I go to the strip clubs every two weeks on Saturday nights. I normally go with a group of friends and spend a few hundred dollars on average. I would go more often but the people I normally go with cannot really afford to go every Saturday. In between my visits I feel kind of down since I really love strip clubs and I just cannot stand the 13 days in which I am not going to one. I guess you can say it is a mixture of addiction, a lack of female companionship, and boredom. All in all my point is what do you all do in between visits to hold yourself over?
P.S. I just went last Saturday so I am only on day 2 of what seems like an eternity rather than just 13 days.
The thought of going by myself has crossed my mind. However people tend to go in groups I have noticed. Also when my friends are getting dances, and I am taking a break, I am sitting at our table temporarly by myself and other customers make remarks such as, "Are you sad?" Dancers say things like, "Awww do you have any friends?" So in other words the thought of going alone makes me feel a little uneasy.
It does sound like you might be developing a bit of a problem. But that said, I usually go to clubs by myself. The whole point is to pay attention to the girls and vice-versa, and a group of guys detracts from that. Most dancers prefer solo guys because they know they are 'focused' and they won't have to put up with macho nonsense. Just be outgoing and have fun.
Alucard I understand where you are coming from but strip clubs are so much fun and I think about them constantly. Outside of the strip clubs I go to work. Also I am a big time University of Kentucky football and basketball fan so I watch them play. However outside of work and sports I really don't do much besides exercising. Case in point strip clubs play a large role in my life.
" So in other words the thought of going alone makes me feel a little uneasy.
Please don't feel that way. I've been going to strip clubs 30 years and I've always gone by myself. I would never have it any other way. Sure, I sometimes get "are you sad" or "smile" too. Don't worry about it. Soon enough a dancer that knows me shows up and we end up having a great time.
Indyslick I see what you mean. I agree that I probably have a bit of a problem and should consider trying to control it a little better. You also make a good point in that the girls knowing that I am alone means I would be more focused. I will definitly keep considering the solution of going alone to clubs sometimes.
Motorhead you make a good point. I have noticed that some customers are at the club by themselves and they constantly have dancers around them. Also I agree that I should get mentally stronger and not feel ashamed if I am at the club alone.
Everyone seems to be making good points. Perhaps I should try a visit by myself and see what it is like.
I shy away from going in a group. go by yourself and seek that adventure that is calling you (as long as you can afford it). As for me OTC is a great way to spend time away from the club.......
I would be willing to bet, most of the guys on this website, especially ones who post on the discussion board go alone. I usually go alone. I have a friend who joins me (rarely anymore) and I have met up with another TUSCL'er for a visit as well. You can focus in on the dancer(s) of your choice and have fun. I would also make sure you give yourself enough time between visits so you don't get burned out or spend too much. A few hundred every couple of weeks is different than a few hundred every week or more. You could exponentially increase the amount of money your spending and it could cause other problems.
K9 what does OTC stand for? Also may I ask why you shy away from a group? It definitly would give me a different feel and adventure going alone, so I agree with you on that.
"I guess you can say it is a mixture of addiction, a lack of female companionship, and boredom."
Welcome to the club!!! Many guys that SC on a regular basis do it for most if not all of these reasons. I don’t think there is anything wrong w/ it if you can afford it – after all you are warm blooded American male. I think many guys wish they could go SCing and can’t due to family obligations or financial reasons. So if you are able to go and you enjoy it, do it while you can and are young and able to do it financially.
Also, the best friends you can have in a SC are named “Andrew Jackson†(i.e. $20s).
Many guys go to the SC by themselves. SCs are not like regular clubs or other regular social activities like going to dinner or the movies. In the SC, it doesn’t matter what you look like; if you have a great personality; etc.; if you have $$$ and are willing to spend it, you won’t be alone too long and these are also the kinds of guys the dancers like.
Forget what other customers may say – and for what the dancers may say – they usually are just trying to break the ice. Most guys that are alone in the SC usually get these kind of comments – but usually they are meant as no more as an ice breaker or conversation starter.
You may also try going on a weekday evening which is not a party night – perhaps you may find other guys there also by themselves and you won’t feel like you are different (which you shouldn’t to begin with).
It may feel odd at first going by yourself, but try it an see if you still are able to have a good time.
Rh48hr you make some really good points. The buring out and spending too much would definitly be a concern if I go every week. However, if I may do a little bragging, I recently graduated college with a finance degree. So I am pretty good with money. I just cannot get too drunk to where I start over spending and cannot drive home. Also that is pretty cool that you have made friends through this website that you go to clubs with. If anyone is in the central Kentucky area or just a couple hours from Lexington KY message me if you would like to join me in meeting at the strip clubs.
