Your sitting at the bar, no seats left, girl approaches you to chat
Muddy
USA
She's standing, your sitting. Anybody else have an issue with this? It's just not right. I've been trained a certain way. I get up every time to stand with her or even offer to switch places. Even if I'm turning her down, I just walk somewhere else.
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Strips clubs and RL are different
A better question, in my opinion, is if you're sitting next to a guy who had a stripper approach, do you move to make room for her to sit with him. That one I'll usually do, especially if that guy was there first and I took the spare seat.
If a guy needs an extra seat thats his problem.
If not interested I remain seated and keep the convo to the bare minimum
But if I want her to stay, I get up and offer her the seat. Like Muddy, I was not raised to sit on my lazy ass while a woman stands there with no seat.
In one club I frequent, they actually prohibit dancers from occupying seats on nights when it gets very busy, obviously to accommodate paying dudes. The last time I was there when this happened, I offered a girl who I liked my seat. When the manager came over to scold her, I told him that it was my seat and I was letting her sit in it. He walked away, saying "Well, if you want to let her use your seat then I won't stop you." She was grateful.
Out at a normal bar, with a normal woman who’s not asking me for money, probably.
At a strip club, she can sit on my lap or lean against my spread legs.
At my age, if a hot young woman approaches me at a non-strip club bar, I'm just hoping she's not trying to spike my drink.
1. she knows you're a polite gentleman
2. she thinks you're a pushover and will do whatever she wants
3. she will not appreciate it in the least, and will view it as a sign of weakness
A friend, yes, of course I'll give her the seat. But you guys rushing to give up your seat are dealing with a different type of woman in 2024. Her boyfriend doesn't offer up his seat, doesn't say "please" or "thank you" and is more likely to call her "bitch" than call her by her name.
I know that doesn't compute with many of you, and that's a testament to your good character. These girls don't deserve your seat nor do they want you to offer it to them except to test you.