The dark lives of strippers
rickdugan
Verified and Certifiable Super-Reviewer
I, like many on here, have gotten to know some strippers relatively well.
The stories of many of their lives is not pleasant. Girls abused as kids, boyfriends or husbands in jail, single mothers with few skills but with kids to feed, early childhood male abandonment issues, drug or alcohol abuse problems, etc.
While not every stripper has a problem like this, it has been my experience that few of these girls are without some real issue.
What is your experience with this?
The stories of many of their lives is not pleasant. Girls abused as kids, boyfriends or husbands in jail, single mothers with few skills but with kids to feed, early childhood male abandonment issues, drug or alcohol abuse problems, etc.
While not every stripper has a problem like this, it has been my experience that few of these girls are without some real issue.
What is your experience with this?
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I am open to opinions either way, though I am amazed at some of the fucked up lives that have been described to me by strippers.
Most I know are head cases who move around and are pathological liars.
Other stories include a 27 yo grandmother, and a cute little thang who had served time for her part in a series of aggravated assaults and robberies of elderly people. She and BF worked their way around the country rolling old folks.
Other tales too tall to believe...
My first ATF actually had her kid after a year of doing porn, but he left her.
My second ATF had two boys and several times I very nearly called child services on her because of how much she neglected them.
I have seen a LOT of single mothers, particularly in the mid-tier clubs. I have also come across a fair number of women who have criminal records. And of course let's not forget the ones with boyfriends and/or their babies' daddies currently serving prison terms.
I also agree with Super that one does come across those who just want to live free from tie-downs, so stereotyping these girls is hard to do, but IMHO a lot of these girls are carrying a fair amount of luggage.
"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation."
One dancer I know told me she was molested as a kid. Haven't learned any details. Another told me about being molested (she used the word rape) at age 12 by her foster family "dad." Makes me sick and furious just to write it. She seems resilient tho. Most of the dancers I've got to know a bit come from "distressed" backgrounds. I can only think of one who came from a regular family. I think she did it for fun and money.
I have no doubt that there are a lot of really dark stories out there. But I try to avoid the real human wreckage out there - too depressing. In fact, there were a few other girls that I initially thought were ok but started getting negative vibes from. I just decided to avoid conversation that would reveal too much information. In one case I started avoiding a girl who I initially thought was ok who started showing signs of being a bit nuts.
I'm curious, how depressing does a girl's story have to be before it becomes a turn off?
Engineers have a concept called separation of concerns. The gist of it is that things which are inherently separate should be treated that way. The hosed up state of mind of any particular stripper has nothing to do with whether or not she does it for me in the lap. I'll let the dancers pour their hearts out if that's what they want to do, dark and depressing or not. The more comfortable they are with me the more comfortable I get later on...
Many of them have followed their mothers into stripping / prostitution. One I know well was raised by her grandparents while her mother (a stripper) was not around. She did not meet her father (SC DJ) until she was 19. He fathered numerous other kids with strippers. A lot of gals that like to strip really like sex too and have no belief in monogamy. So the fast life of sex, drugs, numerous marriages is par for the course.
Last one was abandoned and lefT pennyless buy her dad at 11. Then had major drug issues. Divorce and growing up very poor seem to be a lot of it.
Variation on the dark side: no matter how dark it is for some of them, most work very hard to bring some degree of mormality into their lives.
I know dancers who are successfully rasing children with the proper outlook on living and the future. I know dancers who seem young yet are grandmothers with all the doting concerns that go with that territory. And I know many dancer who aren't necessarily going to school full time, but who are taking one class at a time to try to change their lives..
On the real dark side, I've seen some literally consumed by drugs, get caught up in a partners drug business, die from asphixiation after falling asleep smoking in bed; one recently committed suicide, and two others met unfortunate deaths after some strange circumstancess. In other words, dark can get really dark.
I'm glad you remember sometimes they don't get out of it. I knew one dancer at my favorite club who was pretty good, but then she took up methamphetamine, and pretty soon after that, all she was about was meth. Eventually, I heard from one of the other dancers she killed herself with a bullet to the head. There was also another dancer there who died in a drug overdose. I wouldn't be surprised if there were others within my experience who have passed away.
Yeah, besides most of them being divorced and/or needing to deal with deadbeat dads, and a couple that have been busted for pot, the dancers I run into are normal. Come to think of it, I'm kind of surprised.
Most of the others? The most common thread is coming from a broken home. They are ALL the children of divorce. Girls with good nuclear families don't end up on the pole, in my experience. A surprising number of strippers have parents who've died.
Drugs are not real big in the club I visit most, but that's only because they run a tight ship. Other clubs in the area are FILLED with girls on Oxys and Roxies.
Loser boyfriends and ex-husbands are very common. Funny that I don't meet strippers who are actually married. I'm sure they exist, but I don't meet them. I witnessed a phone conversation between an absolutely gorgeous 18 year old stripper and her boyfriend. The subject? Whether she'd made enough money to come home yet. She ended up getting pregnant by the dirtbag. Last time I saw her she was pregnant and sitting with him in the smoky strip club. Really.
I know one stripper whose father is dating a stripper she works with, an ex-porn star. That's gotta be a mindfuck.
Girls have told me stories of physical abuse at the hands of boyfriends and husbands. I've not seen any black eyes or anything on the girls, but...