Has anyone ever gotten a call at 4:30 in the morning from a favorite dancer asking for bail? It was a simple possession charge ( class F synthetic) whatever that means in NH and after her spending 2 nights in jail I sprung for it. Thoughts?
The funny thing is she and her BF moved to the boondocks to dry out. They both haven't used in 10 days and didn't realize they had paraphenelia in the car ( 1 syringe, 2 crack pipes, and a bent scorched spoon). They both requested drug testing at the jail and didn't get it. I've known her for 4 years and have seen her go up to 6 months not using, but something always triggers her back to the smack. She's been in detox and rehab 17 times and yet she can be the nicest, sweetest, young woman.
Don't know about you Gawk, I couldn't blame anyone who couldn't deal with seeing me naked while sober.
So speaking of bail. I met up with an escort in a hotel. She strips, and huge disappointment, not what I was expecting from "her" pictures. But suddenly, her phones rings. She goes in the bathroom, talks for a few minutes. Comes up, says she has to bail somebody out, gives me back the money (yes really all of it) and I'm out of there. I'm thinking, maybe there is a God after all.
No, but one Saturday afternoon I stopped in to see a fave. First time I had not seen her working a Saturday afternoon. Saw her car in the lot Sunday and made a point to stop in. She had been arrested Friday night released Saturday, but didn't come in. I offered help, but she said none was needed. She was with a friend and her loser bf. The dickhead when into an unattended cops car and took something. She said she thought it was a gun, but if so, the cop should have been run in as well. Personally, I don't think it was a gun. Perhaps a taser.
I got the call about a year ago and tried to help her out but was not able to. I called her sister and explained the situation to her. She called the jail but neither of us could do anything because she had to have a bond hearing first for the judge to set the bond. Her mother eventually posted the bond because she was closer and I didn't have to. She is still a regular OTC for me and has cost me Thousands though over the years.
Not from a dancer. Why is it that whenever somebody calls you from jail, they all have the same response-"Man, I'm in here for some BULLSHIT!" It's always some bullshit.
In this case it's pure stupidity. She knew the house she went to had a drug dealer living there. She knew someone who'd been arrested leaving the house the week before. She should have known she had shit in her car. It won't surprise me one bit if she forfeits bail and leaves the state.
Farmerart - you, of course are right. My friends tell me that; my therapist tells me that; other dancers tell me that. I know that. But every time I've done so I end up searching for her, worrying about her and seeking her out. About a month ago we had it out. I called her a cheap whore and she corrected me: "I ain't cheap!" She told me to go fuck myself, said I ought to stay home & take care of my sick wife. She said she never wanted to see me again and I could take my money and shove it up my ass.
Within a week I drove by the club where she worked, saw her car, and went in for one drink. She rushed me as I came through the door, crying, said I was the only stability in her life; that I had taught her how a "normal" relationship could work and she needed me in her life.
Now cognitively, I know that's 90% stripper shit. In my heart, it felt so good to be wanted, to hold her scrawny frame in my arms, and to be with her listening to her drama. We've been together more than 4 years and I know her friends, I know her family. When she got arrested and called me at 4:30 in the morning the call lasted 10 seconds before it cut off telling me how to set up an account to receive calls. The next day I called her father ( who's young enough to be my son) to learn he wasn't bailing her out. Then her boy friend (who knows I've been banging her more than he has for 4 years) called me to borrow $500. to bail her out. Strange? Definitely. The boy friend's mother called me to thank me for getting her out. Strange? By all means.
I have never dreamed of riding off into the sunset with her. When we've travelled I've learned that taking her in full day segments is very different than taking her in one hour segments. But when it's for an hour or two it is heaven.
Do I see an end in sight? Most definately. She stands as good a chance of cleaning up her act this time as ever. If and when the drugs are out of her system I expect she and her BF will move and that'll do it. Financially, I can't keep spending at the same rate I have been, so things will move along. Until then... Maybe one more time.
Are you making an effort to give local escorts and other P4P dancers a try?
To me, a big part of the satisfaction of being a PL is seeing your donee enjoying her life more, and/or giving her kids advantages they would not otherwise have. You might find it easier to disengage from your ATF once you experience a more positive situation as an alternative.
Ibbainaci - I have had some magical moments with escorts all over the country. I've found the ladies in the southern cities to be the best value.
SlickSpic - good advice. I've lived with that mantra for the past decade and while I've been burned a few times, I wouldn't change a thing. There's no room for regrets.
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So speaking of bail. I met up with an escort in a hotel. She strips, and huge disappointment, not what I was expecting from "her" pictures. But suddenly, her phones rings. She goes in the bathroom, talks for a few minutes. Comes up, says she has to bail somebody out, gives me back the money (yes really all of it) and I'm out of there. I'm thinking, maybe there is a God after all.
Don't do it at all say I.
Don't you think, just maybe, it might be time to cut this one loose?
Within a week I drove by the club where she worked, saw her car, and went in for one drink. She rushed me as I came through the door, crying, said I was the only stability in her life; that I had taught her how a "normal" relationship could work and she needed me in her life.
Now cognitively, I know that's 90% stripper shit. In my heart, it felt so good to be wanted, to hold her scrawny frame in my arms, and to be with her listening to her drama. We've been together more than 4 years and I know her friends, I know her family. When she got arrested and called me at 4:30 in the morning the call lasted 10 seconds before it cut off telling me how to set up an account to receive calls. The next day I called her father ( who's young enough to be my son) to learn he wasn't bailing her out. Then her boy friend (who knows I've been banging her more than he has for 4 years) called me to borrow $500. to bail her out. Strange? Definitely. The boy friend's mother called me to thank me for getting her out. Strange? By all means.
I have never dreamed of riding off into the sunset with her. When we've travelled I've learned that taking her in full day segments is very different than taking her in one hour segments. But when it's for an hour or two it is heaven.
Do I see an end in sight? Most definately. She stands as good a chance of cleaning up her act this time as ever. If and when the drugs are out of her system I expect she and her BF will move and that'll do it. Financially, I can't keep spending at the same rate I have been, so things will move along. Until then... Maybe one more time.
To me, a big part of the satisfaction of being a PL is seeing your donee enjoying her life more, and/or giving her kids advantages they would not otherwise have. You might find it easier to disengage from your ATF once you experience a more positive situation as an alternative.
SlickSpic - good advice. I've lived with that mantra for the past decade and while I've been burned a few times, I wouldn't change a thing. There's no room for regrets.