My Dancer Pass Me Over to See her richer Regular
whghIost
Georgia
I have been seeing a dancer for a while. She always spend time with me before we go to the VIP. Recently, she told me that a new regular came in and she need to leave me and go to him. she told me that she can make a grand from him. She said that he just want a few dances and talk. She prefer easy money over real work. For me, she would had to go in the VIP. I kinda understand, but I was there first. Plus, I see her once a week. Plus, it took me 3 hours to get to the club. This other guy is a rich guy. I hate the fact that he would set a bad example. Why anybody would give a dancer 1000 dollars just for a few dances and heavy conversations. You can get a call girl for that and she would spend a few hours with you or even spend the nite. I am upset that she cast me aside. I had to put my foot down, but she did give me 15 minutes in the VIP. She only charged me 100 dollar. I did get what I wanted in the form of a quickie. However, I was not happy. I wanted my usual time with her. It is more than just the physical. I want the conversation and time of fulfillment. She said that she would make it up next time. I would prefer a date. She said that she'll call me, but I don't think she will. She said it before and never called. I did not mean to develop a crush on her, but it just happen. All I wanted was to have fun. HOwever, it grew.
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It sounds like there are lot of other things in play here than just one bad night with a favorite dancer, though.
Tough break, dude, but that's the harsh reality.
As for why the rich guy would pay more than necessary: I cannot relate to that, so I could only speculate it gives him some feeling of power.
It may also be more about him seeing himself in a very generous light; I can afford to pay a lot more than the average wage slave so why shouldn't I spread the wealth to those I like or who do a good job?
A friend of mine treats $100s as if they were $1s. He has more money than he can spend unless he wanted stupid stuff like art or 10 homes or diamonds or etc. Thus, if someone is doing right by him, he wants to try and bring a smile to their face. Maybe make the person feel important i.e. your so good that instead of paying X, I'm going to pay 10X.
The local drug dealers that sometimes visit Angels love to spread the wealth (handing out $20s like they're $1s). Their business is high risk so at least enjoy some happiness while they can. I will send dancers to go get that free money if they happen to be spending time with me . . . stop by and smile with the friendly drug dealer and walk away with $100 or $140? Damn girl, drop me and my $5 without delay!
Then you'll be rich too.
O.
Sad to hear you have to drive so many hours. I don't sweat that at all, but I'm a 10 minute drive from the club; big deal. Also, I appreciate it if the dancer explains that look this sucker is good for a $1,000. If I like the dancer, then I don't want to get in the way of her making real money. OTOH, if the customer is poor like me, then it should be first come first serve.
There was this wealthy old gentleman over at Angels and he was fairly aggressive. I had the hottest dancer and kept buying dances one after the other. He actually comes over----after a waiting a long time----and pulls out a roll of $100s. He apologizes for the interruption. Remember I'm paying for this dance. He says look, I want this dancer and money isn't a problem and pulls out a roll of $100s. That dancer is GONE!!! He says whatever you owed her, I'll take care of it. Would you like me to buy you another dancer? I say that is the hottest dancer in the club. He says I know. He offered a couple $100s and I said not necessary. That dancer was very fast and I don't blame her.
Unfortunately, I never saw her again. For most customers one dancer or another makes no difference. They're pretty happy with whatever. That ain't me. That ain't the man who took my dancer. It grates on the ear when I hear just get another dancer. Damn, I can be in a room filled hot dancers and not find the heartbreaker. She was a heartbreaker. They just ain't easy to find or sometimes rarely they come in pairs or triplets.
If I had the money, then I definitely would have gone bidding war to keep my dancer.
I like the personal, but if it is just a fantasy that she is selling that is fine. The bottom line is a stripper or regular woman could have feelings for me and that is wonderful, if I like her. However, a perfect performance by a working woman is just as good and perhaps more valuable to me. I don't want a real relationship. I want a fantasy that appears to be a real relationship.
A stripper's focus on money means very little to me, if I can afford her time. It is the heartbreaker beauty that is difficult to find for my eyes. Most customers seem like they can swap the dancers like fast food joints; more power to 'em. Unfortunately, the dancers that cause my heart to beat faster than is safe (even when I was young) are fairly rare and normally aren't easy to work with or are extremely expensive.
I felt bad that some dancers wanted to stay with me when a free spending customer would show. It just doesn't seem right to me that I should prevent her from bringing in the money unless I have the capacity to make it up to her. I mean she is working and she needs to remember that she is there to work. Yes, I was a regular . . . but, a poor regular. Better nab the wealthy customer ASAP!!! And, don't make me feel bad by sticking it out with me and my $5. (Yes, I appreciate the "loyalty" real or fake----Bottom line I want her to go and make the money.)
I don't know about anyone else, but if client A offers me $100 for the same job client B offers me $1000 for - hello, client B!
Is anyone seriously not capable of understanding this?
O.
It works the other way as well. A customer is willing to spend his money on a particular stripper until one he likes more comes along.
The trick is not to get emotionally involved and think that there is more to your relationship than there really is.
Going for the wealthier client doesn't prove much, imo. Especially when she takes the time to explain how much wealthier. My guess is she assumes that "her friend" (or even ordinary client) would understand that, that is too much money to pass and that if he had the same opportunity in his line of work he'd jump on it. The dancer may even expect that a client that truly likes her would be even more sensitive toward her feelings on this issue and want her to be financially successful. Instead she is more like to get a pouty pest in lieu of a "friend" or customer.
