Am I getting played? Am I buying to the SC fantasy too much or is this stripper

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• Dougster

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  11 years ago

  OP: "We had instant chemistry, which is not unusual for me. I'm very personable, friendly, and make excellent money, so the girls are more than willing to invest time and energy with me trying to get dances. " If you're a guy like that, I think it's real for sure, stud. ;-) LOW! Funny story thanks for sharing. Made me chuckle.
• icedssg

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  11 years ago

  You're only being played the fool if you give her serious cash and get nothing from it. It sounds like that hasn't happened yet, so you're still in the running. I'd give it a chance but keep both eyes open. It's not impossible that she really just wants your dick. Improbable, yes -- the dancer/client relationship is something based on lies and cash, not truth and emotion. Not that there's anything wrong with that. Just keep in mind how hard it is to switch from the former to the latter. It's funny; I'm going through something similar and just happened to see this. My girl won't see me outside the club yet. We'll see.
• jackslash

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  11 years ago

  This is a well-written story. I don't know if the story is true or not. If it's true, she's playing you, and you need to run before takes you for every cent you've got.
• Dougster

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  11 years ago

  Seriously, OP, no offense intended, but I think she detected the ego, and is playing you. How do I know this? If you didn't bang her that, and have to ask her, sorry, but you ain't got that kind of game...
• Dougster

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  11 years ago

  ^^^ "bang her that night and have to ask here"
• dallas702

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  11 years ago

  She might be playing you. OR, she might be batshit crazy. OR, she might simply be a little flaky and horny as hell. OR, she might have a compulsion to ruin as many men's lives as she can. OR, she might have a compulsive need to belong to someone. OR, she might be the love of your life. Really, what are the odds?
• Joker420

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  11 years ago

  I would seat in your lap all night for that $600
• grand1511

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  11 years ago

  Your best bet is to submit this tale to Penthouse Letters.
• mjx01

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  11 years ago

  being played
• Joker420

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  11 years ago

  Go back and try it again handsome and dont pay her I dime and see how long she stays
• Dougster

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  11 years ago

  Also check out "MrSystem2's" threads on the subject of picking up/bouncing/Day2'ing/you name it strippers.
• Dougster

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  11 years ago

  Link to MrSystem2's profile: [view link]
• Alucard

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  11 years ago

  "You're only being played the fool" Yep.
• motorhead

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  11 years ago

  I kind of stopped reading when the "proof" she wasn't seeing anyone was allowing you to finger her wet pussy. Yup. Happens to me too. My ATF is married and I'm Fat and 25 years older than she is. Yup, that's proof. Lol
• Clackport

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  11 years ago

  Well you gave her 600 bucks, that's a good night for her. Obviously you will be paying for her flight if you fly her out to see you. I would say you're getting played. Who knows though, maybe she's into you.
• Essdub

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  11 years ago

  I don't know man, I think the best way to find out is to take a stab at some free OTC time the next time you're in town. I have my own recent conundrum of trying to detect SS from a girl that tried to hand back the money for a few LD's.
• Joker420

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  11 years ago

  Yea into his money ! Nice reference dougster....that dude knows his shit
• lopaw

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  11 years ago

  You're getting played like a fiddle. 13 years experience? Think you'd know better.
• sketchball

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  11 years ago

  Thank you all for your input. RE: "played like a fiddle" -- you're probably correct. I still have skepticism, which is why I posted this. RE: 13 years experience -- I am using that experience. I am telling you this right now, that girl made me believe that she meant what she said. Maybe she was rolling and felt it at the time; maybe I reminder her of her childhood best friend; maybe I'm the exact opposite of her that molested her and ex BF that broke her heart. I don't know. But I do know I bought her emotion. That is not something g I can recreate here. RE: truth of story -- This is 100% true as I remember it , with some other compelling details left out for brevity: it was already sooo long.
• Lone_Wolf

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  11 years ago

  Played. Keep it p4p (which it is). Don't give her any personal info where she can find you for when you want to disengage. Have a good time.
• sketchball

