Ah, the holy grail of an OTC date... I hope you'll allow a dancer to answer (rhyme not intended). The 'proper' spot depends upon a few criteria... how long have you known her? Is this your first OTC date? Are you two platonically comfortable together as ITC 'friends' or did you assume she had something more in mind when she agreed to a date? Most importantly- is this time-for-pay or an actual date? If it's time-for-pay then you should agree in advance to a set of circumstances (location & proceedings) you're both happy with... if it's an actual date, then a neutral, public site is a good idea (at least to meet/start the date) so you can slowly gain her trust in an OTC environment. If all goes well, then choice 1 or 2 may happen organically. :) Good luck!
ALWAYS-first OTC date-take her to a motel, ALWAYS. There are a number of dancers only too happy to let you take her to your place, then she tells her loser criminal boyfriend whether you have an alarm system, best way to get in, what to take, etc. It is all too common for guys to get burgled within days of an OTC date. The series of raids on the Treasures club happened because a circuit judge took a dancer home, and the next day, he was burgled-paybacks are a mother.
If she puts up with a year or more of the hotel dates, and she's not flighty, then she's possibly okay (nothing is 100%) to take home.
"1 - my place" -- Negative. See Dudester's observations above.
"2 - her place" -- Okay, but most dancers won't suggest this, and you shouldn't suggest it first.
"3 - neutral site" -- Best overall option. For actual dates that involve no pay-for-play, I prefer treating the lady to a nice dinner. No expectations for more, and whatever happens from there is gravy... For a paying gig, a motel's the place.
If it's pay for play, I prefer my hotel room. Safety!Only been 3 that I trusted enough to invite them to my home. Those same 3 have given me their addresses but I have never spent any quality time there.
With one exception, it was always in a motel room. There's too much to risk by having it at your place. The one exception was with this one dancer at her place (she owned a house in the city the club was in, or at least lived in it). The experience was nice, and she had an "entertainment room" just for that purpose. But it was weird because she showed me her kids room and I half expected her kid to wake up and walk in. I was absolutely shocked that experience even happened.
I go with a hotel room.
Your place--as said above, too much chance of being set up for a robbery later. The porn actress Bianca Trump is currently in jail b/c she used escort outcalls as a way to case a residence for a couple of friends of hers to hit later. And it's bad policy to let anyone know where you live if you aren't comfortable with them showing up and any time, pre-arranged or not. Do you really want Peaches stopping by while you are having a nice home-cooked supper with your sister and her husband and kids?
(Besides, your wife might object)
Her place--too much chance of being set up for a robbery.
A hotel of your choosing is fairly safe. You should not go to a hotel of her choosing, because she might use it regularly for outcalls, and LE might have drawn a bead on her and her room.
It would depend on what kind of neighborhood she lives in. If it is a nice apartment area or neighborhood then it would be OK to go to her place. But be careful if you go into a ghetto area and have a nice car. Mine was broken into and the radio was taken out. (it was not even a fancy satellite radio, just the radio that came with the car!
Also if you are paranoid you could take her to a motel outside of the city limits so in case she is working with LE.
If a strange dancer out of the blue said she wanted to take you to her apartment and let you do whatever you wanted to her, would you drop everything and go or be very suspicious? I was suspicious.
I would say a nice dinner is something I would feel comfortable with, in both parties.
Girls can get defensive and wierded out if you come to her house.
Also what you see at the club may not be what she is like else where. In other words she could be a complete pyscho. haha, but thats only some.
I also agree that if it is a paid thing, a hotel room, until you both feel comfortable that nether of you is crazy. I dont mean to sound offensive, but when a customer asked me out I usually assume that they might get a little stalker-ish.. but we all have different experiences!
Good luck!
Are you supposed to pay for her time on the OTC date? I had my OTC date, but I just bought her clothes, shoes, food, etc. I never paid her time, except for extras.
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