Papi_Chulo you make some really good statements as well. I agree that more people would go if not tied down with outside factors such as family and financial obligations. I will take in everything that you said definitly and try out going by myself and seeing what it is like.
“I agree that I probably have a bit of a problem and should consider trying to control it a little better …â€
Trying to “control†feelings of loneliness and lust is often very difficult if not impossible – you feel this way for a reason – it’s like the feeling of hunger when your body needs food – it will not go away until you feed it – if you need to go, you need to go! So if it makes you feel good to go, and you can afford it – why sit around clinching your jaw and holding out. The time will come when you will most likely decide that it’s best to slow down or not go at all – but for now – if you have not SCed for a very long time – it’s normal that you want to do it often.
omega22 that would be Outside the Club activities with an ATF. Could be food, drinks, or service.... Just like everybody else is saying I can focus on finding the right dancer and there is no pack mentality for the dancer to deal with or me to deal with. I am there to have fun and adventure with one or more dancers; not interested in a frat party...
At the bottom of the TUSCL page, there is a “Glossary†link which describes many of the acronyms TUSCLers use in the discussion board. If you have not looked at it, you should read it. You’d be surprised at some of the clever and actually hilarious acronyms that TUSCLers have come up with.
Papi_Chulo I am glad to see that you understand me in that it can be difficult to control feelings of loneliness and lust. Also I have clinical depression and strip clubs definitly help me in deeling with it. Overall I go because they are fun, exciting, make me happy, and give me something to look forward to.
K9 Thanks for the input. It would be fun to spend time with my ATF outside the club. It would give me female companionship outside the strip club atmosphere. However I will not ask but will say yes if the girl ask to meet OTC. Also it is good to know that girls like guys that are not in a group.
BTW – I’ve heard, via this discussion board, that Kentucky clubs are pretty restrictive and not that much fun.
If you have the chance and you enjoy SCs as you’ve said (and like most of us on here), you may want to take a mini SC vacation/road-trip and try out SCs in other infamous cities like Detroit. I visited Houston about 3 months ago and had a great time – beautiful women, not too pushy for the most part, and really “outgoing†(i.e. I was approached and offered all kinds of things w/o me even having to ask).
Also, I think OTC should perhaps be reserved for those whom already have a good amount of SC experience and know well how the game is played. If you are satisfied with what you may be getting in the SC, you may want to hold off on OTCs as they can be expensive and you are also tied down to being entertained by just one dancer – which some guys like, and some guys don’t. It can also be expensive if one does not negotiate correctly.
Omega - If you can afford it and you are confident showing up alone you will be just fine. All that is required is to find a dancer that works for you... Been riding solo 95% of my visits...
And yeah – I didn’t want to mention it, but I often resort to porn and the “slap the monkey†technique to “curve my appetite†when I want to withhold from SCing.
bing.com/videos is a great search engine for free porn videos. What I like about it is that it is dedicated to only videos/video-searches and one can hover their mouse over the videos listed and see a short preview of each video w/o actually having to click on it.
K9 and Papi_Chulo thanks for the further OTC input and I will check that link out. If the opportunity arises I will approach it with caution. If I feel uncomfortable either financially or with my safety regarding an OTC I will just back out of the offer. However strip clubs are definitly more than satisfying enough.
P.S. thank you Papi_Chulo for giving me the heads up about the glossary.
Also to add on the Lexington KY strip clubs do seem kind of strict and so do the Ohio ones I have been to. Looks like I am in a bad region for getting the full service. However Platunim Plus and Spearmint Rhino are fairly liberal with their rules.
Maybe considering going weekly but spending less money. I go to the strip clubs by myself sometimes, and I find that the dancers show me more attention when I'm by myself.
As far as what to do in between club visits. With me, I work long hours during the weekdays, so the days go by pretty fast. Before you know it, it's Friday night and time to hit the strip club :)
Omega - I'm a female clubber and even I prefer clubbing alone. I don't find it embarrassing or feel that the dancers will think less of us compared to people visiting in groups. Going stag really does allow you to focus solely on the dancers, without having to possibly babysit drunken friends (which used to happen to me ALOT!).
I can really relate to the TS and add that I too go alone.
I'm their to hang out with my faux-friends and get faux-sexy time. Not hang out with people I know in the real world.
