Not sure what to do about a dancer who disappeared

I would be ok if she didnt wanna talk to me But she obviously did high mileage dances And i just cant believe she disappeared I got one dance with her and knew its the best, she’s something special Its just not a fair way for thinfs to end. She could refuse to do dances, refuse otc, and its all good, but its just not fair she disappeared

I dont get why these managers dont even check up on dancers who dont show to work for a month I mean she told me shed be there later that week now shes been gone a month. Manager claims “she never showed up again” Based on her situation with the boyfriend it wouldnt be surprising if the boyfriend found out and did something to her

I dont get why managers dont at least call to check up on people.

I cant believe it man Her dance was just the best And she’s the hottest brazilian out there She may have been beat by her boyfriend or something and nobody cares

If managers had to track down every dancer who disappeared, they would probably have to hire more managers. This is not the most stable profession.

Sounds like you need to get the book Stalking For Dummies.

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Whats that mean grand

Its not about stalking

The thing is she was apparently planning on being at the club yet suddenly disappeared over a month

Whats the best approach to this, should i give the manager my name and number and ask him to give it to the dancer?

That way if dancer is still looking for money or otc she can contact me?

She made $1000 her first night, thats way too much to suddenly quit. SHes an immigrant, no college degree... etc

What you should do is move on and respect her decision to move on to another club, area, and or line of work. And recognize that she might have made enough money to take off work for a while, and she'll be back when she's ready. If she wants. And realize that the manager might know exactly where she is, but is respecting her privacy by lying to you. Something he has to do because your obsessions seem potentially dangerous.

Also, learn when to use a period instead of a line break. Perfect sentence structure isn't required, but your writing is unintelligible.

@BigThirdEye

There are men out there that become obsessed with dancers and stalk/harass them and the end result is not good.

Let me ask you a few questions, before I tell you what you should do.

How old are you? Where are you from originally? What is your line of work? How much disposable money you budget for the hobby?

Do you know Brazil is a country that was created by the Portuguese when they colonized that area of South America and was inhabited by numerous tribal nations.

Brazil population is made up of a mixture of descendants of European/Portuguese who described themselves as White; mixed people of brown complexion identified as Pardo (brown), and of course descendants of Black slaves. And small numbers of East Asians (amarela/yellow) And the surviving descendants of the aboriginal people called Amerindian.

Dolfan, she didnt move to another club. Theres no other clubs in tje area.

She only worked for one day, which was also her first day at work. $1000. I doubt she would never come again when making that much.

Additionally keep in mind, she told me she would be back in two days. Its very possible the managee is telling the truth.

When she didnt show up for two weeks he told me she didnt send him her schedule. Now, hes saying she just never showed up at all since that day.

Given her rule breaking in the dances it’s possible she got fired for breaking some rules. I guess anything is possible, and she coild have went back to brazil.

If the manager is telling the truth, it doesnt sound good. This dancer apparently hid her dancing from her boyfriend. Its possible something happened.

And yes stalkers are out there. But what if I gave tje manager my name and number and told him to give it to the dancee? Then it’s purely the dancers choice whetjer she thinks im a creep or whether she wants to reach out. Its possible she may have a lot of otc stuff arranged already and that’s why she hasn’t been coming in. Its possible she could be an escort, i havent looked at all the tryst listings in my area.

A true stalker would be trying to get her phone number, address, work location, family info, etc. I’m pretty certain she would be into OTC stuff and even bareback otc stuff. By him giving her my number, it gives her the choice and doesnt expose any of her info unless she wants to

In Brazil, the term "pardo" is commonly used to refer to Brazilians of mixed ethnic ancestries.

Pardo Brazilians represent a diverse range of skin colors and ethnic backgrounds with a skin tone darker than white and lighter than black.

You don't do anything except move on. If she'd wanted you to contact her, she'd have given you her contact info or asked for yours.

Georg, that wasn’t possible

She only worked one day, i gor a dance with her, then she got 2 hours VIP with an elderly couple There was no possibility to talk or anything She told me she would be nack later that week It was her first day dancing she made $1000+

Apparently she was dancing secretly from her bf Theres all kinds if possibilities why she disappeared though

Anyone making that much money dancing on a mondau night would likely be hooked especially a poor new immigrant

It is my failt for not immediately asking for her number after the dance

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Third eye, it sounds like you haven’t been in the game very long otherwise you would realize this is a pretty common occurrence. 1 million things could’ve happened from she was lying about the amount of money she made or being an immigrant or the couple who paid her $1000 hired her as a nanny to live in. Or maybe she just heard from the manager there was some creepy guy kept asking where she was and why didn’t she come in. Or maybe she got deported.

