When you encounter a situation where a once high-performing service-provider begins to provide either lower or inconsistent service, how do you react? For context, assume that the service level, even with the reduced experience, is still better than that of others.
1 - Pull funds from her and move onto another provider, in revolt of the complacency likely caused by assuming you will continue to return, as a known regular.
2 - Continue to engage with her, despite the decreased quality of experience, since she is still better than other options. Continue to interact with her in the same manner as in the past, continuing to be kind and considerate.
3 - Discuss your dissatisfaction with her, hoping that she will get the message, and get back on track.
4 - Say nothing, and continue with her, but elevate encounter to treat her like a nasty c dumpster.
I've wanted to (and did, for awhile) step away, but find myself regretting it, as when I've diverted to others, I've compared her to the recent favorite.
Who is really being punished by stepping away from the high-quality encounters? Sure, she loses money (but only from ME, an there will be other guys lining up to replace that lost money).
Calling her out seems like a bad idea.
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You are really overthinking this. Just try someone else. If she wants to keep you as a client, she will work harder. If she doesn’t, it was time to move on.
Diminishing returns = Onto the next
There is something a little similar to this in marriages. In marriages it is fairly common after a few years for wives to become less eager for sex than the husband. They also start to let themselves go a bit when it comes things like maintaining an attractive weight.
A husband can get divorced but may lose some of his property in the divorce settlement and is likely to not get the children so may stay in the marriage. A stripper regular relationship is much simpler. Basically, any time you want you can end it with no problem. All females will be in an occasional bad mood. If I really like them, I will still keep seeing them. If I feel like they are showing too much of a lack of respect, I end it. I also end it if they gain a lot of weight, neglect their personal hygiene or stop showing up at work on a regular basis.
I made a comment above on this issue but there is another side to this. Long time customers feel like they should get special treatment. I feel that way myself. Occasionally, though, these demands for special treatment become excessive. I had a regular, a very pretty girl, who had some customers who would want her to spend long periods of time sitting with them. They were not giving her enough money, though, for her to make a living at stripping so she quit I was happy just to buy lap dances from someone so beautiful and had never been overly demanding with her. I have had other strippers tell me regulars would demand things that would get them fired if their strip club management found out about it. These girls want to please the customers but also want to keep their jobs.
It's tough to go wrong with 4.
It depends on the nature of the bad encounter. I knew once with one girl it was time to move on, but with a different girl, I knew it was just a bad day and she was back to normal the next time.
Agree 4 is always a good answer. But strippers are very competitive and possessive, especially when it comes to regulars and their money. So when your strip club wife gets complacent, start spending your time and money on the next best option. She’ll get the message.
Vote with your feet. Go with another dancer.
It's a 1 or a 2 for me. If she's still a superior performer to the alternatives, then objectively it seems like cutting off your nose to spite your face to walk away because she isn't as much better than the others as she once was, at least if the issues leading to her performance decline have nothing with you. However, if I felt that I could no longer be "kind and considerate", I'm moving on (Option 1). I'm not going to enjoy continuing to fuck somebody I no longer consider worthy of kindness and consideration. And 3 is just whack. If a plumber I used regularly disappoints me, I'm hiring another plumber. I'm not giving him a performance review like some HR functionary
There might be something going on in her life that's causing the erratic quality. That or she might be feeling sort of taken for granted and unappreciated. If, at some point, you were a favored customer, someone she actually looked forward to seeing, but now she's feeling like you're just like every other PL who just tosses money at her, that could suck the energy out of things.
Take a step back. Let her breathe a little, sort things out in her head. Don't start hitting up other strippers, especially not in front of her, because then, to her, you might become just another of those PLs.
Onto the next!!!
If she's really the best option and your favorite, then 2 is an acceptable approach... until you get fed up again. You could try 3, but it would have to be subtle. I would never try this as the fantasy is appeal here. I shouldn't be telling them to do things or it ruins the vibe. Otherwise move to 4 and tell her exactly what you want. If that fails then time for option 1 and onto the next one
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