I'm probably going to take a lot of crap for this, but oh well. On a recent visit to a club, they had a deal where you could go to a semi-VIP area (3 songs for $40- so about 10 minutes for $40). I happened to get into a nice, meaningful conversation with a girl at my table, and I eventually took her up on the 3-dance special. I was feeling low-key, so I tried something new. She didn't do any dances for me. She sat on my lap in the corner and I put my arms around her for the 3-song duration and we talked a bit. She was gorgeous and it was damn nice.
Now, I'm as intrigued by nice grinds and prospective extras as everyone else here--most of the time. Every once in awhile, though, I'd rather just put my arms around a girl for a bit. This is weird, I know. Not sure why this would be. Anybody else ever get like this? (Also feel free to tell me I'm wasting money--hehe).
Shadowcat has it right. Sure its not weird to just want to cuddle. Most men at some point just want that romantic aspect of their lady right besides them. Its a waste of money though. You can do that shit for free on the couch before you decide to do anu lap dances and when your ready finally buy some dances. Otherwise if that's ALL your gonna do all night (big time waster there). Just eventually give the girl $10 for her time or even $20.
" Every once in awhile, though, I'd rather just put my arms around a girl for a bit. This is weird?"
No it is not weird. Nothing wrong with liking to hold & embrace another human being, especially a woman.
But it seems some of the above feel the need to make a bit of a joke about it. Or perhaps they cannot admit to themselves that they MIGHT have a tender side. That wouldn't MIX with the high testosterone, intensely rough masculine image that is being portrayed.
My clubbing has included great grinds, full contact two-ways, and extras.
BUT when I worked at a very stressful job there were times I just wanted to go to my fav club, escape the "real" world for awhile, watch attractive women strip nude, sit and talk and cuddle. Afterwards, stress-free for now I went home and got a good night's sleep.
You liked it; it worked for you, then it was worth it. Arguing over $ at that level is like beating yourself up for buying at Sam's club instead of driving 10 miles to Costco to save .98 on an item!
Last Thursday after My ATF finished me I took care of her orally then she sat for about 10 minutes just holding on to me around the neck I gave her 60 bucks we were back there about 30 minutes It felt pretty good its always funny to lay in bed with the wife who hates me smelling the stripper who laughs with me on my fingers I feel like a 14 year old after a night with her
Alucard is right. I have a tender side. Ten years ago, my CF at the time had an unwelcomed admirer. This asshole tried to follow her home one day. She called me up and was frantic. She didn't know what to do. I instructed her to drive right on over as fast as possible. She pulled up, got out of her car, and ran to me. She pointed out the car and I took down the license plate number. I called up a cousin who works for the DMV and a cousin who breaks bones for a living. In a weeks time, I let this ex-CF know that she wouldn't have anymore problems with her stalker. And they say chivalry is dead. Old Slick is as tender as they come.
IronDude... You should do whatever makes you happy my brother. LDK is one of the coolest dudes on here. Why...'cos the dude digs the whole jizz in trou gig and doesn't care if other folks give him shit. That be truly coo-el.
If you dig the cuddling you should cuddle away my friend. Just like LDK should ignore his detractors that try to act like their great because it takes 4 Viagra, a pound of Green M&Ms, and a girl willing to let you assfuck her while she DPs herself with a 12 inch dildo while wearing electrified nipple clamps. Hey, I'm not saying everydude should indulge in the jizz in trou or the cuddling. Hell, if the pervo special (anal penetration of DP girl that wears electrified nipple clamps) you should try to find a girl that is willing.
Although not the norm for me; I have been there myself.
I like cuddling and the GFE thing; but I rather get more bang for my buck doing other things.
I also realize a dancer’s time is $$$; so if I want any kind of special attention from her for any length of time; I feel compelled to pay her for her time and loss of potential income while she is tending to my PL needs.
I had a dancer sitting on my lap and my hands were around her. I told her I didn't want a dance for the time being and she didn't leave. Didn't cost me anything. It was kind of sexy since she had her top off. I was relaxing and she joined me. She went up on stage after a while. I was thinking that tactic will probably work eventually on getting me interested in getting more lap dances. I do not remember her dancing for me but I have been tipping her on stage. I cut back my spending on lap dances some this past weekend. After a certain point, lots of dances doesn't seem as fun. I took it as a sign I was tired and left.