623 i havent but, i would think a poor new immigrant would get very hooked if its her first day dancing and makes $1000 on a monday night

I doubt she would willingly quit, and she did make that money cause i saw her do the VIP.

She wasn’t lying about being an immigrant. Those things are just unlikely

Yeah it is possible they hired her as nanny, or she ran back to brazil, or her crazy bf found oot and did something. If she was dancing secretly from the bf that could be potential trouble

The creepy guy asking where she was, occurred after she had already disappeared for weeks, so it wouldn’t be related to her disappearance.

You are right the possibilities are endless. I got the impression she would be very open to doing OTC and even bareback given her licking behavior and pussy touching. I think her dance was like the 3rd dance id gotten from anyone.

But you are right, I doubt pushing the manager to contact her will do anything. If she really needs the money, and is here, and able to come than she would

'Not sure what to do about a dancer who disappeared'

Well 3rdeyedougster, she knew what to do about you, that's why she disappeared.

BTW,why don't you just drop the icey and 3rdeye BS and post as yourself dougie?

TheeOSU idk what that means friend...her disappearance wasn’t related to me. Btw this dancer is like the top tier dancer, probably across the entire country. You’d be going crazy over her if you saw her

TheeOsu, me and icey have had numerous disagreements, youre mistaken... Im not dougster and icey isnt either.

"me and icey have had numerous disagreements"

It's all part of the act isn't it dougie!

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"Im not dougster and icey isnt either."

Just yesterday and also previous days you were saying icey was dougster in your flip flop trolling, you're both dougie aliases.

So many red flags in the OP's comment. I dont know much about you, but its common for brazilians girls to dance a few times without telling thier husband or boyfriend to earn some extra cash.

I'm just going to assume that you are drunk and horned up and not thinking straight. Take accountability for this loss and stop looking for her. 1 its stalking. Dancing isnt a long term career for many girls especially brazilians girls. 2 continuining to pine for a girl when someone told you she has a boyfriend is pure lunancy. Your time would be best spend taking amtrak to boston or jersey where brazilians are common. And before than working on your ability to take down numbers for future fun. IF she was that much fun

• you should have taken down her number

Brother if she had options she wouldn't dance in a club in Baltimore. The hottest dancers in the DMV either move to NY or the clubs in DC/Virginia.

She danced and changed her mind, next time ask for her Facebook/Instagram as way to keep in touch and not be creepy. Believe it or not, your angel/snowflake is getting fucked right now by multiple people and she doesn't care want your concern. Take the loss and move on, we've all been there.

This forum has the largest collection of experienced strip club goers on the internet. It has been my experience that when I start a discussion asking a question and the replies form a consensus then that consensus is usually wise advice. The consensus evolving here on this discussion appears to be you should move on to another stripper still working in one of the clubs you go to. You don't have to take that advice but before arguing with others you need to spend some time seriously thinking about the advice you were given and not just dismissing it because it goes against what you want to do.

I am guessing she met some really weird dude who asked her too many personal questions and was too scared to return to the club in case he was there looking for her.

Jacks4thson, already debunked before my friend. I didn’t ask her any personal questions at all, other than when she would be at the club again. And no, the club has safety in bouncers and managers, so girls who make $1000 on a weekday don’t stop coming to the club just because some creepy guy is there. But hey man, if you want, im almost 99% certain you look and act more creepy than me and probably follow dancers to their cars. Tell me which personal questions i asked her. When she’s working? Lol.

Docsavage, the problem is this is the internet and some people are desperate to troll, or just need to take anger out. I didnt take the time to type oit every little detail, and many dont appear to be reading the post either. I am already seeing a different stripper.

“Brother if she had options she wouldn't dance in a club in Baltimore. The hottest dancers in the DMV either move to NY or the clubs in DC/Virginia.

She danced and changed her mind, next time ask for her Facebook/Instagram as way to keep in touch and not be creepy. Believe it or not, your angel/snowflake is getting fucked right now by multiple people and she doesn't care want your concern. Take the loss and move on, we've all been there”

Tincan... what the hell are you talking about? I literally admitted, given her behavior in dances im pretty sure she does OTC. I didnt ask her about otc back then. If she has a boyfriend, maybe she doesnt do otc. Tincan, i wouldnt be so certain she changed her mind. Its more likely that she got deported, fleed back to brazil, or her boyfriend stopped her. I doubt an immigrant making $1000 on a monday quits after one day

“So many red flags in the OP's comment. I dont know much about you, but its common for brazilians girls to dance a few times without telling thier husband or boyfriend to earn some extra cash.