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  11 years ago

  Meh forgive my typos. Typing on an iPhone.
• Joker420

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  11 years ago

  "I do know I bought her emotion" Damn right you did stud about $600 worth
• bang69

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  11 years ago

  After all this time you haven't realised your getn played
• Joker420

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  11 years ago

  Lol
• sketchball

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  11 years ago

  Maybe I wasn't clear. I did pay her 600. But I gave her an out to go work the room for a few hours and she chose to stay. That along with the cell number is a large part of the reason I believe her on some levels. 600 at this club is an average night. I gave her the chance for a good night. She chose to stay. Maybe she's just great at her job, but when you're out of money, 99 stripper out of 100 move on. Maybe she was that 1/100. I dont know. ;)
• sketchball

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  11 years ago

  Well, maybe your right. Ty for reality check.
• Joker420

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  11 years ago

  " Maybe I wasn't clear. I did pay her 600. But I gave her an out to go work the room for a few hours and she chose to stay. That along with the cell number is a large part of the reason I believe her on some levels." I do the same thang stud but I pay $0.00 when i give that option and bitches still stay wit me. Also rick only pays $150 at the table and 35% of his bitches stay
• Joker420

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  11 years ago

  " 600 at this club is an average night. I gave her the chance for a good night. She chose to stay. Maybe she's just great at her job, but when you're out of money, 99 stripper out of 100 move on. Maybe she was that 1/100. I dont know. ;)" Have you not read the system by rickyboy ? Go to clubs that are dive bars were the girls are happy to make $600 a month killa
• Papi_Chulo

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  11 years ago

  a) you’re being played b) you’re playing us c) what chick worth her salt would let a guy she just met finger her. What chick worth her salt would say she doesn’t mind you having a GF and doesn’t mind you living out of the area and is willing to meet up w/ you by you flying her out to where you’re at – best case scenario is that you may not end up paying her $$$ *directly*; but you will be paying some how if it wasn’t for the pretty coherent writing; I would think this was one of Juice’s imaginative stories.
• Joker420

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  11 years ago

  Lol...thank you papi
• sketchball

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  11 years ago

  I have a sugar baby at a dive bar. I get her all night including sex behind the curtain included for 300. But sometimes I want to go to the premiere bars and see 50 hot girls nude. This thread isn't about strippers in general or getting bang for your buck. It's about the possibility that one particular stripper actually likes a customer. Surely that happens. Strippers are sometimes still little girls at heart. they have their crushes and dream of a knight in shining armor to change their life... That's fine. Some don't want men and love their life. It depends on the girl. I'm just trying to recognize if I'm being manipulated or if this is one of those (rare) situations where the girl does like a client. But as always. Thanks.
• sketchball

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  11 years ago

  @papi. Good point. Maybe she just wants a sugar daddy.
• Joker420

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  11 years ago

  Suger daddy aka juicebox69
• ilbbaicnl

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  11 years ago

  I've heard that kind of stuff a couple times. Turned out to be long con SS.
• Ermita_Nights

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  11 years ago

  Unlike the other cynics on here, I'd say it's possible and you should follow up. Too soon to tell for sure. But watch your back. This kind of situation is unlikely, but in 13 years of clubbing it could happen. Be sure to report back here. We all want to know what happens.
• Lone_Wolf

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  11 years ago

  OP: I wonder what "not getting played" would look like here. The honey makes at least $600 a night so if she traveled for you it would only be right to make up her lost income...right? Airline fare, Restaurants, hotels, gifts...man, it would be easy to sink a couple grand easy into this. Heck, she might just be worth it but not getting played looks a lot like getting played in that scenario. Best of luck and do report back.
• crazyjoe

