Things Strippers Think

Damn – and I thought dancing was all fun times.

Just being facetious – it’s understandable to have to work on 100% commission or else you don’t eat and that can be very nerve-wracking for most people.

From my custy POV; I’d say never assume a custy will not like you – custy’s preferences are all over the place and one can’t judge a book by its cover – I’m a clean-cut pale-white Anglo-looking Hispanic but into black dancers and particularly thick black dancers like a hood black-guy; thus I mostly visit all-black clubs – it’s not rare for many a dancer that is my type (thick and dark-skinned) to pass by me often times and never approach me or just look at me trying to gauge my interest but not approach me – on multiple occasions I’ve had thick black dancers tell me “I’d been noticing you all night but I didn’t approach you b/c I didn’t think you’d go for me”.

Strip clubs are bizarro world – the opposite of the real world – in the “real world” guys approach women and gotta convince them – I’m sure there may have been instances in your life where there was a guy you found attractive but perhaps nothing materialized b/c perhaps he thought you would not go for him – in strip-club bizarro world it’s the same but the opposite – the girls gotta approach the guys and thinking “oh he won’t go for me” may cause you a custy that may o/w have been interested in you.

If you go in with the mindset of “he will not like me” then you may be kinda setting yourself up for failure to some degree – don’t you think confidence goes a long way in guys – same for dancers in strip-club bizarro world.

“… Did that girl really just take my guy while I'm up here …”

I can see that being an issue in a strip-club.

Communication is important in any “relationship” – if a custy does want to get dances from you then you have to let him know it’s important that he wait for you – you can tell him:

“There will probably be other girls coming by to ask you for dances/company – you can say yes to them if you want to but if you’d like to get some dances w/ me then tell them you’re waiting for someone and I’ll come back to you as soon as I get off stage”

i.e. dot your i’s and cross your t’s – us PLs are weak and with a pair of tits in our face it’s often hard to say no to immediate gratification – and some PLs are too shy/weak to stand-up to a dancer’s hustle – and often times dancers that say “I’ll be right back” never do – so you stress to him you want to be all over him one you get off stage and to wait for you.

It's always been clear to me that in the stripper role that women are being pressed to be forward in ways which really push them to their limits.

One needs to understand this so as not to misconstrue them as being negative or unwilling to engage.

SJG

Well with the mindset of #2 & #3 you just mindfucked yourself out of a possible sale.

I often have curious but unsure dancers circle me for a bit before they decide that they are brave enough to approach. Often by the time they put their big girl panties on and decide to approach me someone else has gotten to me already. My point is JUST DO IT.

Maybe you should be thinking sales pitch. How can I be a fun sexy girl? What can I do to have a good time and get this guy to spend money on me?

Everybody wins if you sell the dance correctly. Plus you will have repeat customers.

I enjoyed this. Thanks for the article.

You guys are all right lol. The whole time I'm working up the nerve to talk to someone I already know the worst thing they can say is no. Its not a big deal yet we all still dilly dally lol. Its easy for me to tell a girl "Theres so much opportunity just do it! go talk to that guy or that guy or that guy" but when it comes to myself... it can be quite nerve racking! but once you get on a roll or when the club is packed its not as big of a deal. when its slow is when i get the most nervous because in that case EVERY conversation could be THE ONE

Lol if you're that nervous approaching guys you would never in a million years approach someone like me and you could wind up missing out on a great opportunity not only to bank that night but possibly pick up a money spending regular. But to each their own.

Damn, I wish I was Lopaw's type! I could use some regular spending money. Lol

Good article TC, thanks. I can sympathize with you about being unsure in approaching customers. Hell, even on a great night you probably hear "no" more than "yes", it's got to be tough. But I no longer sit and wait for a girl I find attractive -- I make sure she knows I am interested at the earliest opportunity. I would say you should never leave potential money on the table. Nearly every customer is a potential regular, if not a whale.

One of the most surprising things that I've discovered at SCs is that some of the girls have the same feelings of uncertainty and anxiety that they have with regular guys outside the club. And so do the guys.

I've learned in the clubs to relax more outside them.

from my view point

1. will she suck my dick
2. no
3. will she suck my dick
4. yes
5. sold take all my money
6. time to leave get some food and a nap

LOL, Corvus. It's not easy being a commissioned salesperson. She's tough, I wish you the best of luck, Tara

Thank you, TaraChristine, for a very interesting insight into the mind of a stripper while she's at work. I would think that even the hottest and sweetest girls get a lot of No's in the course of an evening. I could never deal with that much rejection!

"... Things Strippers Think ..."

Call me cynical - but I'm pretty sure this is what most if not all think when they lay eyes on us:

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I guess I'll never understand the dancers who huddle together, complain about not making money but yet won't do talk to guys to "get that money". Get a shot of that liquid courage and go get that money.

There's raw honesty is this post. Tell it like it is. Very nice and original ! Keep posting.

damn good read from the dancer and female customer point of view. and not to mention the pathetic losers point.

Dont get to caught up on #2,3. You wont know what type a custy has unless you go up and talk with them. It might even vary or you might be able to change our mind. By all means at least go and find out. Don't be one of the ones who just sits with the other girls talking, while plenty of customers are sitting alone.

@Juslovin you are 100% correct. I have met people that I didn't even know weren't interested in my "type" and will say after speaking with me, you are so different than what I expected. I've noticed when i ignore #2 and #3 and just act like its a no brainer to go with me I do better. Insecurity isn't cute on anyone!

I guess I'll share my thoughts in this little thread too. It was hilarious reading the ones I could relate to. I know that #2 and #3 are nerve-wracking, and I'm guilty of those thoughts too often, but I've already seen that I tend to walk out with more pocket change when I talk to everyone as opposed to just sitting and waiting for someone who I 'think' will like me. Let me throw in some head games as well.

1 } (On stage) Oh my god, why is the DJ playing this super fast song for me when no one is here?! 2 } (On stage) Oh my god, why is the DJ playing this slow ass song for me on a jammed-packed night?! 3 } (On Stage) Literally all of the guys are staring at their phones while I'm up here. Who am I dancing for again? 4 } Thanks for reminding me you're doing drugs again. The last 20 times you told me tonight didn't get through till now. 5 } Oh god, she's drunk and mad again. 6 } Don't flatter yourself, custy. I'm 'wet' because I'm ovulating. 7 } Wow, you're like, the 6th guy tonight to tell me it's your birthday. You want me to sing you a song? 8 } Why do you assume I drink or take something before I come into work? 9 } Why do you assume the other girls and I have beef? 10 } No seriously, we're getting along just fine. 11 } How hard is it to conceive that we're getting along? Jeez. 12 } (In VIP) Dude, they're nipples, not hard candy. 12 } (In VIP) You've never fingered a girl in your life, have you? 13 } (In VIP) I'm seriously convinced you're trying to dig your way into China or something. 14 } (In VIP) Alright, just stop. 15 } (In VIP) What? You want to go to the booth closest to the wall? Let me grab my hazmat suit. 16 } (In VIP) Maybe I should have spaghetti for dinner tonight... 17 } Where did all of these new girls come from? 18 } I'll give her a week or two. 19 } Wow, not even 3 days, and she's gone. 20 } You did not just blow smoke in my face... 21 } How are you all not dying from the fog of smoke in the room? 22 } This girl has been sitting with this guy for almost an hour, and he hasn't spent a dime yet. Take a hint. 23 } This man has the charisma of a dead fish... NEXT. 24 } This man smells like a dead fish... NEXT. 25 } I know I don't drink on the job, but the 'think of the kittens' technique just isn't enough sometimes.

this is good.

Interesting perspective