Sober Monday Reflections: Should Drunk Guys Have to Pay Their Stripper Bills?

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Posted by Audrey Ference on Mon, Nov 7, 2011 at 12:14 PM

Surely we've all woken up hungover one morning and, checking our wallets for clues about what we did last night, found a receipt for $28,000 at the Hustler Club. No? Well, it happens. And when it does, you mostly get only the sad bastard's side of the story, whining about how those predatory ladies took advantage of his poor dumb drunk ass. Which is why I love this examination of the ethics of letting a wasted dude spend that kind of cash at a strip club from what has to be the best stripper blog ever, Tits and Sass.

Iron Butterfly breaks it down:


So the big question is whether being really, super, totally drunk is good reason not to hold this dude to a fully implemented contract. Although this dude complains about a “nanny state,” a prohibition on predatory contracting and vending is not actually a brand new or scary-socialist concept. On the contrary, it is based on the very old, and very fundamental tenet that the two parties must have a meeting of the minds to form a contract, and for the minds to meet they both have to be working. There are probably relatively few $28,000 purchases I can make while obviously off-my-face drunk, outside of a bar or casino.

The leading case on buying expensive shit while drunk off your face turns out to be Matthews v. Baxter from 1873 (see? I told you it wasn't a nanny state socialist thing). It seems to loosely state that a contract formed while drunk enough that you can't understand a decision at all is voidable (although not void), so if you take steps to repudiate the contract at the first opportunity on sobering up, you can maybe get out of it. If not, suck it up, that counts as ratification. On the other side, if you reaffirm the contract when you've sobered up, congratulations, you are the proud, non-repudiable owner of 20 champagne rooms.


Fair enough. Though as she points out, it doesn't really apply exactly in a strip club situation.


This gentleman has apparently taken the first opportunity to repudiate, but there is another problem: the exchange has been made and the product consumed. He can't give back the booze, much less the services received. The Hustler club and the Hustler dancers who put up with his drunk ass for the night can't be put in the position they were in before this dude came in, which is generally the desired result of voiding a contract. So in this case, the issue seems to slide a little. Instead of the capacity of the drunk dude to form a contract, we also have to deal with the good faith (or bad faith) of the vendor. And for sure, that makes sense. There are super quiet and composed drunks out there, and salespeople should be able to sell their shit to people who appear to able to make a decision without prying too deep into their BAC.


Also fair. I will say that my personal experience with strip clubs is that even sober, you so much as look around and $100 flies out of your wallet. I mean, don't get me wrong, I love strip clubs. But everything—everything—there costs a minimum of $20. Rum and coke? $20. Snacks? $20. Lap dance? $20, as least. I went to the steakhouse in the Penthouse Executive Club for a friend's bachelor party and looked at the wine list, knowing it would be overpriced but hoping we could find something decent for maybe only like a 300% markup. The cheapest bottle was $200, and it was a shitty California red that retails for less than $15, so. My point is that though $28,000 is an astronomical amount of money, it seems to me entirely possible to spend it at a strip club, even without being wasted beyond the ability to make decisions. And when you visit the Hustler Club, you really should know what you're getting into. It's not a place for broke people to hang out.

So I guess I'm saying I agree with Ms. Butterfly's assessment of the situation:


Do the dancers get to keep their money or do they have to return it to the club so that they can (in theory) give it back to the guy?

I say they should keep it. Strip clubs go through a lot of trouble to declare strippers are independent contractors. There are a lot of reasons but mainly (I think) to make them a source of income instead of a loss. Rather than having to pay strippers and then arrange commission, the club charges strippers and then arranges commission anyway. It is the single greatest “it sucks, but changing it sucks too” issue that permeates the industry. But the whole nature of the contract, as the club sells it to us, is that the entire “thing” the club is providing the dancers is this infrastructure. That includes literal structures, like the room and stage, but also the liquor license (in some cases), other licenses, privacy, security, and the ability to make change and process credit cards.

So, these nice ladies, who pay god-knows-what to the Hustler Club nightly for the privilege of working for them have already paid for these services. They already pay for the club to serve alcohol and presumably to train its bar staff how to properly serve (or not serve) the customers. If the bar doesn't do that, does it badly, or does it really well but just has an unusually incapable bartender or unexpected circumstances, that is the bar's problem. They cannot claim that this infrastructure is worth however much they collect from their dancers as house fees in a night and then say that their failure to provide that infrastructure in a way that is compliant with the law is the dancer's problem.


I think the real lesson here is always, always pay in cash at the strip club. Always.


And the bottom line is?