Apologize to her and buy a few more dances. OK, that is being a little insensitive on my part. You know, I know ordinary woman who'd be dropping their real lover (for an hour or a day) if a wealthy man is going to be throwing money at them. It would be honey I love you, but you ain't keeping me from getting that new washer/dryer or new sports car or new diamond ring. This pussy needs to grind out some CASH. Does that mean she doesn't love or care about her real lover? Remember her real lover being a "true man" probably fucks as many hoes as are available and is prouder the more pussy he pounds.
You stated and asked, "I don't know about anyone else, but if client A offers me $100 for the same job client B offers me $1000 for - hello, client B!
Is anyone seriously not capable of understanding this?"
Yes, many are! Economics is very poorly taught, if at all, in this country.
More interesting is how the media keeps repeating that the U.S. government has to borrow its own money (remember it's a fiat currency) from foreign countries or others. HELLO!!! Is anyone awake? LOL
Even if the U.S. government actually needed to go and borrow its own money from foreigners and little old ladies and whomever, that money most likely (unless created) has to come from depriving other needy borrowers of funds needed to keep business humming along. IOWs, major credit crunch. Don't worry . . . the U.S. government is actually doing the right thing by basically creating dollars out of thin air----and NO!!!!! that doesn't necessarily equal inflation (yes, normally there is some inflation---that inflation might actually be more to do with all types of mandates and laws).
Hopefully the OP will realize this now before it is too late.
As for economics not being taught in this country - well that must have been said as a non sequitor since you don't need to learn any economics to prefer $1000 to $100. I think I six year old has enough education to figure that one out.
It is seductive to think that if people just knew economics they would agree with the obvious. I was watching a teacher work very hard to teach introductory economics and he did a very good job, imo. However, when all was said and done some students who finally were able to grasp what he was saying still disagreed! Can you imagine that? At first, I thought these dumb dumbs merely needed more lessons until they truly understood. Understanding wasn't the problem however. Morality was!!! YIKES, that evil word.
See some people may believe that first come first serve should be the rule regardless of relative profits or losses and they may even believe that that should be the law!
Doesn't seem reasonable at all if money is her main goal. The wealthier client often doesn't have to wait. $1,000 for less work sounds better than $250 for more work, imo.
Sorry to hear about all the trouble you're having lately seeing this dancer on positive terms. Best strategy is probably just to stay away from the club for awhile. Then when you come back be nice to her assuming you still want to get dances from her or be on an upbeat.
If I was a richer guy, then I'd probably be at Angels or some cheap redneck stripclub in the rural South. Who knows perhaps my taste would become refined and suddenly gentlemen's clubs would appeal to me.
Could be as simple as the rich guy wants to be the big fish in small pond. He wants to be special. Anyway, spending $250 per hour you seem like a rich guy to me. :)
Like other people have said, I think your best bet is to find you a new favorite and let your old favorite compete for your attention and your dollars. Don't limit yourself to one girl at the club. She's a stripper, not a wife.
And please understand that her priority is to make ends meet. Contrary to popular beliefs, girls don't strip because they like to dance; the strip because they like quick money. And she's no exception to the rule, no matter how different you may think she is.
Either look for a new favorite or accept the fact that you are going to be a 2nd, 3rd ... whatever alternative to her.
If you could be just as happy with another dancer, then that is excellent advice. I'm old and it never worked for me. Most of my buddies, however, are pretty much happy with anything. I don't even think they need for the dancer to be female; the old a hole is a hole mantra or the looks are irrelevant belief system.
I have seen many cases where the dancers get more possesive of a customer than customers do of the dancers.
Once had an ATF, spent half the night sitting with her BF for $0. When another dancer came by and sat with me, she (ATF)got so ticked that she left my $10 tip sitting on the rail.
The dancer who sat with me wasn't as pretty or as well proportioned, however, I'm glad she ended up with my tips+. I learned that pretty doesn't always show up on the exterior. By the time the night ended the new girl was much, much prettier.
Rich customer may be poorer than you, but perhaps she wants to play a game to get you thinking what a fantastic deal you're getting. Customers do get bored with dancers and she might be trying to add a little spice. Get your juices flowing.
Sorry to be a little disrespectful, but you smell fairly desperate. Dancers are using fairly adept at reading customers and playing games. Could be she was hoping you'd break and be "a man." Any scenario is possible.
I've had girls want to leave me and go pick up some supposedly easy cash cause they think I'll be there later. I ALWAYS say cool, go make your money darlin, it's a job. Then I'll find someone who wants to play with me. It's amazing how often the dancer will change her mind if she thinks she's gonna lose a sure thing. But if she doesn't, it really IS cool. It's all for fun for me anyway, right?
From what I can tell she made a good choice to leave you because she already made money from you, she doesn't want to lose the bigger wallet in her other customer, and most importantly your going to come back anyway so she isn't losing any business.
If you were putting so much effort into seeing her and getting no love then you should be on other dancer's PL. It's your money. Make her work for the money. You said she doesn't call you and that you guys haven't gone out. Just take it for what it is. If it was real, you wouldn't pay for her time. But you are paying for her time. Let her make her money. She gave you a quickie and a discount on service. Be happy.
No offense intended, but why would she tell you that she was sucking his dick or screwing him for the money? That is bad business and none of yours. Besides it doesn't matter anyway. It isn't going to hurt you unless he has a STD, but she can get that from the other men she is screwing in or out the club.
What we men fail to really see is that we should have the power because we are the customers. The customer always has control of the market. We set the prices and the services provided. When you pay for something or accept a level of service, then you have agreed to it.
When you give up your right to power by being at the whim of the "business", "provider", or "product" then you get what you get and that's the end of it. If don't like it, spend your time and money on a acceptable product or service.
Speak for yourself.