What Sets the Tone?

5/7/2023 12:22:33 AM

What makes a lap dance memorable for you? What are you looking for? Is there a “formula” for you or do you just wing it and hope it’s a good one? One could pay attention to every little detail. Or, one could just enjoy the ride so to speak. So which is it?

Music could be a factor for some. I know I seem to be a bit more comfortable when I actually know the music that is playing. And I can also appreciate a song that sounds good. I remember the song that was playing during my first lap dance about 10 years ago (Toxic by Brittney Spears, and that tune still brings back fond memories). I also remember “Captain Jack Sparrow” was playing from the Lonely Island that night as well. Song’s catchy, just seems like an unusual song to get a dance to. Another thing to consider on why I might remember the song more, other than it being my first dance ever, is that the club was STRICT with the no touching policy. The grind and huge tits in my face were good, but I think we can all agree that being able to touch and roam makes you block a few things out.

I know others may look for the secluded spot for reasons we all know. But what if that spot isn’t available? Is it best available spot then? Wait it out? I’ve never been patient enough for that. I wouldn’t consider myself a connoisseur either, but I’ve gotten enough lap dances to know that some spots are good and some aren’t. There was a time at Baby Dolls in Dallas I was getting a dance (if you read my post about rookie mistakes, it was actually during that trip) from a blonde with big fake tits upstairs that something happened that ruined the whole thing. Well, besides me not realizing the price per song instead the twofer I thought all clubs did (again, rookie). She was grinding away and letting my hands go almost wherever I wanted to, when some dude probably a few chairs behind me gets too rough with a dancer and the bouncers come up and have to handle the situation. Huge distraction. So obviously, picking the spot is ideal if you can.

I’ve also been in situations where the girl is really hot (to me anyway) and hands are going everywhere that I don’t know what else is going on around me. At that point you trust that she’s got you in the right spot (or no one cares what goes on anyways). I guess you could call it tunnel vision. You zone everything out and you’re focused on the task at hand so to speak. I can appreciate a nice set of tits or a nice ass, bonus if it’s both. That’s where 100% of the attention goes. You are flirting with disaster though, if you get lost in bliss and don’t keep track of the number of dances or songs.

Well, what is it? Does the music do it for you? Are there places you avoid do to their playlists? I know there’s been times for me where I can’t stand the music they’re playing, that it ruins the whole vibe. But, sometimes a good dancer helps overcome those situations. Is it location? Favorite club? Favorite spot in a club? Ambience ? Or am I overthink all of this?

7 comments

mogul1985
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a year ago
When she acts genuine (well, I know they do this for the money), stares in my ears, gets a devilish grin and asked, "Can I molest you?" I still remember that one from 22 years ago: blonde, fit, early 30'ish, totally natural bod. I know strippers are not Mother Theresa and doin' this for "humanity". I don't like fake tatas or big asses. I'm not a fan of tats or heavy cosmetics. The eye lock, it's a turn on. They could be a 5-6 and as long as they have that personality to connect, most excellent. And race doesn't matter. Good English just adds a lot of extra points.
Brahma2k
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a year ago
^^^ mogul with a good answer.
For me: no big bolt ons, minimal tattoos on a petite body.

She’s being paid to do it. This is a business transaction, that’s it. Yet if that hustle/routine of hers can convincingly come across as she is enjoying it? Imho this is the top of the mountain. I’ll take a 6 who can do that over a 9 who gives a pro forma performance.
Sgrayeff
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a year ago
What sets the tone for me are articles that are articles, not discussions.
Jascoi
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a year ago
so he should have put a period instead of a question mark in the title.
JasonMckin
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a year ago
+1 to mogul. There's obvious shit like attractiveness of girl, comfort of the couch/chair/bean bag, music, lighting, bouncer attitude, etc. But it's the GFE factor that creates memories that last forever. The eye contact, devilish grins, playful ribbing, heavy breathing and moaning in your ear, that's what leads to a lighter wallet and lighter balls.
Jascoi
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a year ago
bottom line. chemistry.
FLAP3000
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a year ago
👆🏿👆🏿👆🏿…this answer. When it’s there, it’s undeniable. I don’t have a specific type, though I am usually partial to voluptuous women of color. However, I’ve had the best chemistry with dancers of all backgrounds and body types.