Dancers introducing themselves but not asking for a dance.

I have had strippers, after I got to know them, tell me they are reluctant to initiate requests for lap dances for fear of being rejected. At the same time, some guys feel the same way. I used to be a little bit like this but I now understand there are always some girls at the strip club wanting to make money, even if it means doing lap dances with an older customer like me. If a stripper introduces herself to me and I find her attractive I will ask her for lap dances and she will usually agree. If I ask a girl up on stage or walking around for lap dances and she is either not interested or too busy she will say she will come to my table later and then not show up. I never sit and wait too long for a stripper. I pick another one or leave.

I've had this happen on dayshifts or when it's slow. Typically I chalk it up to fear of rejection or them assuming you will ask if you really want it. I've sat and had longer conversations with dancers too where they don't try to close the sale. Maybe they think they are playing hard to get? Lol I would understand if the conversation was awkward that they may not ask in fewr of rejection, but those conversations are the ones that still toss in a wannadance? at the end.

I've never had a dancer turn down a request from me. I'm under the average PL age though

I experienced it and later learned that a manager told her to come over and make some small talk. It wasn't her idea.

I think it was the manager's attempt to have dancers implement soft sell marketing through active listening and building rapport in a low pressure environment rather than having them use the "wanna dance" hard sell.

Sounds like a soft sell. I like it. There’s no reason for customers to have “fear of rejection”. The stakes couldn’t possibly be lower. I won’t chase someone who is ignoring me though, no matter how hot. Even if they agree, the LD will stink

About a year ago at Vivide in Atlanta I was approached by an unusual white dancer that I had never seen before. Probably a 7-8. It was her first day working there. She asked if I like to get dances or go straight to VIP. I replied that I liked to get to know a dancer a little before I commit to VIP. She got up and walked away and I never saw her again.

Wrong answer? Since I never saw her again I figured that she was just interested in some quick cash and didn't want to take time cultivating a regular customer.

A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, I sat down in one of my favorite strip clubs with my drink. Almost immediately, a very nice looking dancer I'd seen but never met before, and sat down in the chair next to me. She said something like, "I've seen you in here a couple times before, but I didn't think you'd like black girls, but figured I'd check anyway. Do you want to chit-chat a little bit first, or do you want to go in the back and get you dick sucked?"

She only lasted about a year before she moved out of state. I've visited her a couple times, and still talk to her. Still miss her.

See the bazillion posts complaining about "wanna dance" strippers. Strippers are strippers because life gave them lemons, and they're trying to make lemonade. We could pick at them less. Focus, you get to lightly grope on a beautiful woman, with no expectations that you'll have to cut her in on your real estate purchases. Just take the win. I've never had a stripper get offended because I asked to go to the money zone too quickly.

I find it is a lot more common these days that a stripper will only do VIP versus giving dances. This may have something to do with not being offered dances but not just blurting out “hey let’s go to VIP.”

There are some dancers who it seems like I have to always ask them for dances and I give it like 2 or 3 times before I just stop asking. It's not my job to ask dancers for dances. I don't mind it a couple of times because it lets the dancer know I like them, but after that it becomes obvious there's a reason why I'M the one always asking and not the other way around. There was one dancer like this last year where I kept having to ask and eventually I just stopped and gave up on her. Not worth it, in my opinion.

Being that I go to Mexico a lot it’s a different environment down there where a lot of times the girl does not approach and I have to approach. Of course, my lack of Spanish skills does make it more difficult for me, but it’s still worth it in the long run. In the USA i still get approached often.

My friend who manages strip clubs told me, best advice to stripper is to do that, then return so it's not a cold call. The dancer should follow up and ask for the dance the second meeting.

Sometimes, it's not immediately clear what someone's trying to communicate: youtube.com

Some guys get annoyed when a girl pushes dances. So, the girls need to walk a line between asking, and waiting to be asked. I actually don't generally consider dances with the "Hi, I'm Trixie..want a dance?" girls. I prefer to assess her likelihood of providing a good experience based on our interaction at the bar.