Stripper Boyfriends - Reloaded
...then it occurred to me...
So I've read many posts (posted a few myself) and discussions about strippers' boyfriends. Many times we mongers lament if disdain the BFs because our favorite dancer is always bitching and moaning about them. Or giving them all of their hard earned money, or beating them up or getting them pregnant.
After reading many opinions from you guys about how we'd like to kick the guy's asses, somebody opened my eyes and said we need those BFs. They keep the girls hustling and make us look good in comparison. Someone even posted that they wanted to be a stripper's boyfriend because of all the money she will bring home, not to mention getting to tap that ass at your leisure.
That brings its own problems, I'm sure. Plus my friend always says, "show me a hot girl, and I'll show you a guy who's tired of her shit." ;^) I always reply that that rule doesn't just apply to hot girls.
Regardless I had always wanted that "fuck a stripper fantasy" to come true. And years before I found TUSCL and learned about extras, I put in a lot of time and money as a PL. When I first planned on turning my ATF into my fantasy score, I always asked her about her boyfriend. Eventually they broke up. Then I would always ask her if she had a fuck buddy. Eventually I asked if I could get a private show, and that's when I became a fuck buddy.
Anyway the last few months I have been seeing my local ATF pretty frequently. OTC for the good stuff, then also OTC for other stuff. Like a ride to get her car fixed, and as a date to a party. We even both exchanged birthday gifts.
After the most recent OTC hookup I dropped her off at the club so she could work. She gave me a kiss, grabbed her gear bag, and walked into the club. Watching that sweet ass fill up her skinny leg jeans it occurred to me....
Am I, am I a STRIPPER's BOYFRIEND??!!!
So I've read many posts (posted a few myself) and discussions about strippers' boyfriends. Many times we mongers lament if disdain the BFs because our favorite dancer is always bitching and moaning about them. Or giving them all of their hard earned money, or beating them up or getting them pregnant.
After reading many opinions from you guys about how we'd like to kick the guy's asses, somebody opened my eyes and said we need those BFs. They keep the girls hustling and make us look good in comparison. Someone even posted that they wanted to be a stripper's boyfriend because of all the money she will bring home, not to mention getting to tap that ass at your leisure.
That brings its own problems, I'm sure. Plus my friend always says, "show me a hot girl, and I'll show you a guy who's tired of her shit." ;^) I always reply that that rule doesn't just apply to hot girls.
Regardless I had always wanted that "fuck a stripper fantasy" to come true. And years before I found TUSCL and learned about extras, I put in a lot of time and money as a PL. When I first planned on turning my ATF into my fantasy score, I always asked her about her boyfriend. Eventually they broke up. Then I would always ask her if she had a fuck buddy. Eventually I asked if I could get a private show, and that's when I became a fuck buddy.
Anyway the last few months I have been seeing my local ATF pretty frequently. OTC for the good stuff, then also OTC for other stuff. Like a ride to get her car fixed, and as a date to a party. We even both exchanged birthday gifts.
After the most recent OTC hookup I dropped her off at the club so she could work. She gave me a kiss, grabbed her gear bag, and walked into the club. Watching that sweet ass fill up her skinny leg jeans it occurred to me....
Am I, am I a STRIPPER's BOYFRIEND??!!!
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This was a really great read by the way.
Being Fuck Buddies is GREAT when it truly works, and a potential disaster when it doesn't.
Pay no attention to Dougster's comments.
You have at least three kids with three different women
Your bestfriend owns a tattoo parlor
If you wake up at noon, you say "WTF, it's too goddam early"
You can't decide if today you're going to play Call of Duty Black Ops 2 or Call of Duty Modern Warfare 3
You smoke more weed than the entire Jamaican track team
You have your own tailored orange jumpsuit at the county jail
Your favorite drink is Hennessy and Coke
Your "job" is selling stolen rims on eBay
You wear a Detroit Tigers baseball cap but have no clue who Al Kaline is
You live with a stripper but still fuck ugly, fat girls
You take your kids to your mom's to babysit. She works three jobs, but you're the one that is "too busy"
You beat up women because despite your "swag" you"re really an insecure pussy
Dougster and Alucard giving relationship advice...oh, the irony!
You're getting close. Run, man, run! If she doesn't have a boyfriend currently, then she going to depend on you for things. And if you're paying her OTC, you aren't getting the benefit of being the boyfriend--free sex.