I've been SCing for a couple months now, started out once a month, then twice a month and eventually once a week. It became habitual in a sense. I actually skipped going this past week.
I recently got some ITC FS and don't feel the need to go as often as I have been any more but like you I have a slight addiction, lack of female companionship and get bored easily.
I've decided to go on the last weekend of the month, once a month. everyone's bills are just about due and you've had three weeks to save so you can go big and go alone.
as for what to do, think of how much money you spend in the strip clubs, limiting your visits saves money you would have thrown away anyways, so throw it away in a more moderate means towards yourself. Go to a movie, go out to eat, take a real woman out. then go tell them hard workin' bitches all about it as they work for their cut.
I'd like to go to clubs more than I do. When I can't, I like to get on TUSCL and read and talk about club experiences. On many nights when I went to a club and it was a poor choice for entertainment that night, I say to myself on the way home, "Why didn't I just stay home and participate on TUSCL."
I usually go to SC by myself. In the beginning I used to go to strip clubs with my college buddies 3 years ago but now I only go with my cousin, my childhood friend and a fellow TUSCL brother rh48hr. I like going by myself most of the time its more of my me time to be honest. Sometimes it sucks when i go by myself to new clubs because I'm a 23 year old guy and most dancer don't think I have cash compare to the older gentlemans. The strip clubs I usually go do the the dancer know me which is a good thing. I used to go every week but now i go one or twice a month. Have you ever tried going to bars or clubs on the weekend?
Well, I usually go to the clubs 2 or 3 times a week, and so I don't have a lot of dead time between visits. However, I've found ways to fill the emptiness in my soul that results from not being in a strip club.
1. Meet my ATF for OTC activities.
2. Hook up with other dancers who have given me their phone numbers.
3. Get on TUSCL and read strip club reviews and participate in stripper-related discussions.
4. And if all else fails, I might actually do some work.
@Omega22: I am exactly the opposite of you. I *rarely* go with others, and I'm not comfortable going with other people. They get in my way. Besides, many of the local girls know or recognize me, and I don't think I'd want most of my friends to know that I've had sex with a number of them, a fact which has all too much chance of coming out when others are there.
However, for me, strip clubs are a means to an end, not the end itself, so that may. It apply to you.
I have read everyone's messages and am glad everyone has taken the time to write to me. I will try out going by myself and see what it is like. I probably need to start getting used to it as well. The poeple I go with aren't going to be around forever as they will get married and have families which is something that I do not want.
All in all thank you everyone again for your messages. I have read them all and am glad that I did.
I only travel alone most of the time. In the clubs several dancers spend time with me. If they aren't sitting and talking to me, that gives me a chance to watch the girls on stage. I try to do both sometimes but there are only so many girls you can talk to and watch all at the same time.
When I was younger in my 20's I often ended up hooking up with a dancer and we would do other things after she got off from work. It seemed like there was usually at least one dancer who wanted to spend more time with me. That may not be normal though. If I became friends with a dancer, I might be visiting strip clubs 2 or 3 times a week on occasion. Cover charges are a lot higher now and drinks cost a whole lot more. You have to watch your spending if you aren't rich. Too much fun will drain your wallet fast.
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Please don't feel that way. I've been going to strip clubs 30 years and I've always gone by myself. I would never have it any other way. Sure, I sometimes get "are you sad" or "smile" too. Don't worry about it. Soon enough a dancer that knows me shows up and we end up having a great time.
Never feel ashamed or embarrassed by going alone.
Everyone seems to be making good points. Perhaps I should try a visit by myself and see what it is like.
Welcome to the club!!! Many guys that SC on a regular basis do it for most if not all of these reasons. I don’t think there is anything wrong w/ it if you can afford it – after all you are warm blooded American male. I think many guys wish they could go SCing and can’t due to family obligations or financial reasons. So if you are able to go and you enjoy it, do it while you can and are young and able to do it financially.
Also, the best friends you can have in a SC are named “Andrew Jackson†(i.e. $20s).
Many guys go to the SC by themselves. SCs are not like regular clubs or other regular social activities like going to dinner or the movies. In the SC, it doesn’t matter what you look like; if you have a great personality; etc.; if you have $$$ and are willing to spend it, you won’t be alone too long and these are also the kinds of guys the dancers like.
Forget what other customers may say – and for what the dancers may say – they usually are just trying to break the ice. Most guys that are alone in the SC usually get these kind of comments – but usually they are meant as no more as an ice breaker or conversation starter.
