I thought I could resist
masonseth69
So I've been seeing my ATF OTC for a little bit now. The reason I came to the board was to look for some advice navigating from seeing this girl at the club to the OTC experience. So far, it's been great.... she's gorgeous and actually a lot to hang out with.
From reading some discussions on this board, I was prepared for the first time that she'd ask be for money when she got herself in a jam. I was also prepared to say no. But alas, I couldn't say no when she asked for an 'advance'. It wasn't a huge amount and I kind of felt it was gesture of good will after our last outing together. She skipped her shift at the club for a 7pm to 12am commitment with me for drinks, gambling and the Super Thing... she ended up staying until 3:30 and never said anything about the extra time.
I'm not going to be able to see her for 3 weeks because of my schedule. So it'll be a while until I know if she 'pays her debts'. But wow, she knows how to turn on the charm. She did say that if I had any time she'd drop whatever she was doing and haul ass to meet me.... so I've got that to think about for 3 weeks.
From reading some discussions on this board, I was prepared for the first time that she'd ask be for money when she got herself in a jam. I was also prepared to say no. But alas, I couldn't say no when she asked for an 'advance'. It wasn't a huge amount and I kind of felt it was gesture of good will after our last outing together. She skipped her shift at the club for a 7pm to 12am commitment with me for drinks, gambling and the Super Thing... she ended up staying until 3:30 and never said anything about the extra time.
I'm not going to be able to see her for 3 weeks because of my schedule. So it'll be a while until I know if she 'pays her debts'. But wow, she knows how to turn on the charm. She did say that if I had any time she'd drop whatever she was doing and haul ass to meet me.... so I've got that to think about for 3 weeks.
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“… It wasn't a huge amount …â€
That is how it starts my friend – if she goes for the whole shebang right off the bat; she knows she may or will scare/turn you off.
“… She did say that if I had any time she'd drop whatever she was doing and haul ass to meet me …â€
She’s “hauling ass†to try to get paid – I don’t think it’s about you – but I could be wrong.
I think you may be giving her more credit than she deserves and may be seeing her in a way she does not see you even if it feels different – time will tell.
Hoping this works out well and turns out into a long term deal. Working out the details for a Vegas trip.
In the “real world†– yes perhaps give people the benefit of the doubt – in “stripper world†– assume the worse until proven differently IMO.
If a woman you don’t know very well or very long starts asking you for money – that is a RED flag. Be on the lookout for more tales of financial drama from her – they’ll probably be a coming.
I know better, but I have loaned strippers money. They did not repay it. My only advice is to give them no more than you can easily afford to lose.
I loaned my ex-ATF amounts from $50 to $300, which I could afford. But once she asked to borrow $5000 and I said no. If I had given her that much, I would have lost both the money and my ATF.
If the risk pays off, she's happy and maybe I get what I like to think of as 'preferred status'.
I suggest that you consider any monies handed over to her as gone. You'll be happier not stressing over the pay back. If she *does* pay you back, either in cash or in trade, consider yourself ahead of the game. But the next time she comes looking for a loan, treat they one as a gift, too.
I'll post the results in a few weeks when we are scheduled to spend quite a bit of time together.
“strippers†and “sense†often do not go hand in hand
For me, it comes down to value. If a dancer is taking care of me, I don't mind giving extra cash. If it is just an unproven prospect, no way am I giving cash beyond what she earned from services rindered. This, learned the hard expensive way.