Sometimes I feel resentment toward my ATF's boyfriend. She's beautiful, and he's a dumb, usually unemployed loser. What does she see in him? Is he be younger than me, taller than me, better looking than me? Well, yes. But does she have to be so shallow? I mean, would I like a girl just because of her physical attractiveness? :-)
The boyfriend serves the important function of keeping us grounded in reality. If my ATF did not have a boyfriend, I would probably fall in love with this beautiful young girl who is drunken, promiscuous whore.
Thank heavens that I am much too old to be any stripper's boyfriend. My one instance of minor 'sugar daddyism' is in the past and will never be repeated.
Everyone else in the world (except steve229 apparently) is able to see there is a big difference between normal male/female dating and paying strippers for sex. But your so dumb you claim you can't see the difference. What-the-fuck-ever, moron.
Thanks for the feedback guys. I didn't really think I was stripper boyfriend material. And I only barely qualify for one of motörhead's criteria. lol (not those videos games, but games for sure sometimes) I can't be this stripper's BF because we don't live together, I have a full time job, and we don't coordinate schedules for date night.
I would say I'm a "preferred client", aka "favorite trick". Yes, I do pay for sex with her; I'm not in denial about it. Sure, I would love to get sex from her for free, but I actually prefer our relationship to involve money; it's much easier to see the boundaries. She can never say I gave her mixed messages if she always takes my donation off the table before we leave.
Some of the things that made me question my status:
- She blows off work to rendezvous with me
- Either she has no other clients, or I always get preferential treatment
- She always wears what I like, even though it's been over a year since my last request
- I've never been stood up by her
Recently she started going back to school for her Masters (she showed me her class schedule), and made a few references to moving on from the club scene. I think it's time for some distance from her. Lest I get a friend that owns a tattoo parlor, and I smoke more weed than the entire Jamaican track team. ;^)
And if you are not stripper BF material that is actually a good thing. Try for the waitresses instead, much higher breed of women. (And now I offer some advice.)
I ask her, "so are you still with your BF of 2 years?"
Her, "Yes."
Me, "Not that I'm trying to get into your life, but do you still love him?"
Her, "Yes."
Me, "So does he have a job?"
Her, "He got fired from Target a couple of months ago."
Me, "So what do you guys do when you're not at work?"
Her, "I mostly Facebook and text while I watch him play video games and smoke weed at his friends house."
(she must be smoking too, as she put on at least 15 lbs in the last 3 months)
Me, "So are you moving back in with your parents?"
Her, "Yes. It sucks."
Me, "Him, too?"
Her, "No, they hate him. He sleeps in his car."
OMFG! That exchange in itself bumped her off as an ATF.
I like to call his type, type A.
He lifts weights.
He has a regular Job.
He shaves his head.
He likes to fight.
He drops off my dancer @ the club each night.
He has tattoos on his arms.
He abuses this girl, verbally and sometimes physically.
He has that "I Don't give a fuck" attitude.
He probably suspects his girl occasionally fucks clients in the club.
He threatens his gf and other people.
He keeps a tight rein on his girl.
He has a perverse sense of pride because guys in the club want to fuck his girl.
He never enters the club.
Why they are still together, I can't figure out.
Between Motorhead's list of applicable attributes of a Stripper Boyfriend, and HonestT's recap of the conversation with an ATF, I was laughing so hard! The original post was humorous too.
Interesting point of view on how deadbeat BFs contribute to mongering. I'm on the fence as to "needing" them. But they definitely keep a cutsie from becoming a BF and being saddled with the associated baggage.
@motorhead - You list came to mind when I was talking to a fav last night. She's always complaining about her "Ex", so I was surprised to learn he's still living at her place. I thought maybe he's helping pay the rent (silly me, I know) but no, she said he just refuses to move out, lol
He doesn't have a steady job, only goes out at night, and even though he's home all day, he won't baby-sit her kid so she has to use day-care. What a prince, huh?
Now Pablo's lists another matter. That BF would keep me away. :)
I'm wondering if we ever had a thread on here about stripper boyfriends leaving after she gets pregnant. I believe it's a common story.
Perhaps on face value that convo didn't elicit any kind of dismissal. It was more like the thing that pushed her over the edge in my mind. I left out some stuff about the way the BF has been treating her (stuff on motorhead's list).
Basically I know too much about her situation, and it's a distraction, sexually. lol Maybe if I just mind my business, I would be happier. ;^)