Wondering how to treat guy moving in on dancer that I'm working on.

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• indian

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  14 years ago

  I feel your pain. I had a similar situation went to the bathroom came back and their is someone talking with the girl I see regularly. But she politely told him that she is occupied at the moment. So,I guess if you established yourself with the girl then she will probably take care of it for you. But if you do go to a club and you see an entertainer that is busy just wait because it speaks volumes to the lady what kind of person you are if you interupt her because she is at work. Think about it gentlemen...
• Dudester

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  14 years ago

  Happened twice with me. The first time, I scared him off with a look. The second time, the dancer told me that she'd be right back (she didn't return and I left a little ticked).
• Prim0

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  14 years ago

  I could care less if a girl leaves me...there are others to be had in the club. And if the girl does get up and go off, do I really want her back? Her loss if you ask me. (At least that's the way I look at it) As for taking a girl off another guy. There have been times I've wanted to. The girls are there to make money and if some guy is keeping her with him but not buying dances, she might not be making any money. If I want her and am willing to spend the money, why shouldn't she come with me. I'll give her back when I'm done...Promise!
• vincemichaels

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  14 years ago

  I agree with Primo. Are we supposed to sit in a club all night and not get a dance from some hot dancer just because she is sitting with a guy talking and talking and talking and talking? I don't think so.
• rickdugan

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  14 years ago

  Nothing you can really do about this. If a better opportunity presents itself she is probably going to leave, otherwise she will stay. This is especially true now when things are bad and she'll likely lose a lucrative prospect to another dancer if she hesitates.
• samsung1

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  14 years ago

  Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Try different girls. I have been told by a dancer that she would be over "later" because she was busy sitting with someone. She never came over and I did not think twice about it. If she really did appreciate you then she would have told the other guy to come back later.
• minnow

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  14 years ago

  I haven't had that happen to me in a stripclub. A similar version has happened to me a few times, namely club employee ( mgr, hostess, etc) cutting in and pulling dancer aside. In one case, "hostess" steered dancer towards a table and got locked down. Club in question was a mega club- I recovered somewhat, but was still rankled by being on the short end of the stick. I put hostess down in my black book as someone who will never get a drink order or tip from me.
• shadowcat

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  14 years ago

  Regulars are a stripper's bread and butter. I am just a semi regular at my favorite club. If I am sitting with one of my favorites and one of her regulars come in she will usually ask me if it is OK to go hang with him. I don't mind because I know that I will get better dance prices than him. When she cleans him out at $20-40 per dance, she will come back and do 2 for $20 with me. In the mean time, I can sample the other talent.
• farmerart

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  14 years ago

  If you really want the girl pop for more money. We all know which guy the stripper will choose when it comes to the cash. If you don't want to outspend the competition, walk away and start working on another girl.
• harrydave

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  14 years ago

  You're not looking for the girl who will spend time with you when there is little competition; you're looking for the girl who will spend time with you even when other guys are trying to get her attention. She will fend off guys and do special things for you that the others won't. And if you feel the same way about her, you will let her spend time with other guys so she can increase her income and come back to you for a more comfortable and less "transactional" experience, just like shadowcat suggests. In other words, the girl who allows other guys to horn in, and does not attend to your needs, is not the girl you should be spending your money on.
• troop

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  14 years ago

  a couple times i've had some guy come up and try to talk to a dancer while she was giving me a dance on the floor. both times i basically said hey, i'm getting a dance here, back off or you can pay her for it. they walked away and i remember one of the dancers telling me thanks for getting rid of the guy. as for when you're talking and someone cuts in, there's some good advice above, pick what sounds best for you.
• Clubber

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  14 years ago

  Prim0, How much less could you care?
• imnumnutz

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  14 years ago

  to even consider "kicking someone's ass" because he's talking with a stripper that you were talking to...DUDE!!! She's a stripper!!! Where there's one, there's usually a half dozen more...
• steve229

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  14 years ago

  "My first reaction is to break the bottle over his head" Ever seen "Casino?" I always carry a nice fountain pen with me, just in case I need to go all "Joe Pesci" on a guy horning in on my gal. [view link]
• 2335vent

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  14 years ago

  Interesting thread. Happened to me a few months ago. Latest ATF is with me on the dance floor going to the "reserved section" and a guy comes up and she tells him she'll get to him when she's done with me.We go up and We're just talking in prep for some laps when he comes up grabs her arm and says he'll bring her right back. Takes her to the VIP for 1 1/2 hrs. Waited 45 min and left pissed. She emailed me the following day very sorry and promised she'd make it up to me the next time I came in and she did! Bottom line:Very rude behavior and you may be "their favorite" but they're there to make money. Get over it. Not worth fighting over it. Let her make it up to you next time . You'll end up ahead
• rickdugan

