The Art of Influence: How Not to Be a Simp in a Strip Club
I donât care how salty you are about a past experienceâmaybe you got played, maybe you thought she was your second wife (which, bro, break up with the first one first). Either way, if youâre walking into a club and losing control, youâre doing it wrong.
This isnât about running game or some manipulative nonsense. This is just how human nature works. If you carry yourself right, people notice. If you donât, well⌠thatâs how you end up walking out with an empty wallet and a head full of regret.
Hereâs what you should be doing instead.
- Reciprocity â âI Give, You Feel Obligated to Returnâ
People instinctively return favors. Thatâs just how weâre wired.
What Happens Naturally:
When you casually hand over moneyânot desperate, not trying to buy anythingâpeople react differently.
"Here, take this, but donât run off too fast, yeah?"
Itâs lighthearted, not transactional. And because you werenât desperate for her time, now sheâs more interested in yours.
â Why It Works: You create a subtle pressure loop where she wants to match your vibe.
- Commitment & Consistency â âOnce People See You a Certain Way, They Stick to Itâ
People donât like to contradict themselves. Once they start treating you a certain way, itâs hard for them to backtrack.
How It Works Naturally:
If you donât act like a thirsty fool from the start, she wonât see you as one.
"I sit on the edge, keep a low profile, and donât react like a typical customer."
Without realizing it, she categorizes you differently.
â Why It Matters: If she sees you as different from the others, she has to keep treating you that way.
- Social Proof â âOther People Make You Valuableâ (If You Play It Right)
Yeah, itâs trueâwhen people see others interested in you, they get curious.
But Hereâs the Catch:
â If you sit with a dancer, make sure sheâs a legit baddieâlike, at least an 8/10 in the looks department.
â OR she should at least be someone you vibe with naturally.
â If youâre chilling with someone you donât vibe with, the whole thing falls apart.
Why?
Because if youâre obviously out of place, it looks forced.
â What to Remember: Approach first based on looks, then stay if you actually connect. No forced networking.
- Liking â âPeople Say Yes to People They Likeâ
Dancers deal with needy dudes all day. If youâre not that guy, they notice.
What Happens Naturally:
You make them laugh. You joke around. You donât act like a customer whoâs just there to buy time.
"Damn, I thought we had trust. Now youâre counting the money like an IRS agent?"
"You didnât used to be like this. Youâre getting soft."
Itâs not try-hard. Itâs just fun.
â Why It Works: People like people who make them feel good. If she likes you, sheâll want to talk to you.
- Authority â âPeople Listen to Who They Have to Adjust Forâ
If you walk in acting like you follow their rules, youâve already lost.
What Happens Naturally:
You set boundaries without making a big deal about it.
She tries to hold your hand. You move away.
"Nah, you know I donât do that."
Now she has to adjust to you.
Or, when you tip, you do it without hesitation, but without making a big deal.
â Why It Works: The moment you set the tone, she follows it.
- Scarcity â âPeople Want What They Canât Haveâ
If something is too available, people donât value it.
What Happens Naturally:
You donât over-message. You donât always react instantly.
"She could be farming easier customers, but sheâs stuck on me. Why?"
At some point, her brain starts glitching.
"Wait, why do I care if he responds? Why do I wanna make him like me?"
â Why It Works: Your time isnât just handed out. So when she gets it, she values it.
Final Verdict: Youâre Doing This Naturally Anyway
This isnât about some pickup artist nonsense. This is just human nature.
The only difference between a dude who walks out broke and a dude who walks out rememberedâis knowing how this works.
So before you walk into a club again, ask yourself:
Are you playing the game? Or getting played?
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Bro, you could have finished our conversation... I genuinely want to get better at article writing. Anyways, leave your feedback below and you can keep me muted. I can't message you back after I asked why I sound like "AI" or a "Scammer"....
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See below for Exhibit A and B lol
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Cool article dude
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wordy B.S.