Spending $60 with a dancer provides more value than throwing it up on stage and walking off but I usually like to get more with my money. Others are free to throw their money around however they like. I prefer they do not cause dance prices or other prices to go up though.
Lopaw shush! That's not the way to get into bi-curious chick's panties, by just admitting that. You gotta give them that "I won't just use you for sex like a man would" crap.
Seriously though, like Clubber said - who gives a fuck what any of us think. Its your money, if you had a good time its all good. The only thing I'd say is be careful losing the line between her time spent selling you those services and the time spent actually giving you those services. Today, you were good with just cuddling in the dance room and that's cool. However, it can be a slippery slope. Next time, you could do something very similar out front and the two of you may have different understanding of what's going on. If you think she's just "selling" and she thinks your "buying" it can lead to trouble. IMO, the dance room is a good differentiator - time spent in there is charged by the song while time out front is on her dime.
YOu should figure out what kind of experience you want at the club, and no apologies to anyone who doesn't like it.
The only alarm bells ringing for me on all-cuddling is the extent to which this is an indication you are completely desperate for intimacy, and that makes you vulnerable in the club to predatory strippers. Worth thinking about whether you can address that outside the club. This is as opposed to someone who like some cuddling with his stripper, but is looking for something more substantively sexual. If you can do a gut-check and say you're not vulnerable in the club, then do you thing
@ilbbaicnl- lol, well of course I would never admit that to the ladies....only here amongst the PL brethen. With the girlies I lie thru my teeth about loving the after sex cuddles, then slowly gnaw off my arm from underneath her so that I can escape.
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Really now, why worry what others think? It's your life. Enjoy it YOUR way!
No it is not weird. Nothing wrong with liking to hold & embrace another human being, especially a woman.
But it seems some of the above feel the need to make a bit of a joke about it. Or perhaps they cannot admit to themselves that they MIGHT have a tender side. That wouldn't MIX with the high testosterone, intensely rough masculine image that is being portrayed.
My clubbing has included great grinds, full contact two-ways, and extras.
BUT when I worked at a very stressful job there were times I just wanted to go to my fav club, escape the "real" world for awhile, watch attractive women strip nude, sit and talk and cuddle. Afterwards, stress-free for now I went home and got a good night's sleep.
You liked it; it worked for you, then it was worth it. Arguing over $ at that level is like beating yourself up for buying at Sam's club instead of driving 10 miles to Costco to save .98 on an item!
If you dig the cuddling you should cuddle away my friend. Just like LDK should ignore his detractors that try to act like their great because it takes 4 Viagra, a pound of Green M&Ms, and a girl willing to let you assfuck her while she DPs herself with a 12 inch dildo while wearing electrified nipple clamps. Hey, I'm not saying everydude should indulge in the jizz in trou or the cuddling. Hell, if the pervo special (anal penetration of DP girl that wears electrified nipple clamps) you should try to find a girl that is willing.
To thine own self be true my brother.
I like cuddling and the GFE thing; but I rather get more bang for my buck doing other things.
I also realize a dancer’s time is $$$; so if I want any kind of special attention from her for any length of time; I feel compelled to pay her for her time and loss of potential income while she is tending to my PL needs.
Seriously though, like Clubber said - who gives a fuck what any of us think. Its your money, if you had a good time its all good. The only thing I'd say is be careful losing the line between her time spent selling you those services and the time spent actually giving you those services. Today, you were good with just cuddling in the dance room and that's cool. However, it can be a slippery slope. Next time, you could do something very similar out front and the two of you may have different understanding of what's going on. If you think she's just "selling" and she thinks your "buying" it can lead to trouble. IMO, the dance room is a good differentiator - time spent in there is charged by the song while time out front is on her dime.
The only alarm bells ringing for me on all-cuddling is the extent to which this is an indication you are completely desperate for intimacy, and that makes you vulnerable in the club to predatory strippers. Worth thinking about whether you can address that outside the club. This is as opposed to someone who like some cuddling with his stripper, but is looking for something more substantively sexual. If you can do a gut-check and say you're not vulnerable in the club, then do you thing
@Dolfan - I know, right?