What’s in a name?
FishHawk
The mustache makes the man
I have been thinking about this topic for a while. I thought now would be a good time to discuss our(PL’s) relationships with dancers while in the club. I admit my thoughts have evolved on this subject over the years.
What do we really need to know about the dancers we interact with in the club. I have had some dancers tell me a lot about their vanilla lifes. Some of it may even be real others share very little. I am willing to listen to whatever they want to share but I understand if they want their life outside the club private. I understand they use a stage name. There is no reason for me to know third real name. They may have a boyfriend, husband or girlfriend or all three. I do not need to know this. I don’t need to know where they live, if they have kids if they go to school or if they have a regular job. They might tell me these things but I really don’t need to know them. All I really need to know is how we relate in the club, how much cash do I need to have a good time with her and that’s about it.
I would be interested in the thoughts of others.
What do we really need to know about the dancers we interact with in the club. I have had some dancers tell me a lot about their vanilla lifes. Some of it may even be real others share very little. I am willing to listen to whatever they want to share but I understand if they want their life outside the club private. I understand they use a stage name. There is no reason for me to know third real name. They may have a boyfriend, husband or girlfriend or all three. I do not need to know this. I don’t need to know where they live, if they have kids if they go to school or if they have a regular job. They might tell me these things but I really don’t need to know them. All I really need to know is how we relate in the club, how much cash do I need to have a good time with her and that’s about it.
I would be interested in the thoughts of others.
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What messes this up for customers is when guys who can see a line and leave it alone have to contend with all the baggage and collateral damage the dudes who can't comprehend boundaries (or choose to ignore them) leave behind. Now when I see a dancer have a weird reaction I'm likely just to drop the whole thing because there's bunches of strippers who won't be a pain in the ass about a simple misunderstanding.
But it can also be a harsh reality. The girl realizes she can't make money. She maybe can't compete with other girls. A younger prettier batch of dancers comes along.
A customer can easily feel empty alone and broke after a night. Or even if satisfied. Home alone saving uo for his next fix.
I think to really enjoy a club. Just stay in the moment and don't think about it. Fake it for what it is. And realize it's gone once you leave the club. Don't chase the dragon.
The only time I care about her husband/kids/vanilla job or most other aspects of her personal life is if we are going to be meeting up OTC on a regular basis since those things would have to be planned around.
If I am going to develop a longer term business relationship with her and plan to see her more than a few times it is nice to get to know each other. Building a good relationship where you both feel comfortable talking to each other can be nice during these longer term CF type situations.
I think that some customers try to find out so much, and I don’t think that is good for the customer or the dancer.
I love the dancer names they create to sound like high end products - Chanel, Ferrari, Maserati, Remy. They are amusing. Those names don’t make me interested. I usually forget dancer names anyway.
I get to know my regulars very well and know all sorts of information about them like the name of their pet dog when they were a child. If you talk to someone over a period of a few years all sorts of subjects will eventually come up. I'm always unhappy when my strip club regulars leave. I accept, though, this isn't a lifetime career.
Thus my SCing M.O. doesn’t lend itself to getting into personal convos too-often – and I gotta say most of the time that dancers start telling me about their personal lives; I wish I hadn’t gotten into those details – I’m one to avoid drama including hearing about it; but some guys seem to enjoy hearing about the crazy-lives some of these girls live.
I guess for the guys that are into faves and repeating w/ the same girls for months on-end every time they hit the club, I guess it’s more-common to get into non-SC related convos – but for me, strip-clubs have usually been about getting away from “real life” for a couple of hours and I really don’t have any desire to be talking about real-life when I’m in the club; thus I usually keep to plain convo often related to the club or strip-clubbing in general such as what clubs she’s danced at; how long she’s been a dancer; etc.
Like I always say on here, all intel is good intel. When a girl decides to share information about herself with you, whether real or not, almost everything she says tells you something about her and how she thinks.
For me building "relationships" is key to how I enjoy clubs, including my OTC adventures. I never probe or dig for personal details, but when you sit with a girl for a couple of hours - especially when the booze is flowing - it's amazing what some of them will share in the course of a natural conversation.
For you "fake name, rank and serial number" types I have no criticism whatsoever. Every grown gets to decide for himself how he spends his own time and money. But if my club experiences were really as sterile and "fantasy" driven as some describe on here (which they are not), I'd probably club a lot less.
I don't need to know anything. I'm also not entitled to know anything. And the same applies to the dancer.
This is just not true at all, this is how a ROB dancer would think and behave but ultimately a lapdance is not companionship, you cant take money from people then sit and talk and say you only paid for companionship. An escort can do that but even with an escort it’s considered a scam ethically even if she’s legally in the clear. Escorting is a legal loophole where people are officially paying for the escorts time, so she’s not obligated to do anything specific in that time besides spend it with you. But strippers aren’t escorts. They can have rules in their lapdances, but the lapdance still has to be performed. They aren’t selling companionship.
I dont give dancers my full name or real number, and I don’t expect them to give me their real information either. It’s the same with escorts. I don’t see why their real name would be needed for anything, unless someone wanted to try to stalk them or look up their social media. But lots of dancers also have instagrams which don’t have their real name and are public.
Nobody lives forever.
I agree with this. I like to chat with the dancers and at least ask basic questions to get them to talking. And they will share what they want you to hear because most people like to talk about themselves. I live in a major tourist/artsy town so almost no one you ever see are natives so I usually ask where they are from, how long they've lived here, why did they move here, etc. I'm not the best conversationalist going so it helps me mostly I guess break the ice with them then see where it goes. And I'm fine when the conversation lags and am more than ready for the "so do you want to get some dances?" But that's just me. I've known guys who will be in VIP within 3 minutes of entering the club and I'm sure they enjoy the experience as much as I do. Something for everyone I say.