North vs. South
rickdugan
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The nice thing about being a traveling club hound is that I never get too sucked into the drama of any one road club or girl.
However, in recent years I have also had one or two local clubs that I hit when I am not traveling. When I was in the northeast, this was not such a bad thing. But doing this in the southeast has been more problematic. I am quickly getting sick of the Hee Haw drama that comes with all too many of these girls, everything up to and including drugs, silly con attempts, a girl blowing up my phone day and night in desperation, girls in and out of jail, all too many stories where kids were taken away from them, the self loathing of girls who grew up in the Bible belt and hated themselves for what they were doing, etc., etc.
I have quickly come to realize how spoiled I was. When my local clubs were in the northeast, I spent my time largely with beautiful, tough and classy girls who made things fun and were great OTC companions. Everyone knew the score and though they shared pieces of their lives with me, my time with them was free of drama. Maybe the fact that I gravitated towards Italian and Latina girls had something to do with it, as well as one Russian girl, but things were just so much more fun AND much simpler.
I had a stark reminder of this the other night, when I reconnected with a hot as hell ex-fav in a club I used to frequent in the northeast. She was funny, charming, completely focused on keeping me happy and free from silly drama. I was entertained by her first ITC and then later OTC and it was the best club night I have had in over a year. Why it is seemingly impossible to have something like this in my new favorite haunts I will never understand, but there it is.
I am not sure if this is really a North vs. South thing, but I will say that, even in the supposed high end clubs in my current locale, I cannot come close to replicating what I found in several clubs in the northeast. Don't get me wrong, OTC p4p is plentiful where I am now, but it always seems to come with drama or other complications.
However, in recent years I have also had one or two local clubs that I hit when I am not traveling. When I was in the northeast, this was not such a bad thing. But doing this in the southeast has been more problematic. I am quickly getting sick of the Hee Haw drama that comes with all too many of these girls, everything up to and including drugs, silly con attempts, a girl blowing up my phone day and night in desperation, girls in and out of jail, all too many stories where kids were taken away from them, the self loathing of girls who grew up in the Bible belt and hated themselves for what they were doing, etc., etc.
I have quickly come to realize how spoiled I was. When my local clubs were in the northeast, I spent my time largely with beautiful, tough and classy girls who made things fun and were great OTC companions. Everyone knew the score and though they shared pieces of their lives with me, my time with them was free of drama. Maybe the fact that I gravitated towards Italian and Latina girls had something to do with it, as well as one Russian girl, but things were just so much more fun AND much simpler.
I had a stark reminder of this the other night, when I reconnected with a hot as hell ex-fav in a club I used to frequent in the northeast. She was funny, charming, completely focused on keeping me happy and free from silly drama. I was entertained by her first ITC and then later OTC and it was the best club night I have had in over a year. Why it is seemingly impossible to have something like this in my new favorite haunts I will never understand, but there it is.
I am not sure if this is really a North vs. South thing, but I will say that, even in the supposed high end clubs in my current locale, I cannot come close to replicating what I found in several clubs in the northeast. Don't get me wrong, OTC p4p is plentiful where I am now, but it always seems to come with drama or other complications.
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More like a traveling faggot.
There'll be peace when you are done
Lay your weary head to rest
Don't you cry no more
Just think how you would have turned out if you had 7 brothers all named Billy-Bob and your mom and dad were first cousins.
*** SLAM DUNKED THAT FAGGOT RICKYBOY ***
Around here, I'd say there's a pretty even mix of both types of dancers. There's even even gradient along the way. There's no shortage of girls with packs of monkeys on their back, baby daddy drama, legal troubles, drama with other dancers, basically any and every kind of issue you can think of. There's also girls with goals, honest work ethic, and a morality that doesn't preclude much in this industry. There's also everything in between and every permutation of characteristics. Good like finding the perfect combo, but its certainly not like all the strippers in southern Florida are as bad as you describe.
@Lowpaw, no love for the greater Miami area? After all, we are the sixth borough. And our Latina's are Cuban instead of Mexican and we've got less Asians, but otherwise I get the impression the Wild West and Magic city aren't that different.
I also found that many more of the strippers in the greater New York area were ROBs. Very often I would encounter northern strippers who were very snarky about other dancers . And the New Your/New Jersey women particularly, were extremely foul mouthed. Many seemed to believe that shaving coochie, legs and pits about once a month was enough (it wasn't!).
Not every dancer was a loser personality. Some of the hottest and nicest women I've ever met were in clubs up there. My softened, slower, southern accent seemed to be very popular with dancers and I often received compliments on my manners and kindness, sometimes from the bitchy, foul mouthed dancers. I know part of it was cultural, but much of the complaining, bitching and language was distracting.
While my experience is over a decade in the past, it was also contemporaneous with trips to clubs in the Southeast and Southwest. From Miami and the Keys, through NOLA, Texas and Oklahoma I find bitchiness and meanness to be less common and smiles to seem more real. Hell, even the mid-west is much better than the Mid-Atlantic. Mileage may suck in the midwest (except ESL) but at least they are nice an honest about it. And my limited experience on the left coast indicated a better environment than New York.
Not to mention your all encompassing knowledge of the California beer, wine, and cannabis industry.
I have been to clubs that are wild west-ish in nature and the ones in Cali (that I have been to) don't come close to comparing.