Dancers Calling You by Your Name

Just a coincidence IMO. Theyll call you by the name you give them, but some of them really like calling clients love or babe or sometimes daddy.
Some even have a strict boundary of never referring to a client as daddy. Probably a sign to leave them or expect no extras

I've noticed it too OP. Some I think it's because they don't remember. But even my ATF will rarely call me by name.

🤔 I wonder if they avoid names because they don't want to screw up and call you by another PL's name.

My name.

Never given it a second thought. Don’t think it means a thing one way or the other

I've noticed with the latinas a popular term is bby. That's almost automatic for them at this point I think and probably carries very little meaning other than keeping it simple.

My TJ ATF/s mostly address me by my name when we meet in person, but on the contrary in texting / WatApp chats it’s always by Amor, Carino…….etc (they never seem to address me by my name)😁

When they text customers and dont use names its a mass text. In the club its because they dont remember your name or theyre being flirty

I’ve never been mass texted. I always text first and only to plan a date, so it’s 1:1. You’d think it would be more flirty and intimate to use your actual name, which is why I suspect they never do. I know these ladies know my name because it’s in their phone and I’m making plans to come to the club specifically for them

Except for one bartender and one dancer at Desires, no one knows my name in the past 50 years.

They may not save your name in their phone. Idk

I said in my OP, I literally see them type my name into their phone

A lot of dancers address me by my name. Many remember my name even though I don't theirs.

I almost never address them by name, it's always a generic name like honey. They mostly do the same. Really though, how often do you really use anyone's name in a one to one interaction? Especially in a text message. I mean, I know it's technically a business relationship but I'm not communicating with them that formally.

When texting the strippers in their 20's, most of them are abbreviating everything. It's not even love or baby, it's luv or bby. You really expect them to type out your name? And you type out their name? I might think they're using some sort of AI to automatically send out messages if I was addressed by name.

Also, do you care? I do not.

I always use my “stage “ name when I m in the club

Dolfan

“how often do you really use anyone's name in a one to one interaction?” Often, because it’s polite. People like to hear their name. I do it with everyone, regardless of gender or context. And yes, I’ll use a dancer’s stage name over text and in person. It’s not that I expect them to use my name, I said it was an interesting realization I just had. Most people in their 20s, not just women, are retards. All the dancers that have made me feel the best have been in their mid 30s. It’s the sweet spot for life experience without being cynical or jaded and still pretty. And no, I don’t exactly care. What I said was, “I find it curious. Is this part of stripper game to keep customers at arms reach, or is something else going on?” You seem to have an attitude

It depends on how well they know me. Never heard a Cuban call me by name.

Interesting topic. So, I've had a few dancers who I was at least somewhat close to. In the closest relationship I had, we used each other's real name constantly, but our conversations were extremely intimate and unfiltered. Talking to each other on that level, it wouldn't have felt right to either of us to not be using our real names. But she's the only one that I've been THAT emotionally connected to, and the next closest relationship after her was a considerable step down in that regard.

Interestingly, most of the other dancers on my list of all time faves used my real name either sparingly or hardly at all. I'd occasionally find random dancers over the years who would use my name frequently, but rather than it being indicative of any actual connection, it was just something they were doing as a sales tactic. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but it's not like I didn't know what they were up to...

In summary, dancers using my real name has run the gamut from "we were genuinely close" to "maybe he'll buy more dances if I use his actual name". The only conclusion I can draw from all of this is that I can't draw any conclusions. :)

The only thing I truly dislike is being called "baby". I think Janet Jackson said it best:

"No my first name ain't 'baby'...it's 'Janet'...'Miss Jackson' if you're nasty!"

I think most either call me Honey or Baby. A few do remember my name, although there was one I remember who always called me Danny Boy, which is sorta right, but just plain weird.

It seems like you do care. You're entitled to your preferences and opinions, they're perfectly valid. I'm merely offering my perspective and raising the point that dancers may have another perspective. I don't care, I don't see it as a sign of respect or anything along those lines.

I don't know if it's an age thing or more aligned to some other factor, but like I said, I'd find it much more unusual if anyone did use my name in text messages. By nature they're informal and addressed to the recipient, at least in my world.

Basically, what I'm suggesting is, it's entirely possible strippers attach much less meaning to it. If it's something you'd appreciate, I'd be willing to wager if you mentioned it to your favorite strippers, that they'd be more than happy to oblige.

All the Cubanas call me by the same pet name:
Wanna Dans.

I think most of us and the girls keep it simple...

Oy Papi...whats your name?
Papi
What???

I've noticed there are two schools of thought from strippers. Some take the classic Sales approach of trying to memorize names and use them, even if the guy doesn't buy dances the first time we meet. The other gives up on the idea and either admits they are bad with names or goes with pet names.

I think most try to learn their regulars names.

It's actually crazy to me when I see a stripper I had one conversation with and 3 months later she remembers my name. Doesn't make me personally spend more money though.

Maybe its a regional thing. Most dancers jere want to be called by their real names and use yours.

I'm always called by my name, unless she just met me, then it's "papi" or "daddy" or something like that.
I prefer my real name.

My ATF calls me by my real name. So does her close dancers at the club and I always call them by their name. None of them are 'kids' all in late 30's early 40's which is fine by me as I like the older/mature ones...

Everyone is Papi in the club.

Being called by my name is the exception, not the rule. But if you notice they rarely call coworkers and staff by their names. It's babe, sweetie, hon, and the like. I don't think their memories are all that great.

One drink for me?

Some call me "Delicious". Probably because I already came in their mouth a few times.

They call me by name.

"Babe" or "my love".

Re: using names in daily interaction
Non-stripper digression. I recall watching a Native American movie and noticing they used names all the time. Discussing it with a NA friend he explained that it's a real thing in their culture because direct eye contact is often borderline rude, so they use the name to indicate who they are addressing. I don't think strippers have the same reason, like I said this is just a digression. Personally, as a vanilla old white man, I hardly ever see names used.

When they ask my name I don’t lie, but I’d prefer they don’t know or use my name. Im in no way a public figure but my name a picture is in the media once in a while because of my work (more like “industry news”) and I don’t want some stripper making the connection if they happen across it.

If a dancer wants to know your real name, she'll just ask a bouncer/door person who checks IDs what it is. Many dancers are friendly with the bouncers, and a nice little tip (or not) will get them the info. Some bouncers may not give them the info, but there are plenty that will.

Most strippers don't care what your real name is anyway. If you're respectful and spend money, they'll call whatever you want. Most dancers do ask what my name is, and I just give them my first, never my last.

I had one favorite call me Mark (not my real name) every time I saw her. She said I just looked like a Mark, and I stopped correcting her after a while. Some dancers I've gotten to know well have given me their real names, but that's the exception, not the rule.

I heard one that called her custie Big, so I asked her if it was a reference to their wallet contents or their dick size, she said both.

Its not like they are using a real name for themselves.

When I am fucking their mouth i like to call the "dirty whore." It has a nice ring to it.

@baristafan
You start some interesting discussions sometimes, but if you’re genuine and not trolling even 50% of the time, you have some issues