A sad, but common, strip club tale
DickJohnson
Illinois
There is a dancer at a club I go to that I have known for about 4 yrs. This was her second job in life, at the time I met her she was only 18. She was pretty green when she first started and I liked that about her. Very attractive, sweet in some ways. I never gave her much money ever, but she always dropped by to say hello whenever she saw me. Recently we started talking on the phone, she asked for my phone number and started to call to talk about anything. I never really felt the desire to call her, I find the conversations boring and frustrating because she can go over and over the same things. nevertheless, i will talk to her if she calls and did come to have a caring heart for her because she is so lost in some ways. When I first met her she was just an innocent 18yr. old girl with no life experiences in careers or hardly any with men, just too young for much of that. Now, 4 yrs. later the skills she has acquired from working at the SC aren't too impressive. She is a great and effective manipulator. She knows what to say to a man when to say it in order to maximize her money gains. She is a prolific liar, I really don't know what to believe is true or not with most of what she tells me. She has absolutley no use for morals. She does extras ITC and meets customers OTC. She makes sure she gets maximum mileage out of a guy first before anything like that happens. Her drug use has gotten her into trouble but she still loves to do them. It's just really sad. Maybe if she had taken a different job 4 yrs ago she would be somebody else. she is responsible for who she is, but this is what the SC scene may do to a young girl. I have confronted her about much of this and she was contrite and listened, but she apparently has no interest in change.
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1) they live in "the moment" and can't make long-range plans for themselves or their families. (There are exceptions to this, but they eventually leave the business.)
2) Most don't have a decent/well-employed/or educated man in their lives.
3) or, they are supporting a drug habit.
(It used to be that many were working their way through school, but that has changed so much that I now believe it's statistically insignificant.)
Change one or more of the above variables and their lives change vary quickly. Now, we all benefit from this. So, is it sad--not really, it's just reality and they are simply trying to make a living. What's sad is if they don't have a Plan B or if people like us don't remind them to get one.
Unfortunately, I think it is too common. So do you protect the weaker members of society at the expense of other people's freedoms.
For example, many people love beer and it is probably even a health food believe it or not! :) For other people it leads to total destruction.
I believe many people would think Singapore is an ideal, but it is very unappealing to me what little I learned about.
I find that even true with dancers who are not into drugs, and it seems to a large extent more connected to their longevity in the business and knowing what works and what works over a number of years. What I've found even more interesting, is that many of these lies seem to operate on a subconscious basis, i.e they don't even know they're lying half the time. Now admittedly its not unusual for people in the sales related fields in general to follow this same trend, an example would be real estate agents, especially some of the more sucessful ones, the difference being that real estate agents get no benefit by romantic or sexual manipulations of clients, whereas with strippers we're dealing with a very unique profession.
To quote another ancient, once-respected source of authority, "There is nothing new under the sun."
Really, if you think about it, a girl has to be pretty fucked up from the get-go to seek out a job where she dances completely nude for strange men, up to and including grinding her pussy on their laps.
While dancing may have exacerbated her problems, I can promise she'd have been a messed up drug user anyway. In fact - and this may sound surprising - the VAST majority of fucked-up, drug using sluts with a history of abusive boyfriends in fact are NOT dancers... they are receptionists, cashiers, waitresses at Chilis, maybe even sometimes attorneys and professors.
Stripping doesn't create "bad girls" - it's the other way around!
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It's the bright side of a dark cloud.
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A) A family support structure to show you how life works (and)
B) Some sort of support or grubstake to get you an education or
profession.
If you don't have either of these, the odds are stacked against you. (What do you think Lindsey Lohan or Paris Hilton would be w/o the constant familial propping up, or w/o money ?? )
Also, it's hypocritical to judge strippers as hopeless losers without taking a good look at the mirror: what are you doing in a strip club with an attitude like that?