"How do you like your lap dance?"

When I get the question I just tell her to do what she likes and I'll let her know.

"With me inside of you."

Well, that keeps her from biting and/or ripping off your nipples, or trying to pull your hair out by it's roots, lol. So, I'm glad when they ask.

My preferred LD style is her sitting still, moving only enough to let me get my fingers and mouth to all the parts I want to get to. It surprises me sometimes how some girls actually seem to prefer that to grinding.

I'd go with the slow and sensual myself, but like George, I like to explore. I do find a parallel with girls who readily offer me their nipples and those open to extras. Those who maneuver their nipples away are only open to HJ's, BJ's, or no extras only.

I tell her to be soft and sensual, because those are the type of dancers who will do the hardest grinds if they are allowed to.

If it is a first time dancer with me, I just tell her to do whatever she wants. They will do what they know how to do best.

This is one reason why I like to stick to favorites...they already know what I like and what I want.

btw, we don't have any IHOPs in Columbus but I'm guessing it is similar to waffle house? We have a waffle house at nearly every exit

IHOP = Seriously upscale Waffle House, with the attendent upscale pricing.

"Plenty of grinding, your fingers as near my equipment as you're comfortable with, and we'll make the rest up as we go!"

With her naked with lips around my penis and her pussy in my face.

Err, I mean however she feels comfortable in providing the dance ;)