How much conversation do you preferfrom a dancer before she asks you for a dance?
1 = No conversation, she approaches you and immediately asks if you want a dance.
10 = She sits down and engages in a long, get-to-know-you conversation before even bringing up the possiblity of you buying a dance.
Where along the spectrum does your preference lie? For me it's a 2 or maybe a 3 if I have the time.
Also in the 6-7 range. We all know what we really want, and that's to have a hot girl grinding on our lap (among other things). But the conversation can be a fun part of the GFE as well.
It does also depend on the girl, obviously some (hell, maybe even many) can't hold a decent conversation to save their life. But when you find the rare one who you get on with like actual lifelong friends, you found yourself a keeper.
She can’t talk with her mouth full
If I'm already pretty certain that I'll be getting lots of dances with her, the answer is 10. If I'm less certain about whether or not I'll be buying dances, or at least a larger number of them, then the answer might be more like 3-5. I'm not going to take up a lot of a dancer's time unless I'm fully planning to spend an amount of money on her that is appropriate for the time that we've spent chatting. A conversation level of 1 or 2 is highly unlikely to ever get dances from me, but a level of 3 might be enough in some situations...
I am fine with a little or a lot of conversation before dances. So I guess that would be from 2-8. But I do like it when foreign girls try and speak to me in English, even when they screw it up. That is like an 8 effort but 2 result, and I appreciate the effort.
What I don't like is unsexy conversation during dances. I do not want to talk about my job or where I am from during the dance. Conversely, sexy talk during the dances is one of the best things a dancer can do to improve the dance.
1 - if she is down to suck or fuck - lets not waste time - do your job and get paid. I am not there to marry her or listen to her lies
It's really a mood thing for me, along with chemistry and interests. At one club, I wasn't in a mood for much, just hanging out and watching. A dancer sat down with me, tried for some small talk, asked me what I like to do.
Game.
When she asked me if I like a certain RPG system over another certain one (yeah, she was the one naming the systems, not me), I was hooked.
It depends on how I'm feeling at the moment, but in general, it's about 5 or 6 when I arrive and drops if I go a long time without dances. Of course, some of it depends on the girl. If she sounds like the girl I knew who sounded like she could do standup comedy, that will go up. If she's like the lady I met once who asked me how the Dallas Patriots were doing, that will go down.
^ Ah, yes...the Dallas Patriots...did Wayne Brady ever retire? 😜
Honestly, I can have both. Some girls I don’t mesh with personality wise, but they are good at hooking up and can get me off. So I don’t mind the minimal conversation there, just exchange pleasantries and go hook up. Others, I really enjoy their personality, and we get along, so I can talk to them for literally hours while getting drinks with them. These are what you call “favorites” in this world. Both are great.
2-3. I’m really not there for small talk.
0-1
Somewhere between a 4 and 8 depending on the dancer. Definitely not 10 and definitely not 1-3. Sometimes a 0 would do it if she looks like a 10 and I don’t want to blow my chance
Partially depends on how much time I have at the club on that visit, but generally 5 to 6
Depends on how long a "5" is defined. The majority I've chatted with some who like dogs a lot, I've never talked to one who understands the work I did in CompSci data network engineering, which is understandable as even my wife didn't understand and she was a triage manager at Oracle. It amazes me how well some know uncommon breeds. I've done dog shows since 1999 and I can smoke out someone who is just shining me on. I've chatted a bit with some who are working on a technical MS, and that works for me. I don't like "dumb bunnies" or stuck-up bitches.
So back to the "number" - doing a 10 minute chat I'd call a 7 (engaging) helps me connect with her, and she had best not have a 2-digit IQ regardless of how "hot" some may view her.
I hate when they only know 2 words in English. However, I also hate when a dancer is so chatty it distracts her from giving a good lapper.
I'd say a little info about her before the dance and dirty talk during is my ideal combo.
To me it's not a question of time it's a question of quality. I'd say I aim for a 7 level of engagement in as little time as possible. The only time a chat with me goes past a few minutes is if I haven't made up my mind about how hot she is, but I'm not ready to send her on her way. My criteria for hot is based on more than how physically attractive she is.
6 - Enough to develop a rapport and to gauge whether she is playful enough to make it worth the investment of time and money. Anything more than that leads to crossing the line into "she's a decent girl" territory, at which point it's difficult to get overly wild with her, as you begin to view her as a human being with feelings, rather than an object who exists for your enjoyment.
"Anything more than that leads to crossing the line into "she's a decent girl" territory, at which point it's difficult to get overly wild with her, as you begin to view her as a human being with feelings, rather than an object who exists for your enjoyment."
There's girls I've been seeing for years and I've spent countless hours with who are still getting ragdolled, drilled then sent on their way. But I've had a few cases where I had to put a dancer into the "not 304" category if I got to know her a little too well, so I get your point.
Depends. If she turns me on but I don't share her interests, the level of convos is as much as is needed for her to not feel creeped out.
I prefer to talk to them more during the dance than before, I'm very straightforward (but polite and respectful) about if I'm interested or not in getting a dance with them. I don't like to be a timewaster and I also don't wanna be that guy who sits in the club for a long ass time without spending any money on a girl. It's a bad look.
That's why I'm not crazy about Cubans, they may have nice bodies but I do like having conversations with the girl and seeing what she's interested in and what her life's like and everything, not in a creepy way, but just out of genuine interest. I don't know enough Spanish (all that junior high Spanish has all disappeared now) and they don't know enough English to really have a good conversation with them.
I think there is a correlation between the amount of conversation and the quality of the dance. A dancer willing to engage in a long get to know you conversation is a sign that she is trying to learn something about you and eventually will dance trying to make you a satisfied customer. The "wanna dance" girl is just interested in making a quick buck and doesn't care whether you like or dislike her dancing. The closer to 10 the better.
Like a 2 or 3. Don't like the girls who walk up to you and immediately ask if you want a dance (even if they're hot, I'll say no) and I also don't like having extended conversations with them either.
I realize I'm in the minority here but I don't go to strip clubs to "enjoy the company of beautiful women". I want tits and ass in my face and occasionally have another itch to scratch.
Small talk (hopefully asking/saying something I haven't heard 1000 times) and ask if I want a dance. We can talk a bit more after this if I didn't hate the dance.
Enough for her to tell me she wants to suck my cock and swallow my load.
If its the same bs, where you from, what do you do, why are you here? I get bored easily and just stop talking. But one that notices the drink, the shirt, some other thing like a fresh cut ... She gets more attention. If we find a shared interest great, we can chat as much as she wants. But the mindless drivel drains me, no matter how hot. So, outta 10 i like a 7.5 that can hold and guide a regular conversation
1…. I have not much in common with them except the club
Varies. From a about 2 to about a 6. Like others say, not much in common with a shallow 20 yr old, but some are interesting and good at pregame conversations. If the dance is good and they tell me they like my touch, we'll, there's a new fave
It can vary from 1 to 10 depending on if I want to be with her or not. Some girls I can’t get rid of fast enough, but I’d hang out with others all night if I could.
Depends on the mood and how hot she is of course but in general probably like a 6.5. I like a good convo but I don't need to know your life story and you don't need to know mine