Types of LDs?

My preferred "lap dance" is for you to sit there and let me grope you. Even after all this time, it still surprises me when most dancers almost nonchalantly say "OK" without even hesitating, and often enough without even your restriction. I'll agree it might be physically less arduous, but I'd've thought having some creepy old pervert pawing at you would offset that.

They probably don't mind because they don't have to do anything! There's one guy who likes to come in and "abuse" a girl or two in the VIP throughout the night (his wording). Basically what he wants to do is have the dancer lie down in the little booths and he massages us. Not a dirty massage, just a very thorough massage starting with the shoulders and ending around the torso area. I feel so relaxed and refreshed coming back from that.

Slow and sensual for me. It doesn't matter what the music is. Most of the time I'm not paying attention to it anyway.

It depends on the individual club and/or state/county laws, but in some clubs, a lap dance which doesn't involve sitting on your hands IS high mileage.

I'm a Gemini, so it depends on the mood I'm in. The first dance I never touch, I let them do the work. Then depending on the dancer I get more handsy! I never touch the nipples or kitty. Oh, I get close godammit! But, if the girls' going to tease me I better tease her back!

I also enjoy seasoned strippers with a well choreographed routine of dirty gymnastics that's cool to watch but impersonal, as well as plain old senual, passionate, simulated sex. Also keeping in rhythm with the music is a must.

Doc,

that's why I sometimes ask the girl in front of me to play techno or Rammstein. Keeping a beat is something I do naturally, so if the song is good, I'll get really into the dance.

Rub me slow, make it sensual. Breathe on my neck. I'm not there for the show, but for the experience.

After a while most girls should know their strengths. So, I'll sit back and let the girl do what she does best. I think being comfortable and doing what comes naturally makes for a better dance. If I like it we'll keep going, if I don't we won't.

fd,

Rammstein, a dancer after my heart. First song I saw my ATF dance to, "Du Hast"!

Du Hast and Feuer Frei are two of my favorites. But I love all of their songs :D

One of the best LDs I ever got was from a petite Asian girl who was very slow and sensual. Halfway through, while she was sitting on my lap, she leaned in and gave little whispered gasps and heavy, erotic breathing in my ear, lie she was close to cummig. Do I think she was? No, but it was sooo hot! The other best dance I got was with my ATF in the VIP section where she sat on my lap and slowly ground on me while she kissed me, her long hair falling around both of our heads, creating our own little world. In general, I can easily say I love slow dances. They seem more sexy and intimate than fast dances.

I like variety. I don't like a really hard grind; sometimes I get sore the grind is so rough. I like to feel the dancer. If I'm going beyond the dancer's limits, I'd like a good-natured comment ("sorry I can't let you touch that; but I wish I could" with a smile). I like feeling the dancers hands on my ... If I'm wearing shorts, I like it when the hand goes up the leg. I like a dancer who is willing to work the zipper for better access. I like . . . oh, you know what i like.

I like it slow and senual : ) then hopefully we will progress to not simulated but some real lovin : ))) if not I will stop paying and find a girl that will !

Oh and fd, two high end clubs here allow copius touching and have working girls. You just have to afford them!

Ones involving sex.

Rock me gently Rock me slowly Take it easy Don't you know

Slow and sensual for me too.....slide your body up & down my body, run your fingers through my long hair, sensually play with my breasts, nibble on my ear while straddling me. Me (and my wallet) are yours!

From a story I wrote recently-the ultimate:

I then instructed her to sit in my lap so that her back was to my chest. When she had done so, I instructed her to lean her head back onto my shoulder. I told her that if her customer wasn't already playing with her boobs, to grab his hands and put them there. To illustrate my point, I reached around and caressed her boobs, feeling her firmness, telling her to remain in this position a minute.

Next, I had her get up and then straddle my lap. I explained to her that this was the most important part. She needed to offer a nipple to his lips while she reached around and gently played with his hair, or caressed his neck, or rub his shoulders while leaning in and moaning softly in his ear. I then instructed her to sink to the floor, and rub the customer's thighs, then move her hand to his crotch."This is an important part of the dance. Climb up on him, place your feet on his thighs, and put your pussy in his face. Put your hand on top of my head to steady yourself. Now, make sure you keep your pussy a couple of inches from his face. Let him look at it, but don't push it against him.

And that's the ultimate lapper.

I'm with runrude. Slow grinding, breathe on my neck, bite my ears, play with my nipples and play up the fantasy. You do that and you will have me.

f_d

Just one point from your original post. "Ass-bouncing" is never a good move as far as I'm concerned in a lap dance.

wow it scares me that i agree with dougster but my favorite ld's is when the nice young lady gives my lads a bit of a jumble... but if that isnt on the menu... yeah good long grinding strokes with loads of tits.

Many of the clubs I've been to have strictly enforced hands off policies. Customers cannot touch the dancers, but usually the dancer can grind on the customer. So, I'm in heaven when I find a club where two way contact is allowed or at least tolerated. I don't mind if what's covered by the g-string is off limits, but I so enjoy getting to feel nice soft breasts.