I'm just going to assume that you are drunk and horned up and not thinking straight. Take accountability for this loss and stop looking for her. 1 its stalking. Dancing isnt a long term career for many girls especially brazilians girls. 2 continuining to pine for a girl when someone told you she has a boyfriend is pure lunancy. Your time would be best spend taking amtrak to boston or jersey where brazilians are common. And before than working on your ability to take down numbers for future fun. IF she was that much fun”

What are the red flags...? What does that even mean. Yea i mean on here many claim brazilians dance and cheat etc. i dont have personal experience there. Its not really stalking to ask if she does otc or ask when she’s working. Stalking would be, trying to find her address, tryig to find where she shops, works out, hangs out etc, trying to get her number, etc. wondering why she disappeared isn’t stalking either friend. I dont know what you mean by pining for her, i wanted dances or otc from her, not a relationship...i think people are assuming too many things based on their experience, or assumptions, or something else. Some of these responses wouldn’t happen without assumptions

I am sorry my friend but i am way too wary, smart, whatever you want to call it, to enter into a relationship with most of the dancers i have seen...

If what she said was true, many things could have happened. She could have decided to go virtual only. She could have decided that, despite the money, this isn’t what she wanted. She could have decided to dance elsewhere (driving 100 miles isn’t uncommon nor is flying to places like Vegas). She might have died or gotten ill. Or had a customer she knows irl recognize her. You will never know.

Let it go.

I have had some amazing conversations with some dancers. Some have shared deeply personal information while others haven’t. Some have their shit together while others don’t. Some have shared contact info while others haven’t. The point is: this is all voluntary. If she doesn’t show up, she doesn’t show up. You didn’t have a personal connection with her.

Kid you are either autistic or a complete idiot, I'm leaning towards the latter. Move on, someone else is fucking her. If you're so desperate to find her, call the Brazilian embassy in DC and let them know you are looking for your special snowflake whose name you don't even know and who's boyfriend is allegedly abusing her.

Tincan I have, i dont know why you call her a snowflake. Her fucking has nothing to do with her dancing unfortunately.

Tinczn how do you know she’s getting fucked by multiple people. You mean her clients? Maybe she only fucks her boyfriend? Comon brother, you seem Too angry. I cant go searching for her thats creepy!

Another thought, I doubt she would move to another club or anything, she just moved to the area. Doubt shed quit. It has to be her boyfriend or her being deported or going back brazil etc. another dancer already told me, she comes in randomly every few months possibly cuz of her bf

Tincan, wtf brother! I just checked your profile and your posts are all about naming specific dancers and asking people if theyve seen them! But you’re here advising me, on a thread where i didnt even name the club or dancer! What the hell brother! Lol...

You can't try to track them down. Get to know them when they come into your space, and maintain contact if they want that.

SJG

Good tips as always, SJG!

In My Organization the people will all know each other and be able to keep in touch long term. But right now this is just a small handful of people.

SJG

SJG, cant wait for the launch of the Organization! Id be willing to sew my asshole shut, if that’s what it takes to join!

No sewing your asshole shut. Just keep in touch.

Start reading some philosophy.

SJG

" In My Organization the people will all know each other and be able to keep in touch long term. But right now this is just a small handful of people."

A handful for sure, Rosie Palm and her 5 sisters, Lol!

Just a handful of people, good people who are working to build a future. THis is to be my post marital life.

SJG

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A handful for sure, Rosie Palm and her 5 sisters, Lol!

SJG

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Simple move on.

Bang, good tips

SJG what do you mean You posted “Red” And a link...

SJG, id be willing to plug my asshole if needed, for the Organization.

Really common. Dancers only go to work when they need money. She must have made enough to take a vacation. I did so well in Phoenix that I went to Vegas on 4day vacations 5 in 3 months.

Mandy you must have been a very successful dancer!

Dancers knows their shelf life and might have got an opportunity to settle in another job. In those situations lot of dancers disappear all of sudden. So, it is very natural. Move on bro.

There was no shelf life issue, hottest dancer there and made over $1000 on a monday

If no shelf life issue and a very hot dancer, then may be bad club management could be reason as well. Who knows, they might have pushed her to adjust with them after club hours to continue working there. She might be dancing elsewhere.