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Stiletto25
13 years ago
Yes they should pay. If you are an adult, you are responsible for your own actions including your alcohol consumption and spending. If you choose to consume an abundant quantity of alcohol, you assume the consequences. Next time maybe you'll be more careful and in control of your impulses if you get bit in the ass a time or two.
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Stiletto25
13 years ago
I'll also say that in life I hate the idea that because someone, an adult, chooses to do something stupid, everyone else has to take care of them.
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mjx01
13 years ago
SC Rule #1: NO Credit Cards under any circumstances. Don't even take them with you to SC. Only bad things can happen, and why do you want to leave a paper trail?

SC Rule #2: Maintain some amount of control. Wheather it's drinking or you behavior with the dancers, you don't want to be the guy getting a beat down from the bounders in the back alley. (hospital visits and police reports = paper trails)
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mjx01
13 years ago
on a more general note, we need more self responsibility in the sad country
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DFFECHSWU
13 years ago
Personal responsibility? What's that? I for one dislike the excessive alcohol and/or blackout excuses some give when faced with the consequences of their decisions. If you've blacked out before or can't handle your alcohol, here's a little tip ... don't consume as much the next time. $28K seems excessive, and while I'm not blaming the owner of the establishment, you would think someone thought he was over-served, and then the questions of whether or not this guy can actually pay his bill would come to mind.
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mjx01
13 years ago
another though... maybe I'm poor or something, but who gets a 28k+ credit limit AND the ability to charge that much in a single purchase?
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shadowcat
13 years ago
Corporate cards!
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steve_ny
13 years ago
It's all relative. His $28K might be the same as me blowing $2K when drunk or somebody else blowing the rent money. So, yes he is responsible because you can't return a service.

A lot of Amex cards have open limits and they approve transactions until they don't. Usually a night at a strip club would trigger multiple charges so I would think fraud protection would kick in, but I know they are liberal with the corporates.
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Dudester
13 years ago
To those who don't live in border states, or deal with the carnage/side effects of illegal immigration-Texans complain about the number of drunk illegal drivers, but it's because of something most Americans don't know about.

Our legal system, at it's roots, is based on common law from England. A few precedents from there, and the rest-of course from our own legal system, having been around a little over 200 years.

There is a legal precedent, somewhere from Spanish law, that anything you do while drunk, diminishes your culpability. Therefore, if you drink, drive, and crash your car, it's olly olly oxen free-you're free to go, you did nothing wrong.

This concept is embraced throughout Mexico, and in parts of the United States, where Mexicans are a majority of the population (parts of New Mexico, along the Texas border, etc.). Also, keep in mind that Mexico still embraces old world ideas-the MAN is always right. In case of any problems, see rule number one first.

So, even though our civilization is two hundred years younger than Mexico, we somehow are more advanced, and that includes personal responsibility-get drunk, and you must face the consequences.
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vincemichaels
13 years ago
They made their choice in drinking until they got too drunk. It will be their responsibility for whatever happens.
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chimark
13 years ago
all kidding aside, this is kinda like the concept what happens in vegas stays in vegas, which is clearly not true as the credit card will come due!

PS while I've never woke up with that large of a CC receipt in my pocket, there have been a few times when I looked at it the next morning after a nite at the SC and said... "holy shit, I seriously spent way too much"... like others after those trips..I've learned to leave the CC at home and bring cash, once the cash is done... it's time to go home...
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georgmicrodong
13 years ago
If the loser chose to drink, yeah. If somebody slipped him a mickey, or otherwise defrauded him, no. Good luck proving the latter, though.
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creepshow
13 years ago
I will be the lone voice then to say -no-, he should not have to pay that bill.

On it's face I agree with the general premise; if you get out of control you should have to cover your bills and be held accountable.

These cases, however, reflect criminal levels of abuse/overcharging. Where is the limit? What if the strip club asks for $100,000? $1,000,000? $100,000,000,000?

If the customer were to pay for a high end VIP room continuously, at $200/15 minutes (which is very high), you are looking at $800/hour. Despite the fact that no man could possibly have the seminal stamina to last 5 hours in such a place, it's hard to envision justifying a bill over $5000 regardless how irresponsible the consumption rate is.
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bang69
13 years ago
I agree with stiletto 100%
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Dougster
13 years ago
Pretty hard to believe there wasn't some fraud at some point. Of course strippers, renowned for having non-existent, or seriously defective superegos have no problem rationalizing away fraud.
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CTQWERTY
13 years ago
Make a sport out of it: if they outrun the bouncer(s), no bill. If not, the bouncers get to sell off the organs of the PLs and keep the greenbacks.
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mmdv26
13 years ago
No much different from the guy who has his paycheck converted to slot machine tokens, plays and drinks all night because "he's gonna' win the big one anytime now..."; and as the sun is coming up realizes that he has no more tokens... and it's two weeks until the next paycheck, and the rent is due tomorrow.