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  11 years ago

  You haven't figured out the game after 13 years?
• crazyjoe

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  11 years ago

  And everyone calls alucard dumb
• Estafador

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  11 years ago

  You have two problems here: 1) your asking advice of a bunch of cynics who strictly get their pussy by p4p. They shall be hard pressed to believe you can get stripper punany any other way without extenuating circumstances which you have given none...for them. 2) have you ever considered that this girl may be a low ball quota kind of girl. You gave $600 beans for little to no work and probably knows not many people there will do that type of dishing or any type of dishing for the rest of the night. Besides maybe as said before she hit her quota. She could be one of those girls who don't want to work after hitting their goal I.e. lazy (debatable but th e point is made). Hou just happened to be a good conversationalist. And now she is gonna try to manipulate you by saying she wants to be friends with benifits but you aren't her sugar daddy, wants you to "talk a good game" to let you buy her shit and eventually in her pantalones. In example, she want to take your money by making it seem like she wants to be your girlfriend. I kind of saw it when she said YOU pay for her flight out there. You barely know the chick and she wants YOU to fly her ass out there. If she was really digging you, she'd pay since she got a job but no woman worth her salt (kudos to papi _chulo) goes THAT hard for a man they just met. On the other hand, maybe she sees your a big roller on that jigga man level and assumes a plane ticket is nothing for you. She has been quite gwnerous with her time taking time out her day to give casual conversation and sending flirty pics to you. If she talks a good game and she really is digging you,then go on that date while your still in town. And when you go home, talk her into flying to you. Plane tickets ain't cheap for the middle class my brother. In any case good luck my friend.
• SlickSpic

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  11 years ago

  I say, life's an adventure and it's up to you to live it up. Spend your money wisely.
• farmerart

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  11 years ago

  Who cares if this girl is playing you or not? If you have the cash and no regrets about parting with that selfsame cash just go for it.
• samsung1

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  11 years ago

  This stripper is totally playing you. She thinks of you more like a sugar daddy instead of a boyfriend.
• skibum609

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  11 years ago

  Stradivarius used to be a violin maker and is now apparently a stripper.
• bvino

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  11 years ago

  If you have to ask then you are being played. I get this treatment fairly often (maybe 1 out 15 or so). I usually write them a nice thank you letter (without any contact info) and say I look forward to seeing them in the club. Who needs a stripper for a girlfriend? regular women are enough trouble as it is without the overlay of exhibitionism, substance abuse and social diseases. I love em' all but only up to a point.
• SlickSpic

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  11 years ago

  The sad thing about the confidence game is the shame that goes along with it. Nobody wants to be a mark. Nobody wants to get conned. It's one of the reasons why victims of con games don't always report it to the authorities. Who wants to admit to being a sucker? Learn from your experiences and help out others with the knowledge that you've gleaned.
• sketchball

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  11 years ago

  Thanks all for the comments. If there is one thing this thread has taught me its that no one has a bloody clue. Many think they do. I think the wisest that responded were unsure and hedged their answers. Nevertheless, I appreciate all answers. It makes makes natural sense though. If I don't know and I experienced it, then how could you? I think with thoughts of the heart, the people in the circle always know more than people outside of the circle. Emotions by there very nature cannot be explained, only felt and later told they were felt, and I genuinely believe they were there for both of us. There were a few people that stated thoughts to the effect of "what does it matter? If you enjoyed your time with her and she gives you more, money or not it's worth it." You have given me the confidence to keep texting. Thank you. We had a long conversation today where she opened up after I expressed my concerns. She told me that ideally she would want a few dates to see if we are compatible enough to get into a traditional relationship, but since I'm not in the area and already have a girlfriend, that is off the table. She is not interested in being a fling on the side, and if we get into any relationship, she wants to know the boundaries. So we agreed to talk and see if a variant of a sugar relationship is appropriate. She does not want any money, only my time and my word that I will cover all expenses to see her at some regular interval. She did make the joke that of course she would not complain if I bought her the "occasional gift, and her favorite jewelry is Tiffany's!" It made me laugh. I believe her. Whether I am being played the fool or not is now irrelevant as the fantasy is real enough in mind. If I believe it, well that's real enough for me. Thank you all, and I'll check in again down the road to let everyone know what came of this.
• Dougster