As for the grinding, I whould say that slow and sensual is my favorite. I can't stand some grinds that are so rough that I swear that the dancer hates cocks and it literaly trying to break something. I also don't understand why some time it feels like the dancer it trying to rush thorugh the LD. Maybe I'd like more than one if I'm enjoying it (and then you'd make more money).

Also, I don't think it is necessarily that milage is lower at higher end clubs vs. lower end clubs. Local standars have a much larger impact. I've been to the same higher end chain in two different cities, and they were night and day as far as milage.

Oh! I don't know if this applies. But, one of the closest times I ever came to cumming during a lap dance was with a dancer I had already slept with. I went back to see her at work and she acts like nothing was different, 'OK cool!' But we get back to VIP, I get some dances from her, and the whole time she's grinding on me, she's talking shit in my ear! "When we get home, are you gunna fuck the shit outta me?" "Are you going to pound my ass and fill me with your BIG, hard cock?!" (I don't really have a big dick) "My pussy's so wet!!" It got so bad I had to cut her short on the second song and stop her!

I tried to get her to leave then, but she needed to make bread. So I stuck around, and the next fourth minutes were the most miserable!! I saw her alone again and talked her into leaving but she wanted to wait a few more minutes and needed to pay the house fee. I said 'fine, but I can't take this I got to go!' So, I went to the grocery store in nice clothes, at 11:00 PM, reeking of whiskey, perfume and smoke, buying champagne, cherries and whipped cream!

I get home. She's there waiting. And I finally get to cum... earlier than I'm sure she wanted, but the next two times I did alright!

So, talk dirty, but don't bite off more than you can chew!

I went to a Rolling Stones concert in 1969 at which Ike and Tina Turner opened for the boys. Tina did fast (Rolling on the River) and Tina did slow(I've been Loving You too Long)and it didn't matter because I was completely drawn in by her incredible showmanship. Same goes for a LD: talent plus commitment = Happy Rlionheart. But if I had to vote, I'm on Bear 2k's side Thanks for the question and I like your approach F-D.

Thanks everyone for your advice/anecdotes. And to the "ass-bouncing" thing, it's something I recently learned to do, so I like to try it out, lol. Some guys love it, others are more into my breasts.

I have two favorite dancers.

One is slow and sensual. Sometimes she leans in and moans softly in my ear. I just about blew a gasket the first time she did that.

Also, after a particular set of dances, I discovered I preferred to get dances from her as soon as she was ready from coming of the stage. I found that with her still warm from her stage dance, the sensation of sex was greatly enhanced for me.

The other's private dances are like awesome porn sex. She does some great things, and has never repeated any special move.

As for the music, at the two clubs I go to, the dancers pick the songs they dance to. Most(almost all) have different tastes in music than I do. However there is a dancer who is ok, but picks music that I love. If she is dancing on the nights I go in to see my first ATF, then I try to get dances from my ATF while the other dancer is up on stage. Getting a dance to The Rev, or The Cramps is great!

Generally, my I like to let my hands roam. However, I asked the first dancer I ever experienced what was cool, and she told me what she felt was acceptable in terms of touch. First part was to be respectful. The second part boiled down to not touching anything that the bikini covered.

Finally, I have no need to control the artist, and I would rather let the dance proceed the way she wants to do it. I trust my ATFs and I haven't been let down by either of them yet.

Recently had one of the best dances of my life. Sweet Latina with long dark hair, grinding gently, slowly on my lap. The key to my happiness was serious amounts of DFK, neck kissing, and tongue in/around ears. Made me crazy. Sadly, had a limited budget that day and needed to end at 3 dances. Came back a week later with funds for full VIP treatment and she wasn't there. I'm saving that money for next time. Sure hope to see that sweetheart again.

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Dudester, even though my preferred style of "lap dance" doesn't involve much movement on her part, I have had some very good to excellent "traditional" one's as well, and enjoyed them. Frankly, what you describe doesn't even come close to the best of those traditional ones.

That really depends on which club I am in and with which dancer. At clubs with high mileage but no extras, I prefer soft and sensual. Where I was at yesterday afternoon, any resemblance to a lap dance is purely a figment of imagination. Orgy might be a better description.

I like a good grind where you're providing plenty of friction for AnonymousLittleJim. Forwards or backwards, but a good mix of both works. I'll be brutally honest: Try and get me off.

If you let me feel up your breasts, massage your back, stroke your neck, run my hands through your hair or, dare I say, stroke your clit lightly (or less lightly, if you'd like), I am that much more happy for it.

Bouncing up and down on me does nothing for me. And dancing in front of me without me being able to touch you means I'm paying to watch something I could see for free on the Internet.

The hard, fast, aggressive grinding doesn't do it for me. The slower, sensual, rocking dance with lots of hair grabbing, licking, kissing on the neck and ears, and good looks at the cootch are nice. Also, I like to sometimes grab a handful of ass, lower, and sometimes a finger can make it around underneath to explore the kitty. But only if it is okay with the dancer. And it is nearly undetectable by the house. Sadly, the hot dances like Doc described are so very, very rare.

Sensual for me also. Kissing my neck, feeling up on my body, slow movements, eye contact, body to body. Fuck this thread is making me want to hit the strip club up right now!