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No updates from y'all on how to improve. :(
Exhibit B, it never uploaded with my first picture weird. "Add Media (0/4)" seems to be wonky.
I accidentally posted another exhibit and it showed me email address đ but here is Exhibit B because I'm cross it doesn't make sense now.
See Exhibit B.... No adjudicators gave me any practical or actionable article advice to improve. Load of BS, right? @loper
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Thank you đ @Hungryhunnypot
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𧨠Part 1: How I Played Around With $100 Last Night and Emotional Discipline, FINALLY!!!!!!!
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Look.
You donât need to blow $1,000 to make an impact.
You just need self-control, timing, and maybe some Helly work boots (also makes sure yours don't smell like your worksite's sewer) that says âI could stomp an asshole with the bouncers if they needed backup.â
I hit a new city for 2 business days so far...
4 double Jamesons deep last night...
$100 in fivers... (the blue one, for all you Americans on here lol)
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Step 1: Arrive Early. Not Eager.
I walked in around opening.
Scoped the room before the âGroup Effectâ kicked in (you know the one hahahaha, seriously, the Group Effect occurs when 6 average-looking dancers morph into one clusterfucking confusing 8/10 maybe-baddie).
Didnât rush. Didnât react.
Just watched on the sidelines as per usual.
With headphones in if the music is shit and a double J-Mo and tall glass of water in both hands.
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Step 2: Be Seen. Not Loud.
I tipped the bartender light to start and the front of house staff - nothing crazy like I used to lol god damn I hate posturing. Joked with the bartender and front of house staff. Clocked the staff and how their vibes felt.
Didnât roll coins. Never, ever do. LOL, it's funny when I tell BC people in the strip club industry I'm in/from Alberta now technically so they're like "NO COINS, ABSOLUTELY NO COINS". Anyways, I nodded and moved on. Didnât cause chaos.
Just made sure they knew:
âIâm not new here. Iâm not stupid. Iâm just sipping and waiting for the show.â
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Step 3: Tip With Power. Not Desperation.
$5 bills. Not $1s.
No thirsty energy. Just a soft toss like Iâm feeding koi fish in Kyoto lmao.
Didnât spray the stack like a frat bro-bot.
Didnât try to buy affection, you can, sure but it ain't gonna sizzle if she ain't the one tbh.
Just enough to be seen, not owned (HELL NAW, as Young Dolph would say).
If I got bored?
I stopped.
Because my boredom kicking in is great useful data, not a malfunction or an off night and holy hell..... and thank brother of Christ I learned this FINALLY - to check in with my own state of mind.
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Step 4: Emotional Rejection With Dignity
One tatted goth baddie came through. Portland-style.
Face? A poem.
Vibe? A dream.
Tooth? Shiny. Possibly possessed..... probably a cheap molar ugh fuck... boner down.
My little buddy downstairs screamed at me and said nope.
So I dipped respectfully... and my most important thing is GIVING GRACE TO THE DANCER despite my double glance turning into potential double regrets.
âWhen I see the one, Iâll know.â
Said that in full view of the stripper booth-swarm.
Now they all wanna know who âthe oneâ is.
Legend status: unlocked.
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Step 5: Exit Like a Myth
I had $20 left, wow.
Card declined on purpose (I literally blocked it earlier).
Sipped a final Jameson like it was a funeral for my old simp self lmao RIP to that old self from March 2023.
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TL;DR: This is the "BEGINNER, but come on now, lol it's for the cheap motherfuckers that are tryna be Anti-Simps (trademark this shit lmao, joking)" Way
Donât go in loud. Go in tuned in.
Watch before acting. Tip with grace and give grace.
Leave if you ain't feeling anyone.
But it's so easy to go in with Part 2 now and fucking be a sniper!!!!!! LMAO
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Playing with formatting but LOL the formatting options on here are a little wonky so apologies and also I won't use emojis anymore since it seems to trigger the peanut gallery of downvoters that have no feedback for me to improve. :'(
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