Mired in Overthinkistan: Mindfuck, or am I “That Guy”?

Grats. Resonates a bit, as I'd been mulling going cold turkey but have been waffling, despite having been away from this space for a while.

I tend to binge if I'm not careful. The kind of over-consumption where, when sustained, turns even big wins into big losses.

Now I just live vicariously through PM's and reading crap posted online.

Think my mind knows I need to do. Body just hasn't caught up, yet.

Again, grats.

While it's possible, even likely, that you were her top regular, I imagine there is more to her quitting than you pulling back on your visits.

It seems that she really wasn't into dancing in general. She seems to have enjoyed your company, and the ease at which she could generate income from you, meaning she was comfortable with you. For her, having to hustle/grind with guys with whom there was less chemistry is a grueling activity which drains her energy.

I would view it, for both of you, as an experience which got you both through the past 3 years with good memories and goal-achievement (money for her, rocks-off for you, and companionship for perhaps both).

The good news is that you didn't get sucked deep into stripper rabbit-hole territory where your emotions got you locked into something that is no longer aligned with what you want to be doing.

She's not quitting and you'll see her again.

^Ski^ “One day at a time” is a mantra I’ve heard used in other contexts that I’m appropriating for this situation

Sounds like you caught some feels for a sex worker. Which usually ends badly. But, in this case, due to some combination of her being a good person, and maybe mutual feels, you didn't get put through the ringer. I think, when you're older and wiser, you'll look back on it as a great memory. You'll come to think of any "extra" money you gave her as deserved generosity, and not a failure of your bargaining skills.

Yeah man I’m always turning the page. Sometimes I want to re read stuff. Just keep moving grooving

ManuelApe… lemme give you some rick wisdom. If you think you’re mired in Overthinkistan you are indeed overthinkin’ things.

As a rick, yours truly is one of the most intelligent beings on the whole frickin’ planet. Therefore, you might think that this rick is always overthinkin’ things. Not true. Just throw something out there and I can tell you whether I like it in a nanosecond. For example:

Kicking ass and takin’ names = excellent! Takin’ ass and kickin’ names = the kind of shit Skifredo would do Jack = good stuff Stylin’ suits = good by definition. If they sucked they wouldn’t be stylin’ Tesla with rick mode autopilot = good shit Tesla from the factory = needs autopilot reprogrammed to include rick mode The System = most brilliant work since the frickin’ theory of general relativity (Einstein is an honorary rick, don’t ya know)

And - most important - sexy females = rick approved. ROAR!!!

It’s not overpaying if it’s worth it to you. Who gives a fuck what other people are paying? More often than not, we have to compromise something— looks, GFE, personality, availability, price, types of acts — to get the rest of what we want. You had it all and you’re questioning it because she held onto the club just to see you? I think that’s nuts. If you’re ready to move on because after 3 years it’s run its course or you want to cut back, fine, but don’t ruin 3 years of good memories. Sounds like you and she should just do the occasional OTC meet.

You're way overthinking it.

Maybe you were paying above market, but so what? It sounds like you received a good ROI for it, including consistency and her willingness to accommodate your schedule. Those are rare commodities when dealing with strippers, who are transient and unreliable by nature.

@rickthelion: Great fucking post, which of course is nothing more than we expect from a rick.

Except the Tesla stuff, ugh. This rick ain't drivin' something that has to be plugged in first. Besides, they drive way too quiet - it's only sporting to give the other hairless apes a fighting chance when driving in rick mode. 😉

Here’s the epilogue nobody asked for to my moody ruminations about cutting off my last long-term ITC fave. When I told her over 5 months ago, she immediately told me she was quitting dancing anyway, so I wondered if she was just trying to mess with head. Turns out she wasn’t Got a text out of the blue from her a couple weeks ago, just checking in. Brief exchanges about what was going on in our lives led to her suggesting we get a drink sometime. So our schedules cleared and we had that drink, and she told me that the last day I saw her in the club was her last day in the club. We then moseyed across the way to a conveniently located hotel ( thanks dayuse.com). After, she remarked how good it was on a bed (and here I’d been thinking three years of doing it on a bench was sublime). So, from the ashes of a defunct ITC relationship with a now-former dancer, the Phoenix of a promising OTC gig has emerged. And I think I’ve established enough parameters to keep things under control

I'm confused now whether rickthelion is doing parody or homage.