Maybe we should outlaw casino's, booze, strip clubs and habitual behaviors.
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inno123
13 years ago
It is a tricky legal situation. If the person was so drunk that they were no longer in control of their actions and the club, knowing this, took advantage of it then it might be considered some sort of conspiracy to defraud. Hard to proove though.

Personally my rule is I set a budget for my visit, carry that quantity of cash in my pockets, and leave the credit cards and ATM cards hidden in the car.
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JGoose
13 years ago
I say the chump is responsible for it, but I also can't understand that the club kept serving him if he was intoxicated. From when I lived in California, which is much more liberal with the booze than Washington is, I recall that if you are beyond 'buzzed' you are cut off. Why wasn't the club in this case aware that this chump was intoxicated?
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thesamurai
13 years ago
Unless the guy is a rapper or hedge fund manager, 28k CC bill for a few hours at a strip club almost assuredly involves fraud. The bottomline is this guy reported and contested the bill right away. He now has a legal leg to stand on, though tenuous. The guy shouldn't get a free night, he should have to pay a reasonable amount. His lawyer and the club's lawyer ought to get together and decide what that amount is. If something like this went before a judge, a jury, the outcome is not clear. If that isn't a situation calling for a settlement, nothing is.
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Dougster
13 years ago
If I was on jury even slightest credible allegation of fraud and I am ruling against the club or strippers. They would probably elect to have it tried just by judge though.
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Shamrock211
13 years ago
I've dealt with this situation more times than I can count. In fact, getting customers to cough up money they owe to dancers is (sadly) the number one activity which occupies my time.

Its pretty apparent that he's getting ripped off, I've seen it a million times. However from my own standpoint, fuck him. I absolutely hate dealing with drunken patrons. If you're going to go out anywhere, exercise some self control for fuck's sake.

Maybe taking a several thousand dollar hit will make him realize he's a fucking idiot and that when he gets that wasted at a club he has 'victim' written all over his face.

I hope the floor guys stomped the shit out of him too.
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BigBillPayed
13 years ago
I would have to hear more about how the money was spent. Sounds like a group of people would have to have been involved in order to spend that much unless he bought some $5000 dollar bottles not knowing what the fuck he was doing. Sir please initial by where it says $5k. Even then he would of had to buy 4 bottles and left a tip. Then run up another 8k in VIP charges. Maybe he had like 3 girls and he bought each one a bottle for some extra fun. I know the Hustler club in Baltimore is probably cheaper than NYC. Yet they have an all night with any 2 dancers open bar set up for $7500 and that is high. But I am sure the high end bottles don't come with the room. Catch 22 sucker pay up.
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BigBillPayed
13 years ago
I can also see this situation. Corporate party with a bunch of drunks.Guys not paying and don't inquire about price. She wants such and such bottle. Give it to her. No price mentioned. Craziness going on all around and you get a bill that puts you in shock and a call from your boss the next day. Snorting coke off stripper's ass's in the hustler club in the middle of NYC can be pricey.
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looneylarry
13 years ago
If his defense is that he was too intoxicated to authorize such a bill, then I ask: was he too intoxicated to operate a motor vehicle? If he somehow got himself home by his own devices, I'd think that would erode his defense that he was too drunk to understand all of his CC charges. On the other hand, if the club sent him home in a cab (doubtful), was that an admission by the club that the guy was not aware of his own spending? He should ask for an itemization.
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10inches
13 years ago
never, ever under any circumstance use a credit, debit or atm card in a SC. CASH ONLY !!!!!
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Clubber
13 years ago
I, for one have been in a state where I do not recall anything from the previous evening after a certain point. Just had it happen a couple of weekends ago on a Friday and Saturday evening. I always find it fascinating that when I check the next days, I managed to behave myself.

By thoughts are, in ones "altered state", they revert to their true selves. In some cases they become idiots and others, still remain responsible.
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Rlionheart
13 years ago
If the guy was obviously three sheets to the wind and in no shape to commit to anything more than detoxification, he might stand a chance of reducing his debt based on the predatory and irresponsible behavior of the club. Particularly if they scored big and then let the guy stagger out the door with no thought of how he was getting home. There's a ton of case law about responsibility of clubs that encourage drinking to excess.

That said, I would hope that the case would result in some pain to the drinker - personal responsibility is more than just some hoary precept, it's a mainstay of one's individuality.
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JuiceBox69
13 years ago
Bang69 and stilto 110%
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