OTC Experiences
When I first started dancing almost 2 months ago I told myself I would never meet with anyone outside of the club. I met a guy earlier this week though and I'm very attracted to him. We exchanged numbers and most likely are going to hang out some time this week. Most of the girls I've talked to that have met guys outside the club have a SD/SB situation happening and I'm not really into that concept.
ANYWAY I'm wondering what it was like for you guys the first time you met a girl outside the club
What did you guys do? Or if this is a regular thing for any of you maybe you can elaborate on some especially awesome or horrible experiences
ANYWAY I'm wondering what it was like for you guys the first time you met a girl outside the club
What did you guys do? Or if this is a regular thing for any of you maybe you can elaborate on some especially awesome or horrible experiences
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There is no implied sugar baby relationship either.
It is not rare at all that guys will want to take you out (date you) – but you must keep in mind where you met him and under what circumstances.
As you should know, guys often think w/ their penises especially when one is in a SC surrounded by naked women.
His sole motivation may be to just want to get into your pants b/c he was in, and met you in, a sexily charged circumstance/environment – that is why dancers and PL often just cut to the chase and do the P4P thing.
If you are not looking at it from a biz angle; then it should be like any other guy you would meet – i.e. go out to dinner etc. and get to know each other. If you are looking to get paid; then just be straight up.
Is your angle biz or just pleasure?
Every single solitary OTC relationship I've ever had with a dancer has been about sex for me and money for her, and both of us knew before going "out" that this was the point. In addition, with the exception of one person, meetups OTC were never about anything more.
Honestly, if I were you, I'd have a frank conversation with the guy, preferably before your "date", to make sure that it's going to be what both of you think it will be. If either of you finds out that your expectations won't be met, it's better to find that out *before* he picks up you and heads for the hotel room or you get your hair done special for dinner and a show.
Most of the posters on this board; especially the OTCers; are old dudes so of course their OTCing is going to be all about P4P.
But as Doug said, you mentioned you were attracted to him so I would imagine he is not too much, or way, older than you.
People meet people at their work place all the time so I imagine it’s not unheard off for dancers to meet BFs in clubs (they have to meet them somewhere) – you should just be aware that dudes are horn dogs to begin w/ and many are just looking to get laid whether he met you in a SC or not (and maybe more so if he met you in a SC).
It should be as any other guy you meet – you go out and then gauge his intentions. But again; the fact you are a dancer may make him think of you as possibly promiscuous and just a booty call – but one cannot know for sure.
I liked her, but she kept blowing up my phone all the time so I had to drop her pretty quick. Looking back though she was probably one of the best fucks I've ever had.
I agree with everything everyone has said so far, make sure you're both on the same page on what the expectations are.
Sounds like you're in more of a date situation. Just be careful like you would with any dude you don't really know.
That is the full range of options for OTC and you and he should decide up front what your meeting is to be.
As for my first OTC venture with a dancer? My good friend, Mr. Wood was quickly probing the depths of her delightful pink clam. All subsequent OTC adventures have been similar.
But to everyone else, especially Papi, I really appreciate the advice! :)
I like to make sure expectations are not way off before meeting up with someone unless the meeting is simply to discuss whatever. Maybe I'm jaded or too paranoid now. A couple of years ago one girl in a strip club approached me and said she wanted to take me back to her apartment so that I could do to her whatever I wanted. I was highly suspicious. Plus I just arrived at the club which was open several more hours and I just gulped down some beer before last call. I did not want to drive after drinking like that. I never saw her before. Maybe I did but do not remember. A dancer last night stopped me and said, you don't remember me do you? I did not. I think alcohol and time makes me forget everyone.
At one point I thought maybe I died and woke up in an alternate reality. So many people suddenly changed and were acting different. One girl did not even have breast implants anymore. Another suddenly lost like 40 pounds in only 3 or 4 months. It looked like she had never been fat. A couple of people who I never remembered seeing before acted like they knew me. Someone else who I had been friendly with suddenly acted a lot more distant.
If you want to pursue a "normal" relationship with this guy, you need to consider retiring from the dancing business.
And then there is that psycho alutard seriously thinks dating in the normal sense and paying a hooker for sex are equivalent so uses the word dating to also describe the latter...
Clubber,
Do you like old fat guys? I will PM you my number. Maybe we can meet OTC sometime.
I went with my ATF for HER to buy the truck. I was just there to watch her back. I always felt, with her, I was a father figure. She was 20 when we met and I was well over 50. She asked my advice often, and on many topics. The most expensive item I ever bought her was a handgun. Luckily, she never used it to protect herself against me! :)
Don't go in with high expectations.
Rachelmmm, it might be wise to get an idea of expectations, given where you met. He could be an idiot that thinks that strippers are only good for fucking. OTOH, the fact that you met in a SC may be irrelevant to him. That said, setting a specific agenda can kill all the fun. Most guys that go on a "regular" date are hoping for some adult fun at the end of the evening, but there's a thrill in the chase and the uncertainty. If he's still unsure if he's gonna get some, he'll have better table manners. :)
For you customers out there, if your expectations are low, it goes a long way if YOU make that clear up front. I never said "no sex", but I'd always couch my offer with words like "just" (e.g. "I just want to take you to dinner sometime").
The only thing that I would object to (in the rational responses) is the implication that us old farts only want sex out of an OTC experience; that we don't remember what it's like to date. Bullshit. None of my OTC's came with expectations on my part. In all of them, I had determined that I liked hanging with the dancer, that we had good conversation, and I wanted to spend more time with her at less than 300 dB. A nice bonus is turning heads at the restaurant as I walk in with a woman less than half my age -- you can almost *hear* people thinking, "How'd that fucker end up with *her*?"
We ended the evening up at inspiration point where I think I got to second base. Not sure. By golly we had a swell time.
If I wanted a date, I'd go out with my wife, which we do almost every week on a day where she doesn't work the next day. We do dinner, or a movie, or a play downtown, or we go down to the river and sit in the park and watch the water and boats go by.
I haven't forgotten what dating is like, and if I implied that I thought anyone else had, I didn't mean to. I just don't need "dating" from strippers. :)
I only pay for services rendered. To me otc is about meeting a stripper and fucking her. I scored with my first one in 2004 and did her on regular basis for 3 yr.
A stripper that just wants go shopping is a ROB. As a strip club player I make clear to them that if we meet otc then I expect pussy otherwise no me gonna pay.
LOL!
I didn't have anyone in particular in mind -- I just read the over-generalization at least twice. But in looking back at your post, I see nothing there like that. So no need to mea culpa.
I've never dated a dancer. I was friends with a dancer for a while but, for reasons I don't understand, she soured on me and didn't want to hang with me any more. Some dancers have gotten to know me well enough to do dances at my or their place. But we don't do anything we wouldn't do in the club (no "extras").