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  11 years ago

  Oh, well, in that case, looks like we were wrong. Sorry about that, stud. LOL!
• SlickSpic

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  11 years ago

  Since we're all clueless, then maybe Sketchball can invent his own System.
• sketchball

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  11 years ago

  I don't have a system. Sometimes you get lucky. >.> I've had hundreds if not thousands of lappies over the year. This is a first for me. Blind leading the blind my friend. xD
• Dougster

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  11 years ago

  sketch: "Blind leading the blind my friend" You'll see. :-)
• sagevincent

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  11 years ago

  @Sketchball: Like others said, it's not impossible, but quite improbable. Really, what are the odds that a dancer of exactly your type happens to have a crush on you, and wants to be your friends with benefits even through you already have a girlfriends? Let's make an educated guess. Let's say, for example, on average you find a dancer of exactly your type every other visit. So the odds are about 1/30. Let's suppose that a dancer genuinely has a crush on a customer once a month, that's a quite generous chance, right? Suppose she works 3 shifts a week, and sees about 50 customers per shift, that means she has a chance of 1/600 to fall in love with a customer. But what are the odds that she does not want your money OTC, and just wants to date you even if you have a girlfriend? I will throw in another odds of 1/10. So the chance of all these things happen is 1/30*1/600*1/10=1/180,000. That is , on average you should expect to meet 120,000 dancers to have one such occurrence. Not impossible; improbable, indeed. Without further information, that would be my guess. Maybe you have a lower standard for the "ideal type", or maybe you are supper attractive to dancers or this dancer has a lower standard for crushes, or she has lower morality on dating. That would increase the odds. Make your own adjustments. Now the positive side. You said you have been clubbing for 13 years. I don't know how often did you go or how many dancers you have met over the years. Suppose that you club every week, and for each time you see 15 new faces. Then over the years you have met 13*52*15=10,140 dancers. I will skip the math, but the chance that the situation happens (at least once) is about 10% over the years. So if you really never have this feeling with any other dancers before, that increases the odds of this being true to 7%. Still low, but I would say within the reasonable range to give it a shot. It's your call, and you have my best wishes. Just be careful, and keep us update.
• sagevincent

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  11 years ago

  (Type corrected, sorry!) @Sketchball: Like others said, it's not impossible, but quite improbable. Really, what are the odds that a dancer of exactly your type happens to have a crush on you, and wants to be your friends with benefits even through you already have a girlfriends? Let's make an educated guess. Let's say, for example, on average you find a dancer of exactly your type every other visit. So the odds are about 1/30. Let's suppose that a dancer genuinely has a crush on a customer once a month, that's a quite generous chance, right? Suppose she works 3 shifts a week, and sees about 50 customers per shift, that means she has a chance of 1/600 to fall in love with a customer. But what are the odds that she does not want your money OTC, and just wants to date you even if you have a girlfriend? I will throw in another odds of 1/10. So the chance of all these things happen is 1/30*1/600*1/10=1/180,000. That is , on average you should expect to meet 180,000 dancers to have one such occurrence. Not impossible; improbable, indeed. Without further information, that would be my guess. Maybe you have a lower standard for the "ideal type", or maybe you are supper attractive to dancers or this dancer has a lower standard for crushes, or she has lower morality on dating. That would increase the odds. Make your own adjustments. Now the positive side. You said you have been clubbing for 13 years. I don't know how often did you go or how many dancers you have met over the years. Suppose that you club every week, and for each time you see 15 new faces. Then over the years you have met 13*52*15=10,140 dancers. I will skip the math, but the chance that the situation happens (at least once) is about 7% over the years. So if you really never have this feeling with any other dancers before, that increases the odds of this being true to 7%. Still low, but I would say within the reasonable range to give it a shot. It's your call, and you have my best wishes. Just be careful, and keep us update.
• Ermita_Nights

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  11 years ago

  Sage, events of essentially zero probability happen all the time. Look at the lottery. The chances that you or I will fall in love with a stripper and live happily ever after are close to zero. The chances it will happen to someone on tuscl at some time are pretty good.