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  14 years ago

  Wow dodge, your story, and some others here, are really starting to burn me. I know I said before that there is nothing you can do about it, but after reading this crap i am really starting to feel your pain on this ;) Wouldn't surprise me to hear that it is some piece of shit suit with a wad in his pocket, and maybe an out of state asshole to boot, that feels that he is so entitled that he can just take the girl that i was working away. Fucking A - I wouldn't put up with it! Fuck the bottle, I'd head out to the car and get my tire iron. A little taste of metal upside his head will teach this assholes about the danger of coming into MY club and messing with MY girl. :) Go get 'em!
• gatorfan

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  14 years ago

  I'd kick his ass for moving in on your muff. Or you could come back to earth and realize strippers see hundreds of customers.
• lopaw

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  14 years ago

  Try being a female customer in a club and see how many guys approach the dancer you're talking to and try to whisk her away! These guys assume that since I'm a girl that I must be the dancers friend, and we're no doubt just BSing. Wrong, bucko. I'm here to score dances (and more) just like you are. This used to happen to me alot, especially in topless joints that serve booze. The first few times I just let it go. Nowadays if I see someone getting close enough to try to pull that shit, I'll mad dog 'em til they skulk away. If they persist - they get a huge dose of schoolin' from me. I'm typically not possessive of dancers at all.....but if someone tries to interfere when I'm chatting up a dancer - he'd better watch out.
• CTQWERTY

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  14 years ago

  Taser?
• lopaw

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  14 years ago

  ^^^ lol now THAT'S an idea.
• CCRiderm

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  14 years ago

  "Don't Tase me bro'! Don't Tase me!"
• vincemichaels

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  14 years ago

  Let me know when you are going to Taser them, lopaw. I'll watch. LOL
• uscue13

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  14 years ago

  I had thoughts on this until my trip last night. A dancer I wanted was immediately grabbed once she came on the floor. The guy ended up just talking to her for well over an hour while I sat at the next table. Of course, I had a dancer sit with me too, but I kept my eye on the situation with the girl I wanted. She obviously knew him previously, so he wasn't a complete stranger customer to her. Well as the night grew on and they hadn't made it to the back, I wondered if I should have a waitress whisper that someone wanted to pay for a dance. I decided against it, got dances with others and kept my eye on the situation. At the end of the night, never had a chance..she was with that guy the whole time. Nothing against her, for all I know they were best friends outside the club and such. I had fun with the dancers I had fun with, but the fact was I also wanted a dance with her because she gives good dances (no extras, just good dances). Maybe next time I'll have to move in on the dancer he was working on instead of waiting
• Notsosly

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  14 years ago

  Never had a dancer stolen from me. Really haven't had any experiences having people approach while I'm there (usually it's when I go to the bathroom). The dancer I'm with always shoots them down... normally because I'm with a regular, or the girl thinks I have a lot more in my wallet than the other guy. I am normally the guy trying to steal the girl. However, I won't ever walk right up to a dancer while she's with someone else, that would be rude, IMO. But that doesn't stop me from trying to get eye contact with her from across the room and giving her a little head nod to see if she wants to "ditch the zero and get with the hero!" Most dancers realize they are there to make money, so about half will just get up and walk over to me, often immediately. If they ignore me or don't leave the guy they're with, then no harm, no foul. I will set my sights on someone else.
• gatorfan

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  14 years ago

  Stolen? call the police
• steve229

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  14 years ago

  Really haven't had any experiences having people approach while I'm there (usually it's when I go to the bathroom). Didn't somebody say you're supposed to put a napkin on her head when you go to the bathroom?
• lopaw

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  14 years ago

  Dang OhioV - you gave her way more chances than I would have. You're one hell of a patient person! vm - my luck, I'll accidentally taser myself too! When I was a dumbass teenager, I tried out my uncle's taser to see if it would work through jeans. It did. I flopped around like a fish for a few minutes, marveling at my own stupidity. Lesson learned. Yeah, I know.....real bright kid I was.
• Jpac73

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  14 years ago

  OHio V. that girl is obviously immature. Yes every dancer is there to make money but you also have to remember to respect the customer if he is a gentleman. Your time is just as important as theirs.