You may also try going on a weekday evening which is not a party night – perhaps you may find other guys there also by themselves and you won’t feel like you are different (which you shouldn’t to begin with).
It may feel odd at first going by yourself, but try it an see if you still are able to have a good time.
Trying to “control†feelings of loneliness and lust is often very difficult if not impossible – you feel this way for a reason – it’s like the feeling of hunger when your body needs food – it will not go away until you feed it – if you need to go, you need to go! So if it makes you feel good to go, and you can afford it – why sit around clinching your jaw and holding out. The time will come when you will most likely decide that it’s best to slow down or not go at all – but for now – if you have not SCed for a very long time – it’s normal that you want to do it often.
At the bottom of the TUSCL page, there is a “Glossary†link which describes many of the acronyms TUSCLers use in the discussion board. If you have not looked at it, you should read it. You’d be surprised at some of the clever and actually hilarious acronyms that TUSCLers have come up with.
K9 Thanks for the input. It would be fun to spend time with my ATF outside the club. It would give me female companionship outside the strip club atmosphere. However I will not ask but will say yes if the girl ask to meet OTC. Also it is good to know that girls like guys that are not in a group.
If you have the chance and you enjoy SCs as you’ve said (and like most of us on here), you may want to take a mini SC vacation/road-trip and try out SCs in other infamous cities like Detroit. I visited Houston about 3 months ago and had a great time – beautiful women, not too pushy for the most part, and really “outgoing†(i.e. I was approached and offered all kinds of things w/o me even having to ask).
Also, I think OTC should perhaps be reserved for those whom already have a good amount of SC experience and know well how the game is played. If you are satisfied with what you may be getting in the SC, you may want to hold off on OTCs as they can be expensive and you are also tied down to being entertained by just one dancer – which some guys like, and some guys don’t. It can also be expensive if one does not negotiate correctly.
Don’t know if you saw/read this recent OTC thread:
https://www.tuscl.net/postread.php?PID=1…
bing.com/videos is a great search engine for free porn videos. What I like about it is that it is dedicated to only videos/video-searches and one can hover their mouse over the videos listed and see a short preview of each video w/o actually having to click on it.
P.S. thank you Papi_Chulo for giving me the heads up about the glossary.
As far as what to do in between club visits. With me, I work long hours during the weekdays, so the days go by pretty fast. Before you know it, it's Friday night and time to hit the strip club :)
I'm their to hang out with my faux-friends and get faux-sexy time. Not hang out with people I know in the real world.
I've been SCing for a couple months now, started out once a month, then twice a month and eventually once a week. It became habitual in a sense. I actually skipped going this past week.
I recently got some ITC FS and don't feel the need to go as often as I have been any more but like you I have a slight addiction, lack of female companionship and get bored easily.
I've decided to go on the last weekend of the month, once a month. everyone's bills are just about due and you've had three weeks to save so you can go big and go alone.
as for what to do, think of how much money you spend in the strip clubs, limiting your visits saves money you would have thrown away anyways, so throw it away in a more moderate means towards yourself. Go to a movie, go out to eat, take a real woman out. then go tell them hard workin' bitches all about it as they work for their cut.
Well, I usually go to the clubs 2 or 3 times a week, and so I don't have a lot of dead time between visits. However, I've found ways to fill the emptiness in my soul that results from not being in a strip club.
1. Meet my ATF for OTC activities.
2. Hook up with other dancers who have given me their phone numbers.
3. Get on TUSCL and read strip club reviews and participate in stripper-related discussions.
4. And if all else fails, I might actually do some work.
Did Lindbergh need a wingman? Did James Bond have a side-kick? Did Bruce Lee need back-up?
Right now you are a strip club dilettante. The true professional works alone.
So next time out, ditch the posse, fly solo and makes us all proud!
Gonna fly now
flying high now
gonna fly, fly, fly...
However, for me, strip clubs are a means to an end, not the end itself, so that may. It apply to you.
All in all thank you everyone again for your messages. I have read them all and am glad that I did.
When I was younger in my 20's I often ended up hooking up with a dancer and we would do other things after she got off from work. It seemed like there was usually at least one dancer who wanted to spend more time with me. That may not be normal though. If I became friends with a dancer, I might be visiting strip clubs 2 or 3 times a week on occasion. Cover charges are a lot higher now and drinks cost a whole lot more. You have to watch your spending if you aren't rich. Too much fun will drain your wallet fast.