Last Saturday night I went to a strip club. After staying around for an hour I decided I was ready to leave. The stripper I was most interested in was at the bar appearing to talk to a female friend hanging out in the club. Instead of waiting for the conversation to end, I walked up and asked her if she would do lap dances with me before I left. After we got back to the lap dance area, she told me I was the first customer who had ever approached her while she was talking to someone. I told her I never approach strippers while they are talking to another male customer but that appeared to be just casual chatting with a fellow stripper who was off work. It turned out that was exactly the case. What are your preferred situations for approaching a stripper at the club and what situations do you avoid doing that?
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Ive done that before, approach a dancer talking to another dancer or group of dancers.
Ive never done it with a dancer talking to a dude, though. Have you seen how ghetto some of the guys at these clubs are… i wouldnt want to start drama with some ghetto scum. Even if you fight back, theyd film it and try to post it everywhere and frame you as a racist. So i would never advise approaching a dancer talking to another dude.
But as you mentioned, dancer talking to a lady, no issues with approaching.
Lmao you clearly are a racist if its only black people you're fighting in your made up scenarios.
This is similar to another recent thread. I think it's perfectly fine to make eye contact, give a wink or a slight head nod indicating interest. Perhaps mouth "Stop by if you get a chance." Doesn't take much, because they'll get it. There's no need to go all in breaking into conversations and all.
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It's usually one of two situations where I approach them: 1) two or more are sitting together talking to each other 2) one of them is at the bar alone. Otherwise, tipping them should be enough.
I don't approach them. It's their job. I'll tip on stage and ask them to stop by. I will make eye contact when they are circulating.
Life is too god damned short to wait around for a dancer to approach me. There are multiple good reasons why she might now. I will definitely approach; I ain't gonna waste my time waiting on someone I want to talk to.
I never approach first unless its a regular. Agree with the others that tipping on stage and having a short convo should be enough for them to come by. And if it isn't, well its not worth wasting my time approaching them and asking for a dance. They may not be ready or could be taking a break. Why would I interrupt their screen time lol
Girls who are brand new, or girls who are just hot and in demand may never approach custies. I've walked up to a stripper who is standing at the bar talking to a guy and just started rubbing her butt. The guy isn't going to do anything. If it's a black guy he's probably a drug dealer or maybe her pimp and he's glad to see she's going to get some money. If it's a white guy he's just wasting her time. I've had girls thank me for getting her loose from the guy.
"And if it isn't, well its not worth wasting my time approaching them and asking for a dance."
It's worth the time. How much were you really going to get done in the 30 seconds it took to say hi? You're already at a strip club.
"They may not be ready or could be taking a break. Why would I interrupt their screen time lol"
Dude. Sometimes I have less than 30 minutes to get in, spot someone I want, meet the someone I want, negotiate, get what I want, clean up then leave. If making the first few moves is what it takes for me to stick the landing then I'm doing that. No question.
I get that. No shame in making the first move and if you only have <30 mins better make it count. I'm usually not in a rush and tend to think if they aren't working the floor, on their phone, poor work ethic, then their dance is going to reflect that
I usually wait for the dancer to approach me, though sometimes I'll tip them on stage, just to say hi or whatever. Gotta watch that eye contact though.
One time, a dancer on stage and I made eye contact (don't remember who started it) and grinned a bit (no, I don't remember who started that either), but after her set, she stopped by, made her pitch, and we were off to the back. Next thing I knew I was getting a lecture on tipping dancers on stage. That really wasn't what I paid for.
If I'm out of town, I don't mind approaching as much but yeah, it's their job regardless. Ideally, I sit on my ass with a drink in hand and the ones I've got my eye on come over.
If I can't have that, I should be able to tip them a bit more than usual while they're on stage to get them to come over.
Very rarely I'll just tell them to come find me after their stage set or ask if they're available for dances
If you think you want to get a dance from a dancer, you are doing them a favor by approaching them. Dancers need to sell dances. You get the girl you want, and she gets your money. It is win/win, or at least the kind of win that I am playing for in a strip club. The only exception to making a direct approach is when she is with another PL, and then you may need to be more discreet. However, I think that when you do approach, you may need to cut it at one and done, as the girl may not be as into you as one who approaches you.
But I do understand that part of the attraction for some guys is that the (beautiful) women approach the (much less beautiful) men, which can be a nice change from real life. If that is what you are going for, that is cool too. But I like good dances with hot girls myself.
If I tip and show appreciation at the stage, that should be enough. I hate to be too forward because it puts me at a disadvantage. Same reason when I was single I didn't want to push myself on anyone who seemed otherwise occupied or uninterested.