Extras or a really good LD....which do you prefer

If I think that I know the girl well enough, then I would prefer extras...but if we just met then a really good LD is preferred. Sometimes the grinding and the LD is so good that I don't need two way contact to call it a good dance.

Why does it have to be one or the other?

I prefer the good lapdance. Az clubs were good for eye candy and good friction dances. Most Tx dancers give crappy dances but offer extras.

It would be nice to get a good lapdance and extras. it just doesn't happen that oftten in my area.

really listening to you guys on this one!!!!!!!

I prefer extras, but I don't like to plan them out. It is best when those things just happen. She enjoys herself, and I enjoy myself, and she is also rewarded monetarily as a matter of course, given the circumstances. But "intimacy" is the goal, and that can happen with either LD or extras, but not so much with too much pre-planning.

I enjoy a good dance. A terrible dancer makes me want to go for extras so I wont feel like I wasted my money.

Extras are great with the girl providing the girlfriend experience.

I prefer a girl who will watch while I do the ol' handjive. The best ones have reciprocated. I'm a bit afraid of FS because of disease.

We have to make a choice???

Extras are a weak version of sex acts that are common in everyday life. Nothing in real life compares to a good lap dance. You can't get the same experience anywhere but in a strip club.

I'm like how in that I don't really plan on having extras, as most of the time, it just happens. But if extras are impossible based on what club you are in at the moment, a good lapdance works out all right.

So the ever-present question, Is this a fantasy or a sex act? I go for the fantasy of a hot naked woman dancing ever-so-close. If the chemistry is right, it becomes more erotic, and can move to the next level. It has the potential to become a highly-charged sexual encounter. Go with the flow, but don't mortgage your future on it.

chandler: well keep in mind that you are a failed writer who is using strip clubs to work out your power/control issues. Thus your motivations *are* rather "different" from most.

There's nothing like a good lap dance. And there's nothing like good extras. It's what you're in the mood for and what the girls does best. I've paid for some extras that were not worth it and I would never go back for seconds. In those cases, a good lap dance would be preferable.

A great lap dance is one where the girl knows you and what you like, knows you want to get off and makes sure you do, in the most seductive pleasing way possible. I've had many lap dancers say, OK, let's get to it and things fall apart from there.

And extras with lapdance foreplay aren't fun either.

True a great lap dance is when the girl wants to get you off, which means if the girl is getting you off via extras it is all the same. I would disagree that sex acts are in some way inferior to a basic grind, if a stripper is offering extras or sex acts as part of a private lap dance it is in my opinion equally as dirty and I think more exciting than even the best grind with her ass. Tit-jobs count as extras too and many strippers will offer that too.

The most popular dancer on the day shift(maybe anytime)at my favorite club does NOT do extras. Her dances are the epitome of sensual. Just tipping her on stage was enough to give me a boner. She is very petite, very small breasted and cute as hell. I would rate her a "9". She must be in her middle 20's now. I remember when I first saw her 7 years ago, the DJ introduced her as "barely legal N _ _ _ _. I rarely get dances from her because she is too damn popular. The last time I did a private dance with her her body and soul stuck to me like a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. She has never gone after MR. Happy with her hands but has allowed me bare access to the kitty. That was a pleasant surprise but she told me "don't expect me to do that for your friends". She is on my favorites list but I do not consider her to be a closer. It takes extras to send me home with a smile on my face.

In my years clubbing, I can count on one hand the number of lappers I've had that were memorable. With all but one of those from whom I had a great lapper, I've had extras. The art of a great lapper is lost on most girls in the club today.

So, I go with the extras.

Sounds like some of you are having bad luck with lapdances. I get memorably great dances as often as ever. Never as often as I wish, but that's life. Do I wish the stripper would stop the lapdance in order to give me a handjob? Uh, no. Handjobs are the lame stepchild of sex. Not something I crave in a strip club or on a date. And a blowjob or a fuck in a strip club are too brief and too tame for me to base my night around. Lapdances aren't about cumming. They're about the journey, not the destination. If your whole measure of a dance is the mileage you get, you've missed the point.

chandler: "Lapdances aren't about cumming. They're about the journey, not the destination. If your whole measure of a dance is the mileage you get, you've missed the point."

I think you are out of line trying to tell everyone what their goal should be. Remember not everyone is a failed writer trying to work out power/control issues in strip clubs like you are.

Shadowcat, she has gone after Mr. Happy for me. Several times.

trickystick, glad to hear it. I won't give up on her.

I prefer extras, especially sex. Lap Dances are waste of money in my view unless simply prospecting for dancers who are players. When I can get a HJ for $100 or sex for $200, why spend $200 on dances?

loved all the input on this guys.....