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A Dancer's Children Finding Her Dance Bag

Club_Goer_Seattle

Seattle, Washington

​In Trixxi's recent thread, "Thinking XXX Dvd," she described her reaction to finding another family member's porn at home one day during her childhood.

That made me think of this situation: When children find out their mom is a stripper. Many older dancers have children in the pre-teen and teenage years. Dancers often have to conceal their careers to the children and family members. If a dancer waits too long to tell her children what she really does for a living, the children (especially boys), will likely figure it out themselves. Clues are:

1. They can't visit their mom at work.
2. Their mom won't tell them exactly where she works.
3. The kids notice that mom works unusually late hours--often while they're asleep.
4. Curious kids might accidentally discover their mom's dance bag--full of costumes, make-up, personal care items, and other "accessories" (heh, heh) necessary for stripping.

My ATF told me she always kept her dance bag in her car, where she knew her two boys couldn't get to it. But, I didn't know her long enough to find out if she actually "had the conversation" with her boys, or if they found out themselves.

Have any of you discussed this subject with dancers? How do they intend to tell their kids what they do for a living, or if the kids found out on their own? (This subject is probably better suited for Stripperweb, but I'm not a member of that site.)