What do you call the following:
Follow up discussion, how does one balance dances/time/spend between their clear favorite and secondary favorite at their primary club when shifts overlap?
Nonexistent; Nonexistent; Nonexistent; and Noneexistent.
The bench.
Your second (or third) favorite at your primary club? why my 2nd or 3rd option of course
Your favorite at your secondary club
Your favorite at a club you can only get to occasionally? my fave at the moment
A dancer who you get dances from at your primary club, but isn't a favorite? wouldn't be this be the same as the first one asked?
here's one for ya: a fave that you can't exactly rely on when she's working or not at a primary club or otherwise even when she texts you a pain in the ass
They're all pretty much just strippers I like. It's not like I have a little notebook ranking my favorite strippers and clubs. I don't put a lot of thought into my favorite vs second favorite or any such nonsense. I tend to use the phrase a favorite stripper to mean basically any stripper I've seen a few times and enjoy.
As far as balancing time, when I know I'm going to the club in advance I'll usually text the stripper I intend to see. When I get there, I usually see her pretty much the whole time I'm there. When I just show up, I play it by ear. If one girl looks particularly good that day, I might favor her. If one is busy and one is free, I'm usually happy to hang with the free one. Usually the girls have different styles, so it'll often come down to what I'm in the mood for that day.
I might toss a girl I like but have skipped over on my last few visits a little tip, 20-40, and a quick pat on the ass or kiss on the cheek, just to make sure knows I still like her and encourage her to come see me if she sees me sitting alone. But that's the extent of effort I put in.
I follow the dolfan model of texting a girl ahead of time and spending most or all of my visit with her. The quandary of seeing someone else I’m interested in while there I usually just handle by discreetly dropping a hint that I’d like to see the second girl in the future. Works for me.
Why discretely and not openly?
I just call them strippers. I usually don't even have a favorite most of the time and I just enjoy the variety. Every few years I'll find someone who I connect with and enjoy enough to be my CF for a while, but I have never found multiple favorites at the same time.
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Because if I’m sitting with a girl with whom I already have history I’m not going to throw it on her face that I’m looking at someone else.
Got it, so in this case you are already sitting with your second favorite. That is a quandary!
Since we’re doing a deep dive into terminology, “ATF” gets misused a lot, and “current ATF” is inherently redundant. There are only ATFs and “former” ATFs. There are also CFs, of course. The CF may also be an ATF, but doesn’t have to be. The CF doesn’t necessarily supplant an ATF you are no longer seeing. I’ve gradually come to the realization that the SC life can be a lot less complicated (and complications are fun-killers) if I don’t have any “favorites” at all, as long as I am confident that the desired level of quality companionship will be available
My friend calls them all 'pumpkin'.
All this how to use terminology talk is going to trigger Wallanon when he sees it. Prepare for incoming…
Not to be a dick, but if we're being specific about terminology, Current ATF is contradictory or perhaps an oxymoron, but it's not redundant.
Dolfan: Since there can only be one ATF, the word “current” is redundant (I.e. superfluous)
Agree “current all-time” anything is oxymoronic as well
They're all favorites
Trixie, Sunshine.
I only go to one club (mostly).
This is a fascinating breakdown of dancer relationships! I appreciate you laying out these different tiers so clearly and inviting further discussion on spending and time management. Considering creating a spreadsheet to track your spending or setting time-based goals for each dancer might help achieve a better balance. Thanks for sparking this thoughtful conversation! papasfreezeriagame.io
