Her Dance Bag

Club_Goer_Seattle
Seattle, Washington
Friday, May 2, 2014 12:59 PM
​In Trixxi's recent thread, "Thinking XXX Dvd," she described her reaction to finding another family member's porn at home one day during her childhood. That made me think of this situation: When children find out their mom is a stripper. Many older dancers have children in the pre-teen and teenage years. Dancers often have to conceal their careers to the children and family members. If a dancer waits too long to tell her children what she really does for a living, the children (especially boys), will likely figure it out themselves. Clues are: 1. They can't visit their mom at work. 2. Their mom won't tell them exactly where she works. 3. The kids notice that mom works unusually late hours--often while they're asleep. 4. Curious kids might accidentally discover their mom's dance bag--full of costumes, make-up, personal care items, and other "accessories" (heh, heh) necessary for stripping. My ATF told me she always kept her dance bag in her car, where she knew her two boys couldn't get to it. But, I didn't know her long enough to find out if she actually "had the conversation" with her boys, or if they found out themselves. Have any of you discussed this subject with dancers? How do they intend to tell their kids what they do for a living, or if the kids found out on their own? (This subject is probably better suited for Stripperweb, but I'm not a member of that site.)

16 comments

  • LMN
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    10 years ago
    Yes, I often ask strippers, mid-lap dance or while burying my face in their breasts, about the intricacies of their relationships with their children as it correlates to their career and surrounding societal norms.
  • steve229
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    10 years ago
    If her son's friends ever found out she was a dancer, he'd probably be the most popular kid in school, lol A dancer told me about how 3-4 of her son's friends always came over after school, and were always asking her if she needed any help carrying in groceries, cutting the lawn, etc. the little weasels
  • Club_Goer_Seattle
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    10 years ago
    @ Steve, Similar circumstance: She was gorgeous and voluptuous enough even without her sons' friends knowing she was a stripper, that they were probably over at her house frequently. Undoubtedly, she was a hot mom!
  • shadowcat
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    10 years ago
    My ATF's mother would baby sit for her while she was working and many times picked her up from work with the young child in the car with her. She explained to her daughter that out of economic necessity that is what she had to do for a living. This is probably not the norm.
  • jester214
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    10 years ago
    I tend to not like to discuss children with dancers, I find it kills the mood.
  • gawker
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    10 years ago
    One time I went to dinner at my ATF's mother's house. She is raising her 8 year old grandson. He's a bright kid and as we sat down to eat he asked if I was a friend of his mothers' or a customer. I told him I was both a friend and a customer ( not knowing if he thought she sold vacuum cleaners for to door or what). After a few minutes he asked me if I knew his Mom was a heroin addict. His grandmother told him to be quiet.
  • mikeya02
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    10 years ago
    Babysitter/nannie is what two girls told me.
  • steve229
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    10 years ago
    "He asked me if I knew his Mom was a heroin addict" Okay, now THAT would be a mood killer, lol
  • Fanky
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    10 years ago
    Omg
  • gatorfan
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    10 years ago
    Bring mom to work day is a big hit with the boys.
  • DandyDan
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    10 years ago
    I had this conversation once with my Friday fave at my favorite club. She has a son who has graduated high school. She always told him she was an "entertainer", but once he was old enough, she told him just what kind of entertainment she did.
  • crazyjoe
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    10 years ago
    I jad a fave once that told me her kids had no idea. Then she tells me thet her oldest was in the car when she was picked up or dropped off and started asking why the sign said nude dancing and if she danced naked. She told her she brings beer to the guys watching the naked ladies. When her oldest was about 9 I took thst fave and her kids to an amusement park. I rode in her car that day with her kids and there were flyers advertising the club she worked at on the floor board. She told me her kids didnt know she smoked but she smoked in front of them. Who knows what dancers kids know
  • Clubber
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    10 years ago
    My last fave had a brother that knew, but no others in the family. When she got in a bit of trouble with the law (not club or drug related), her mother was told. I saw her the day after she had told mother the night before. Lots of crying all around, but as time went on, seemed all was OK. I think these days there isn't the stigma there was even 10-15 years ago.
  • SlickSpic
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    10 years ago
    My CF has no kids but her family doesn't know she strips. In a moment of clarity she confided that she didn't like lying to her family but she also knew that the alternative wouldn't be pleasant, either.
  • smoothshirt
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    10 years ago
    I've had several dancers tell me that when they finally got the nerve to tell their Mom they were dancing they found out that mom used to be a dancer.
  • Fanky
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    10 years ago
    I used to bring one dancer little boy ice cream every time I came over to plow his mommy
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