How many personal details does your CF, or ATF, know about you?

My ATF knew my first and last name, my phone number and my place of employment but not where I lived. I knew her first and last name and where she lived. It was an unusual stripper and customer relationship, though, because I knew her for seven years. My other stripper regulars would usually just know my first name. I would not ask their real name, where they lived or the specific type of car they drove. Only a stalker would need that and I never had that kind of obsession with them.

Yes we know each others real full names. We do OTC at my place. One of my past favs came to my place of employment, cause she needed an emergency advance.

I have not yet reached this level of interaction. And that's sad.

@docsavage - if you are stupid enough to believe that once your STRIPPER has your phone number and does not have your ADDRESS well that is a big LOL on you

I am asking you - why would you willingly give your stripper a real number? a real name? when there are so many ways to hide it? and IBBAINCNL - are you an idiot or just stupid?

Back in the '90s, a couple of dancers knew my first name (it's conventional spelling is so common, it's a joke, especially in this hobby), and they knew where I worked. Working retail in the Mall of America, it's a bit tough to not be seen. One of those dancers stopped by a couple times, said she saw me and just wanted to say hi. Another called me there, but nothing came of it. One particularly busy day, about a half dozen of them wandered through; only one of them said hey but I still had to wonder just what was going on.

One of those aforementioned dancers, by some really, really weird coincidence, -- honest it was! no stalking involved! -- she and I started going to the same school and taking the same program. We even almost wound up in the same class, too. I found out her real and full name from one email blast one of our teachers sent out. I never followed up on it, despite how tempted I was; I just wanted to respect her privacy and her life outside of the club.

I have had three ATFs over the past 26 years. They all knew my real name and my job and about my life. The first one never knew my address; the second one did. This new one knows a lot about me, but not my address. I have met their friends too. I would not make them ATF without some sort of trust.

All my favorites know, or knew, my real first name, as I have no reason to lie about that. I know I told a couple old favorites where I worked, but whether they were smart enough to figure out exactly where was is a mystery. None ever knew my address. Some knew the city I lived in, but not where my residence was.

@rawhide2 I do not think my ATF had my real address because there would have been little reason to make an effort to get it. All I ever did was go to her strip club regularly and buy a couple lap dances from her and meet her for dinner three times. All that was perfectly legal. Why would she have made an effort to find where I live? So she could tell my next door neighbor or apartment manager I go to strip clubs and drink beer and buy lap dances? I would not be worried about that. I did not even give her my phone number until after I had known her for six years and have never given out my phone number to any other stripper. Nothing bad has ever happened to me in fifteen years of going to strip clubs. It seems fairly common here for others to pass judgement on me without knowing anything about my specific situation. I try to avoid that with specific members here and also try to avoid calling other specific members here "stupid".

The only thing I share is my first name. I lie about my occupation and where I work. I decided a long time ago I wasn’t gonna share my phone # with dancers.

In the days of Ma Bell, your address and phone number were in the phone book, for all to see.

My ATF knew my name, address, real phone number, my mom's name, my dad's name, my kids' names, and a whole host of other stuff. She'd met my wife, and I'd met her husband. I'd met her kids, but she hadn't met mine. I know her kids' names and birthdays, her address, her husband's name. I know her parents' names and address. I went to her son's boot camp graduation. She would have been very, very proud of him.

My current favorite knows my real name and address. She knows I'm married with kids, but I don't remember if I've ever told her their names. She's even been to my house; I'd sold her a car that she had to come pick up.

That I may be jewish bassd on the decision my parents made soon after my birth.

Y’all scared of them lol? If they were serial killers they’d be behind bars by now, not walking around freely. Believe it or not, the majority of people are not insane serial killers. Nothing to be afraid of.

^ It probably isn't so much worry about them being serial killers, but America isn't really all that liberal of a country. If word got out that you were carousing with strippers (especially those in known extras clubs) and uptight, ultra-conservative bosses, coworkers, customers, and who knows who else got wind of it, it could damage, if not outright kill, a career and maybe a standing in the neighborhood or community-at-large.

@ilbbaicnl-That information is available still on various people search websites. For a fee, they will even tell you if somebody got arrested

I know of 6 that have been to my home when my wife is away.

@Ilovehotwhitestrippers don't kid yourself, it happens!

I've had strippers in my home, never had an issue although shit could happen but that's also possible with civie girls albeit likely to a lesser degree. Anyway I know a sharp stripper can figure things out if she wants to but I normally don't tell them anymore than my first name and address if they're coming over.

Never. Not worried about my personal safety so much but I couldn’t risk the potential for blackmail or harassment, or simply word getting out intentionally or unintentionally to my family, business, or community that I was paying strippers for sex.

Years ago (before COVID) I had a SB-type relationship where the girl knew my real name and she started following my daughter’s social media. This provided her with way too much insight into my life, and when she started asking for more money, she didn’t have to say it - it was implied that she would out me to my family if I didn’t comply. This was way too close for comfort and scary as hell. Something I don’t wish to repeat.

@mrsuntan: Holy shit lol. Well, I’ll say this. There isn’t a high likelihood for something like that happening.

On the other hand, it would be far less cool if your headless body was found in the house of your neighbor, who was mad that you painted your house a non-neutral color.

Probably too many details, but they're more concerned about what I know about them.

I try to stay on good terms with all the girls I see, even when it's time to move on.