Work, work, work

It's splitting hairs a bit, but stripping is often thought of as sex work, even if the stripper works completely clean. I suspect what she wants is to get entirely away the entire sex industry (regardless of it requiring actual sex), and given that she has worked both in porn and escorting it's understandable. It sounds like she's just done with all of it.

So, is it wrong? No, I don't think so. It's not ideal, but it's not wrong. She has to make money somehow, and unless she has another skill or qualification, then working in a clean(er) club seems like a realistic option. At least for now. In terms of sex work, she might need to distance herself gradually before she can get away entirely.

The risk is that you can almost guarantee that some guy will offer her a stack of money to go OTC, and then she'll have to deal with the possibility of backsliding into full-on sex work. But, that's her choice to make. To some degree, she needs to be responsible for her own life and well being.

Please don't spend money on her that you can't afford. I've said it before, but I never found any of your ATF stories remotely entertaining or cool. I'd rather not read any similar stories about your new girl. I understand that there are some significant differences between your new girlfriend and your ATF, but my point remains.

I'll put it more directly, stripping is sex work. It's legal sex work, just like making porn, but it's still sex work.

If she is serious about retiring from sex work, I would be very cautious about "pushing" her to dance, even at a high-end, presumably clean club!

At this stage of a new relationship, this is the time to support her goals and dreams. I don't suggest you go down any path that could be seen as implying she is not worth or qualified to do something new.

Instead, how about supporting her goals by leveraging your life and professional experiences. Sit with her and look up job ads in the area together - entry level or any level. See if she needs help creating a resume, or maybe she interested in getting more education. Perhaps she has some assets she doesn't realize are convertible to cash or loan collateral? Maybe you have some professional or personal network connections that can employ her without judging her past history?

She probably with you because she values your experience and wisdom. Show her she is correct!

Gawker. Put her on a winning and do some career management for her. Get her working a club and help her manage and enhance her earning potential. Youre already a tuscl legend. This will be an epic chapter for you.

It's really great to read your posts.

*put her on a winning team

The question to ask is "what other marketable skills does she have?" If she speaks English well enough, she could be a hostess or waitress at a fine restaurant. If she knows her way around a liquor cabinet, could she bartend? Does she have experience in common Microsoft office apps, could she be a receptionist or Executive Assistant?

Any entry level job for anyone has to cater to their skill set. If they want something different

Fucking post button. ...different then they'll have to attend community college or night school or online courses for the career they want. The good news for her is that she's HOT. She has access to more jobs than a plain Jane or fugly. She needs to remember to keep eating right and working out to stay hot so she can get the better job once she's ready for it.

Gammanu, do you mean being hot gives her access to even more professional jobs? If she’s getting hired because of her hotness in professional career jobs, that might involve her fucking the hiring manager or something

Lol - Kind of a trolly post.

My thought is stripping is not where she wants to be. She’s been through the proverbial ringer sexually, and it is likely important for her to take an emotional break.

I understand she’s best qualified to strip and she could do well with her beauty and sexiness, but I would recommend she avoid that line of work. I know she will need money, but it’s not smart to guide her towards another job that involves sex work.

I know her past is messy - and likely complicated. There are also barriers to her finding legitimate office type work.

Here’s an odd - but possibly worthwhile idea. See if she can find work as a housekeeper in a suburb of Boston. Not with one of those maid services, but on her own. It’s not going to pay much at the beginning, but it could develop into more as folks get comfortable with her, and they begin to trust her in their homes.

There are many immigrants in my area who work as housekeepers and nannies. Some are her legally - and some are not. They can make decent money if they are reliable and trustworthy. Some families run full checks on them, and others keep a watchful eye until trust is built. It’s a lot cheaper to not declare this type of help on your taxes.

The major issue is she’s gorgeous and it’s possible someone will see her porn scenes, and that will kill most of her prospects.

I knew one of the young 20 something moms at my daughters grammar school - and she was hot - but not porn level hot. She was in the country illegally, and she had a good number of homes she cleaned and she did pretty well.

She seems to have no $$$ and no skills other than sex-work – if she wants a better/different life, then she may need to get an education/some-skills; doesn’t necessarily mean she has to go to college if it’s not something she can handle; but perhaps a 1 or 2 year degree/certification in something that she can handle – being a dancer may afford her enough funds and enough time-flexibility for her to go to school and/or get some skills in something.

If she can live w/ someone/family and not have to pay bills, then perhaps she can work a part-time vanilla-job while going to school – but if she has to pay her own bills/rent then a part-time-job likely won’t cut-it and a full-time-job would make it much harder to do school.

Sorry gawker it just all seems like a far-fetched, perverted fairy tale. A woman who has acted in porn, but wouldn't be aware of the option of stripper without you telling her about it? And who is going to blindly do whatever you suggest? She's horny for you? Or, she's going to have sex with you for dinners at Olive Garden, like a naive 14-year-old runaway you met by lurking at the bus station?

None of this makes sense to me. A naive, little bo-peep stripper? Just because the OP made it plain, he cannot support her, doesn't mean that she believes him and isn't thinking it's a stall or a test.

All he has to do is help her with a set schedule as to what clubs she works. Help her budget. Let her take care of him...

^ wow just like mommy.....

Skibum or someone
What do you mean by stall or test. You mean she thinks gawker is lying about being able to support her as some sort of tesr?

Gawker’s problems are always entertaining.

I have a somewhat similar problem with a stripper I know. She looks exactly like Rihanna. In exchange for me checking her for belly button lint, she has anal sex with me every night. They make it rain hundred dollar bills on her at the club. She tears them up and throws them in her hamster cage for the hamster to nest in. I've thought about suggesting to her that she give her hamster shredded newspaper instead, and use the money to buy stuff. But I'm torn morally, because, after all, it's her money, not mine.