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I’ve got a new GF who has made some porn flicks and done some escorting, but she’s adamant that she wants a new life and to leave the rest in the past. However she’s been broke and I’ve not been much help so she made some calls and went to LA to make one last high end porn flick. She negotiated a deal for residuals based on the number of viewers. The producer/costar told her that she’ll probably earn $3000 per month for the first year decreasing after that. Most of the male stars previous videos have been on Blacked or BlackedRaw. She is returning next week and I’m planning on us spending a week together 24/7. I’m expecting to pay for meals and entertainment if we leave her apartment, but things are close to getting serious and I know she’ll have no cash for a couple of months and it’ll be next to impossible for me to support her, so I’ve been thinking of recommending that she work at a high end strip club in downtown Boston. Her apartment is about a mile from the club and my ATF once told me that dancers there do really well. My dilemma: I believe her that she’s fed up being a sex worker. Stripping does not require one to be a sex worker. Is it wrong for me to point her in this direction?
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So, is it wrong? No, I don't think so. It's not ideal, but it's not wrong. She has to make money somehow, and unless she has another skill or qualification, then working in a clean(er) club seems like a realistic option. At least for now. In terms of sex work, she might need to distance herself gradually before she can get away entirely.
The risk is that you can almost guarantee that some guy will offer her a stack of money to go OTC, and then she'll have to deal with the possibility of backsliding into full-on sex work. But, that's her choice to make. To some degree, she needs to be responsible for her own life and well being.
Please don't spend money on her that you can't afford. I've said it before, but I never found any of your ATF stories remotely entertaining or cool. I'd rather not read any similar stories about your new girl. I understand that there are some significant differences between your new girlfriend and your ATF, but my point remains.
If she is serious about retiring from sex work, I would be very cautious about "pushing" her to dance, even at a high-end, presumably clean club!
At this stage of a new relationship, this is the time to support her goals and dreams. I don't suggest you go down any path that could be seen as implying she is not worth or qualified to do something new.
Instead, how about supporting her goals by leveraging your life and professional experiences. Sit with her and look up job ads in the area together - entry level or any level. See if she needs help creating a resume, or maybe she interested in getting more education. Perhaps she has some assets she doesn't realize are convertible to cash or loan collateral? Maybe you have some professional or personal network connections that can employ her without judging her past history?
She probably with you because she values your experience and wisdom. Show her she is correct!
It's really great to read your posts.
Any entry level job for anyone has to cater to their skill set. If they want something different
I understand she’s best qualified to strip and she could do well with her beauty and sexiness, but I would recommend she avoid that line of work. I know she will need money, but it’s not smart to guide her towards another job that involves sex work.
I know her past is messy - and likely complicated. There are also barriers to her finding legitimate office type work.
Here’s an odd - but possibly worthwhile idea. See if she can find work as a housekeeper in a suburb of Boston. Not with one of those maid services, but on her own. It’s not going to pay much at the beginning, but it could develop into more as folks get comfortable with her, and they begin to trust her in their homes.
There are many immigrants in my area who work as housekeepers and nannies. Some are her legally - and some are not. They can make decent money if they are reliable and trustworthy. Some families run full checks on them, and others keep a watchful eye until trust is built. It’s a lot cheaper to not declare this type of help on your taxes.
The major issue is she’s gorgeous and it’s possible someone will see her porn scenes, and that will kill most of her prospects.
I knew one of the young 20 something moms at my daughters grammar school - and she was hot - but not porn level hot. She was in the country illegally, and she had a good number of homes she cleaned and she did pretty well.
If she can live w/ someone/family and not have to pay bills, then perhaps she can work a part-time vanilla-job while going to school – but if she has to pay her own bills/rent then a part-time-job likely won’t cut-it and a full-time-job would make it much harder to do school.
What do you mean by stall or test. You mean she thinks gawker is lying about being able to support her as some sort of tesr?