Favorites Getting too Comfortable / Keep Them in their Place
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We all enjoy our regular girls, but I sometimes find that girls get a bit lazy after a certain time.
1 - Thinking they don't need to grind as hard.
2 - Thinking we are happy with just talking.
3 - Thinking they can demand more money.
We need to keep these girls in check.
1 - If their dances become less intense, find a way to nudge them back to their old ways. Even outright tell them what you want. If she used to give good grinds, and now she is air-dancing, be sure she knows you expect the prior grind style.
2 - If she plops down beside you, thinking she will get away with talking instead of grinding, tell her you came for a dance.
3 - Remind her that long-term loyalty is a better approach than a few more dollars for today.
Of course, if it's your mood on a certain day to have less intense dances / more talking, then go for what you want. The point is that it's important to not allow girls to settle into the easier sessions, merely because you requested a less intense session the last time.
As the sources of their income, we control the narrative. THEY don't choose if/how they grind....WE do. Certainly, we won't force a girl to do anything beyond her wishes. However, we have the ability to choose girls that align with our interests. Cut her loose and spend your funds on other girls....ones who allow you to decide on the agenda for the day.
1 - Thinking they don't need to grind as hard.
2 - Thinking we are happy with just talking.
3 - Thinking they can demand more money.
We need to keep these girls in check.
1 - If their dances become less intense, find a way to nudge them back to their old ways. Even outright tell them what you want. If she used to give good grinds, and now she is air-dancing, be sure she knows you expect the prior grind style.
2 - If she plops down beside you, thinking she will get away with talking instead of grinding, tell her you came for a dance.
3 - Remind her that long-term loyalty is a better approach than a few more dollars for today.
Of course, if it's your mood on a certain day to have less intense dances / more talking, then go for what you want. The point is that it's important to not allow girls to settle into the easier sessions, merely because you requested a less intense session the last time.
As the sources of their income, we control the narrative. THEY don't choose if/how they grind....WE do. Certainly, we won't force a girl to do anything beyond her wishes. However, we have the ability to choose girls that align with our interests. Cut her loose and spend your funds on other girls....ones who allow you to decide on the agenda for the day.
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I prefer to not scold dancers if they get complacent. Depending on the situation, I've said things like "Hey, you know what I'm in the mood for? I'd like [X]." Or, "You seem [quiet/low energy/not yourself] today. Is everything okay?" Something like that will either tip them off without being confrontational. If that doesn't work, then it might be time to move on to a new dancer. Almost all of these relationships are temporary.
Asking for more money is a whole other thing. If that happens, then you chat politely about what you expect for the money. If you can't reach an agreement, then you go find another dancer. Dancers get to set their rates, and we get to decide if we want to pay them.
So far this is not my own limited experience, the mindset is they see every moment as one to make every dollar right now. But why wouldn’t they? That’s going to be how they earn with the vast majority of customers they experience.
While maybe that is not others’ experiences, that is mine so far. But your statement is correct for the regular, as uncommon as that may be for her. She has left very solid money on the table trying to hustle this moment too hard.
I think that's gonna be a tough sell for most of these girls. Aside from the fact that many of them would outright say, based on their own experience, "no it doesn't" or "not worth it."
For many of them, "long term" means a guy who wants to hold her down and get more for less over that long term. Not worth it unless what he wants is within her limits. For many, it's not.
Yes, it's not worth it unless maybe they're both open for extras. For normal lap dances, don't do it. One of them is almost guaranteed to nearly just be standing/sitting there most of the time or air dancing at best.
As a paying customer can you influence what they do? Sure. Control the whole deal? The girls who will go along with that are usually the ones you don't want to keep seeing.
The advantage to seeing the same girls is some issues can get worked out over time. I figured out one girl I thought was just being a pita not doing what I was asking was actually game but terrible at just about everything. I hate the idea of training a girl on my own dime, but she looks so good even with mediocre technique I've decided to give it more time.
The other day I let her try something she'd been practicing and it was way better. Before you guys get the wrong idea, she's in her mid 20's. And not lazy. I can tell she's trying, but some hot chicks can get by just laying there getting drilled I suppose and literally don't know how to fuck.
I never experienced that with my favorites. I experienced just the opposite. They would go out of their way to make sure I enjoyed my time with her. Once a favorite refused to take a tip after a dance. She said that she was happy I liked her dance. And she also allowed me to take some liberties during the dance.