So yeah this seriously happened to me at a strip club recently.
I went on a Saturday night just eight days ago to the Spearmint Rhino, in Lexington KY, and ran into a rude stripper. I had a couple hundred with me to spend, so it isn't like I am a rock or anything close, but I was focusing on getting dances from a few girls there I really liked.
The first time this rude dancer came up to me she asked if I wanted a dance and since I didn't want a dance from her I said maybe later. Most strippers don't come back after someone says that. However this girl didn't get the message. She came back later and asked for a dance. Even though I had money I lied and said that I didn't have any money just to get her to leave me alone so the strippers I wanted would come over. So she stated, "If you don't have money don't come here, maybe go to Applebees with your boyfriend." So I just reported her to a manager and said that I am going to Platinum Plus for now on. He was really apologetic about it at least.
All in all after the incident she left me alone and I bought a few dances and spent up my money. However I think my hard earned cash is going to the friendly girls at Platinum Plus in Lexington KY for now on.
The first time this rude dancer came up to me she asked if I wanted a dance and since I didn't want a dance from her I said maybe later. Most strippers don't come back after someone says that. However this girl didn't get the message. She came back later and asked for a dance. Even though I had money I lied and said that I didn't have any money just to get her to leave me alone so the strippers I wanted would come over. So she stated, "If you don't have money don't come here, maybe go to Applebees with your boyfriend." So I just reported her to a manager and said that I am going to Platinum Plus for now on. He was really apologetic about it at least.
All in all after the incident she left me alone and I bought a few dances and spent up my money. However I think my hard earned cash is going to the friendly girls at Platinum Plus in Lexington KY for now on.
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If you like that particular club, don't let one dancer deter you from going. If management did not handle your complaint properly, then I can understand. But honestly, while the dancer was rude and there is no excuse for it, you made a couple of mistakes in what you said to her which led to the rude comment.
All in all I am still somewhat discouraged about going back anytime soon. I think Platinum Plus is better even without the incident. I will go back eventually to the Rhino though.
A side benefit is that I don't have to keep track of to whom I told what lie. I'm an old man, the truth is just easier to remember.
Was this the case in omega22's example? Given how she freaked out later he probably did get a sense If her disrespect right off the bat, so his response was perfectly fine, or, at worst he miscalculated in what would get rid if her the fastest.
If she was perfectly respectful then I agree he should have acted in kind, but given what I've seen of typical stripper behavior I'll give the customer the benefit of the doubt.
Given how most stripper's go about their job, I don't think they deserve inherent respect just because they work, since most, at the end if the day, are inherently very dishonest. Since 2% are decent people however, I'll wait until the other 98% prove to me they are not before I respond in kind. Takes most of them just a few seconds. If other guys, however, just want to play the odds I have no problem with that.
If strippers don't like the reputations they have earned and hence ate assumed bad by default that is just tough shit for them for putting zero effort into cleaning up their culture.
I think this is similar to a woman telling a guy she’s married/has-a-bf instead of telling him outright she is not interested – kind of to spare his feelings or not seem rude.
I think most dancers understand the “maybe later†is a polite way (from most customer’s points of view) of saying they are not interested. If a dancer has a bad attitude, she may often take exception with whatever you say if you are not giving her what she wants ($$$).
Most dancers probably know (or should know) that “maybe later†or “don’t have any money†means not interested and probably get pissed that the customer does not want to spend $$$ on them no matter what or how the customer says it.
I am sure there are a lot worse things the OP could have told her and that dancers probably sometimes hear – e.g. “I said no – leave me alone bitchâ€; “fuck off†etc.
IMO, the onus is on the side with the bigger problem to move first, in this case the strippers and doubly so because it's supposed to be a business venture. Otherwise they will just have to live with the disrespect they bring onto themselves.
On occasion I've been pretty emphatic in saying it, because I actually do want them to come back later.
At the club I work for, the girls who make their rounds over and over thinking eventually the guy will get annoyed and give in or get drunk enough to give in aren't even liked by the other girls. The ones I know will return even if you've said no.
If you know 100% you're not going to get dances with her, tell her "No thanks" so that way you won't be bothered by her coming back again, and she won't have to waste her time trying to convince you when you won't get a dance.
It makes the experience a lot better for everyone.
never thought of telling a stripper "I'm gay" to get her to go away. I'm totally going to try that next time just to see what kind of reaction I get.
Again, just say no or say you're waiting on someone else. Honesty is the best key.
When I hear shit like that, I don't get too worked up. You cannot let baby strippers get into your head or impact your enjoyment. I usually tell them that I'll get [whatever] whenever I am fucking ready to. A couple of times I even told them not to blame me for their poor sales skills, but alcohol and irritation may have played a role. ;)