haging out with ATF

If it's not about money, watch out. Keep it about money first, and you will retain control as needed. This could spiral out of control fast, because she is not an escort, and perhaps does not know that code. Good luck

golf,

Quite similar to my ATF and myself. Turned out we had mutual friends and would run into each other at events. Our secret life never has been a problem. One MAJOR difference, there wasn't money involved with us.

Don't give her a penny and you will know.

The only advice I can give you is, don't unexpect anything. Live and love life now and let the future consequences be what it is.

Since you are hanging at her place sometimes, I assume you are f****ing her and paying her money for that privilege. I guess you mean she has not done OTC with anyone else before this??

The answer to your question is both. She likes you well enough to let you f*** her, and she likes to get paid to do that. If you take the $$ out of the deal, she still might like you, but not enough to let you f*** her. So it's a combination of things: she likes your hair, your sense of humor, your taste in music and your wallet. But in the reverse order.

She likes you enough to hang out with you for money. Like others have said, take away the money and see what happens.

Here's another measure to take into consideration. What's the balance in this relationship? Are you giving more than you are getting? If yes, then beware. If it's about equal, then enjoy it as long as it's confortable. Just be careful and don't develop unrealistic expectations.

Remember, as Clubber says, part of your relationship could be considered a "secret life" and that means this is not a normal relationship, no matter what you think.

This is not a relationship. You are paying for sex. She is lying to make you feel special.

As I understand it, you are getting sex for money, and she is getting money for sex. I would not push it one way or another. But your "does she really like me" question implies you are looking for emotional intimacy, so it's really about you and your marriage. Ouch! I've been there. And sorry if my amateur psychology is off base.

One word.... C A U T I O N

Is it worth losing (or at least risking) your marriage?

I was with my ATF for three years... started out seeing her in the club, then we progressed to meeting at my hotel when I was in town. That question I asked above? MY answer was YES, and I threw caution to the wind.

We had a pretty strong relationship, and spent many hours together. SHE got a divorce, though to be honest I don't think I had THAT much of an impact, but I think our relationship was part of it.

Sometime, I will go into the details, but for now, let's just say that it ended... and suddenly. I still don't know what happened, though I suspect that she suspected I was ready to move forward and follow her into D land (not Disney!), and maybe she wasn't ready or didn't want to feel the blame. I don't know!

I don't advise developing feelings for a dancer... been there, done that... Even if she shares those feelings, it's not necessarily a road that leads to happy pastures, and there are plenty of issues and dramas that are built into a relationship like that which you would not have to deal with, if shea were a non-stripper.

thanks guys for the good feed back. I would like to add little bit more to this. I am just looking for good friendship with her. i believe having some attachment and emotions, it is more fun otherwise it feels like f***ing a whore. When u meet any stripper otc, i have to be careful and not risking my marriage.

Kid Rock - So hott


Because you know you're
So hot I wanna get you alone
So hot I wanna get you stoned
So hot I don't wanna be your friend
I wanna **** you like I'm never gonna see you again

I'm doing the same and it started out more like GFE but I had to leave town for a few months and now that I'm back its just about the money, and actully thats fine with me. Shes married to and neither of us want to leave our spouses but we both are needing more than whats at home. Finacially it works out for her. Just enjoy and move on.

You pay money for sex. She sells you sex for money. Sounds like a commercial transaction to me.

Do you have "feelings" for the person who sells you gas for your car? steaks for the BBQ? Get real, man!