Does your wife/girlfriend know or care?
SammyGold
New York
Thursday, April 17, 2008 1:45 PM
I imagine the topic has come up before but I couldn't figure out how to search the discussion board. I'm just curious how many people are married and how many wives know (or care).
I'm married with two young kids. I talked to my wife about my "hobby" before we got married. Bottom line is that she doesn't really care as long as I'm discreet, don't let things go too far, don't make a habit of it, and she doesn't get "(not) stiffed" as a result. It's basically don't ask don't tell and she trusts me to stay in bounds.
I certainly don't go to SCs as much as before I was married, once every few months if that - maybe even once a year. I'm not into extras, I'm not comfortable with that myself, but I do like to get my money's worth out of the occasional LD (we didn't talk much about LDs, but I'm probably pushing the envelope a bit with those). Personally, I'd be comfortable going even a little farther with an occasional HJ especially when there's a dry spell at home, but that would clearly be going to far for her and I can respect that. With two young kids, though, we've been having an all out drought lately and so we might have to revisit the topic before long.
This week she and the kids are on a trip and so I've had a chance to sample the local cuisine. Coming from RI to upstate NY, the SC scene is a lot more tame, but good enough for my purposes (see my recent reviews). Maybe I'll take the trip to Sundowner in Niagara at some point, but I stayed with the local clubs this time since it was my first real chance to check them out.
What has surprised me most is that my tastes have changed from my bachelor days. I find I'm more into sensuous contact than all-out grinding. Referring to a different thread, I have no desire to cum in my pants. Having been offered that opportunity recently, I realized that I'd really rather have a three song make-out session with heavy petting (too bad kissing isn't more common). I guess what I'm really after is a dose of female energy when the well at home is temporarily running dry.
Anyway, just curious about what position everyone else is in.
Sammy
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